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Scorpio women love Aquarius men

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A funny trend I have noticed in Hollywood is powerful, gorgeous, desirable Scorpio women falling head over heels for goofy Aquarian men. Julia Roberts is happily married to cinematographer Danny Moder. Demi Moore married her young lover, Ashton Kutcher. And Rebecca Romijn recently walked down the aisle with longtime partner Jerry O’Connell.

In astrology this is not a traditionally advisable match, for these are two fixed signs that are square to one another. And at first blush, these are not the type of men you would think a sexy, controlling Scorpio woman would be interested in. They were not necessarily the most popular guys in high school, they are quite a bit off from the ‘norm’ and have strange habits. Don’t ask me what they are.. only them, and presumably by now their Scorpio wives, know what I’m talking about. But let’s face it, they are brilliant. Again it is possible that only their wives see this, but the astrologer sees it too. These men are visionaries, they are creative and talented, seemingly on an entirely different level than everyone else. They are inventors. They see the possibilities and then make them happen. They are mad scientists, in the realm of film and television in this case. And clever Scorpio ladies are just the type to spot this kind of talent a hundred miles away and hone in like a guided missile.

After all Scorpio ladies have been through their fair share of dissapointment. It is absolutely worth noting that all three of these women have been married before. Julia to fellow Scorpio Lyle Lovett. Demi had been married twice, briefly to a random musician, and then to Pisces Bruce Willis. And Rebecca was married to Leo John Stamos. These are more the type of men you would expect a Scorpio lady to fall for… passionate Scorpios, sensitive Pisces or brazen Leos. And they did fall for them, long enough to realize that this was not their perfect match. They each needed someone just as intelligent and interesting, but more aloof and unconventional, like an Aquarius. Scorpio women are, truth be told, very unconventional.

It is also worth noting that all three of these ladies have their moon in fixed signs as well. Julia’s moon sign is Leo (of course). Demi is a full moon baby, her moon being in the sign opposite her sun, Taurus. And Rebecca is a double Scorpio. These women have very fixed personalities. They know what they like, they know what they don’t like and they know how they want their lives to be, and they gracefully, sometimes forcefully, will it into being. I have a theory about fixed sign people, especially double fixed sign people, that they secretly have difficulty respecting non-fixed sign people. It is like they are so set in their life and their path and their convictions (only sometimes in a negative way) that they see other, especially more mutable types, as entirely flakey, wishy washy and weak. While Aquarians are unpredictable, they are very fixed in their unpredictability, and that is ok by these Scorpio ladies. (Again if you are not an Aquarian man or a Scorpio woman who loves one, it is likely that this will make no sense to you at all.) More obvious is the fact that Aquarian men are usually happy to stand in the wings and let their ladies call the shots, and this is very, very important to a Scorpio woman.

Another beautiful Scorpio actress has also married an Aquarian man. Aishwarya Rai, the crown jewel of Bollywood and arguably the most beautiful woman in the world (Julia Roberts herself is said to feel this way) married last April Bollywood scion Abhishek Bachchan. Aishwarya has neither been married before, nor has her moon in a fixed sign (her moon is Capricorn) but having had her pick of the subcontinent and settling on an Aquarian, she most definately belongs to this illustrious category.

947 Responses

  1. I’m an aquarius with moon in scorpio two fixed signs. I dont like relationships with flakey, wishy washy and weak people. I’m oddly attracted to scorpios but I’ve tried a relationship with a scorpio and it went bad very bad. I am now with a mate who is gemini with a scorpio moon like me it has lasted 15 yrs.


  2. I am a Scorpio woman, and have always been into Aquarius men. They are the funniest and sweetest, most sensitive guys around. They have more respect for women than any other sign.


  3. I too, am a Scorpio women, and for some reason, have ALWAYS been attracted to Aquarius men. I don’t know what it is.. Im in a relationship with one right now and for the past 10 months have been the best/worst of my life. lol. I know i deserve better, but im just too strongly attracted to him.


  4. I’m a Scorpio woman who is attracted to air signs because I have Libra Rising, Libra Moon and Venus in Libra. I’m currently involved with a Libra with an Aquarius Moon, so this post makes some sense to me. He’s very brilliant, and very unconventional. Sometimes it drives me crazy, but he never bores me.


  5. im a scorpio who is into an aquarius guy right now and i need to know how to get him. even though i know the relationship will be a trainwreck…


  6. on March 5, 2008 at 3:59 pm | Reply brightstarlights

    hmmm… I would start by asking him to tell you all about his job. This is sure to be an unusually fascinating, strange tale even if he has a ‘regular’ career. And of course ask him lots of questions about the job and himself. Then play a little bit hard to get, as all you Scorpio women are so gifted at.. but not too much. Remember, he has several things in common with the Leo man, his opposite, including that he likes to get his ego patted from time to time. That should get him interested!!


  7. I have been loving an Aquarius male on and off for about 3 years. They are scared of us Scorpio women : ) I think we are too set in our own ways to really give it a try. But the chemistry! Woo Hoo! Couldn’t ask for it to get any hotter.


  8. Hey scorgirl That is so true I completely agree. My partner’s friend is an Aquarian and i feel this really strong attraction between us everytime we see each other (when he comes over) I hope it’s not just me feeling it.. I’ve had dreams and everything lol It’s crazy how i’m feeling such strong attraction/force towards him! I’m not naive, i Know when someone isn’t interested, he doesn’t give me that impression.. I find him really hard to read! But how would i really know if he likes me..? Help lol


  9. Sooo HOT HOT HOT i’m really attracted to him how would i know if he is too..? He is so hard to read! This “thing” has been going on since we met 3 years ago! It frustrates me to be honest don’t know why i’m bothering but i can’t help this strong attraction i feel towards him. Hope i’m not wasting my time is it worth it…


  10. The strong sexual chemistry between a Scorpio woman and Aqua man really exists….my last Aqua boyfriend was….sizzle…so hot! He was also goofy, a prankster, and never wanted to show how attracted he was to me. I noticed the Hollywood trend as well. I’ve seen quite a few marriages between Aqua men and Scorp women.


  11. I am an Aquarius Male!… These are the reasons why we are so hard to read, and what we think…!

    Why are we so hard to read! Its because we dont have ONLY one thing on our minds… we have 5, 10 or more at any one time! Initially you WERE hooked!! FACT!! Scorpios want to know that every one fancies them… that they are special, and the chances are that we kept you guessing and NOT TREATING YOU LIKE QUEENS!! We gave you attention making you even more confused but still keeping our alloofness. This caused you to GET REALLY CONFUSED.

    The best way to get an aquarian man, is to be really hot, then really cold, and give us a sexy ‘dear’ type look, dont say anything when you stand next to us, we can feel the electricity comming from you. Do the same as what we do to you!

    If the aqua man turns off… you turn off… and after a few weeks or months… you will see him running back to you, he will give you one chance, then another, and wait…. he cant get you out of nhis head now… dont go back to him just yet… start it off as really good friends…. but DO NOT BACK OFF THIS TIME… he will get angry and will go out with someone infront of you to get at you… but its not that at all… he knows you get jealous easily… at this point he has gone… to the next interest.

    If you dont back off, then become his good buddy, He will want to analyse you and ask you everything about your self in a VERY direct way… dont get offended he is working out if he can trust you.

    Let him do what he wants give him a long leash and he will stay by your side FOREVER! HE WILL NEVER CHEAT IF THE LEASH IS LONG ENOUGH… and you will also enjoy the adventure he takes you on.

    ‘ I read in a book that sums every thing up…. the moment he acts as he is not interested at all, thats when he is close to being hooked!!!!!!’ Trust me im an Aqua male and its happend to me.


    • wow. i think…….wow, its so true lol.

      ima a scorpio girl, and kinda going out with this guy, in a way. idk one min. it seems like he want me so much, then the next…….he is sitting down zoning out, i walk past and he “wakes up” and waves lol.. but the days b 4 that i spent the night at my bff’s house, he is her brother. she fell asleep, and he laid/sat next to me, and thengot up, when he came back he kissed me, put his arms around me, and we watched a movie, there is more but, back to the next day, he looked at me and then danced, i looked at him, and its funny i gave him that “dear” look, and i think it worked, and i didn’t realize that i did it till i read what you wrote, and i hope that the last sentences you wrote is the case, cuz man……he is not the best looking guy out there, and im modeling for small companies. lol, but the point is, that i like him, he said he didn’t at the beginning of the year, but i got the felling he did not to long ago, and then night i stayed over….he showed me and told me. but he said it was my call if this is a one time/night thing or if we were dating…………, he simply said i don’t care, w/e you chose is ok with me. in my head i want him, to go out with him, to be with him. when we are together there is a energy, and every one can feel it, sounds corny but its true lol!


  12. i am a scorpio, and am REALLY in love with an aquarius boy. i have been living with aquarians all my life (my mom’s one) but i don’t know how to approach him. he currently lives transatlantic from me, so we only IM and all we do is talk about music (we are music geeks), and i don’t know how to lead the conv. into another way.
    i don’t know what to do. i don’t know his moon or ascendant, but i’m a capricorn moon and a gemini ascendant, which makes me talk way too much to him, and i don’t know if he likes that or not because i can’t see him on the other side of the screen. . .
    help, please


  13. Scorp grl Aqua guy

    wow, this has been enlightening….i had a relationship with a aqua boy 14 yrs ago gotinto another relationship….marrried and now separated….;..decitsded to give him a call….had wild sex the other nite OMG dont know what to do…..any advice except for staying away….i know that he wants me again but complicated…


  14. ps. my mom was an aquarius too


  15. on May 9, 2008 at 9:59 pm | Reply brightstarlights

    dear scorpio women,

    most important thing: figure out what YOU want, and remember you are in the drivers seat. also remember that most of all Aquarius men are curious about you, they won’t just walk away unless you really bring the crazy or push them away. so decide where you want to steer things and i would be shocked if he did not follow…

    xoxo

    aurora


  16. thanks aurora your insight is right on the mark, i will give him his space right now and let him make the first move because i know he will….because i know he totallly enjoyed the last nite we had together. i know what i want right now i want him…..will play
    thanks again,
    m


  17. D jus read ur post its true ure so rite lol He shud jus tel me how he feels but yet i find the mind games n aloofness so sexy cant get him out of my head i wonder if he thinks about me as much lol I wanna press my body unto his.. standing we’d kis so deep passion n lust in our eyes it’d b sensual n so seductive Newoo after he wont know whats hit him he’s gonna wanna propose lol;>


  18. How can u tell if aqua guy likes u..?


  19. you will not know till he tells you……


  20. Us Scorpios must luv a challenge!If it was jus sum any other guy i dont think i wud b so bothered but there is something about this 1 hmm i dont know im jus so attracted 2him lol.. these electric sparks (lol) i sensitively sense/feel between us im not sure if its coming from me or him but trust me definitely something there!My descendant is aquarius (apparently) n moon is in capricorn.. I was thinkin what if he thinks i dont like him so that leaves him unsure ?!


  21. Im not sure about his descendant but i do know his moon is in libra n venus in aquarius, mars in scorpio and My venus is in libra n mars in virgo ..what does this mean?Really wanna/trying 2figure him out but he’s so hard i think im obsessed;> If only i can cast sum sort of spell on him LOL When im around him i act “normal” ish i dont wanna giv anything away yet but at the same time dont want him 2think im not interested..


  22. hi!! I was reading the posts and decided to give some help or try giving it. i am an aquarius ( 5th feb). ‘K’ i can understand how confusing an aqua can be to others while we are perfectly logical in our eyes. Try to understand, aqua are analyatical and not driven by emotions so even if he feels attraction for u he will not make a move till he has analysed u, formed an opinion about u and made sure that u are the only person he wants to spend his life with. let me warn u, if u are dealing with a frivolous type of aquarius, be careful. By frivolous i mean who hasn’t decided his aim in life and is not even thinking about settling down, spends most of his time with his friends and is kind of irresponsible. for such an aquaris is still very unstable. if an aqua realises his aim of life or decide on his career path, they become lot more stable. I hope ur aqua comes under this catagory.
    Now what are his issues with getting commited? first, he doesnt want just a sex partner he wants a best friend. he wants a caretaker. Aquas absolutely love being mothered, just plain care, innocent and free from sexuality. makes them feel like ur loving unconditionally. they need their freedom. though once they realise just how wonderful ur (scorpio women’s) company is their this attitude will change. but it might take some time or if u think he is tooo much into freedom u can just talk to him straightaway. but all this comes after a relationship is established. other issue could be emotions. aquas don’t understand how to handle emotions. so they mostly suppress their emotions. It doesn’t mean they are not there but just suppressed. so finally they want a girl who is intellegant who they can talk about on lots of issues like politics, mankind etc. she should be beautiful, more than that sexy. and who understands them. gives them some space and is straightforward. (if u have problem, lets talk about it. type)
    Now. how to know if he is interested. I think he will stare u when he thinks noone is looking. may be when he is facing ur back. he will pay attention to ur little things. he will smile just slightly if someone mentions u or anything that involves u. he will analyse u to decide and form an opinion about u. but don’t expect for him to show his interest in u. Firstly because aquas are often very insecure to take lead in showing interest. He must see that ur interested and then only he will show interest. I mean he should clearly see that ur interested only that will make him comfertatble enough to show his interest. Secondly. ur his friends partner so he will feel uncomfertable showing interest in u as after all ur with someone else and that someone is his friend. and thus showing interst in u might make him feel like he is backstabing his friend. So just make sure that u while talking to him make him realise that u r not happy in current relationship and his friend is not the person u want to spend ur life with. then this becomes matter of personal choice that is u just chose him over his friend. this should make him comfertable.
    Now how do u go about all this. the best and the sureshot way to an aqaus heart is food. I MEAN BRAIN FOOD. Intellectual conversations. Discuss something with him , I am sure he will discuss things to death. Don’t just agree but agrue. Be logical. After all he is looking for a intelligent partner. Communication is the key with aquas. once u get on discussing things with him and suppose he liked it (which i am sure he will) will give u chance to exercise ur special deeeep beautiful and sooo damn irresistable gaze. well he needs to see lots of those gazes to finally reach the conclusion that u r interested in him. I think u can atleast start after all this. And if there is any problem, well will always try to help.


  23. Cheers ratu 4advice hopefully helpful shud find out Eventually lol.I think i jus wanna get sexy w/ him that shud do it after that, mystery over i think lol sorry dont mean that but mayb the only thing between us is Chemistry..Do i really want 2damage stable relationship im in now 4Lust, is it just lust..? I think we cud b really gud friends lol hmm mayb we can b secret f@*k buddies i luv secrets hehe;>


  24. Ratu u sound sexy ur knowledge is arousing lol *winkwink* Which type R U..


  25. hey ‘K’! Ok which type i am? i am the decent type. I like to take things slow. Because for a relationship u need more than chemistry. And I totaly hate messy breakups. And i am sure u will also like it that way. I know scorpio women cannt take break ups easily.
    start talking to him on lots of things. His career, ambitions ur career etc. this should tell u what type of person he is. (If u havnt evaluated him yet. )don’t rush into bedroom, physical chemistry especially when sizzzzzling, just throws things out of control. if he is serious about u he will expect to be friends with u first, before even admiting he is attracted to u. (forget abot rushing to bedroom) If things just move tooo fast that will make him feel like he is loosing control of the situation and will not like it. he take a step back. so calm down k ! u r in a stable relationship don’t leave it unless u and him, both are sure. just chemistry cann’t save a relationship but understanding can. and as u and him are totally different type of people u have a lot to learn about each other. so just calm down, I mean just for now. and don’t even think about secret f*** budies. It’s just totally wrong. u deserve better. ok, take care.


  26. wowzzzeeerrsss i totally love u people…..i made a big mistake when i pretty well kidnapped him and took him to my place LOL


  27. on a serious note how can i be friends with him without being too crazy?


  28. hi marion!!
    so you what kidnapped him? wow, lucky him!!! well how to be friends with him? remember aquas like their freedom. by freedom i mean independence to take their own decision. Now some sugestive behaviour on ur part is welcomed. some pushing is required. but don’t dominate. don’t make him feel that ur forcing him into doing anything he doesn’t want to do or is not sure about doing. But do push at times. as aquas try to refrain from making commitments.
    for developing friendship the sureshot way is communication. talk to him on topics like his career, politics or any new electronic gadget. things which interest him. argue with him, listen to his views and this will form a better bond. communication and intellectual conversations are basic building blocks of friendship. show ur interest in him constantly without being tooo pushy. I am sure u will have plenty of things to talk about each other. give him complements. stroke his ego. I think this should work. Try it.


  29. rutu…..very interesting…i should let you know that me and my aqua boy have know each other for twenty years and have had different relationships in between always keeps randomly showing up ??????? i think this is fate. I know iam obsessive i wish icould be as unattached Big love…….m..ps iam scorpio rising yikes!!!!!!!!!


  30. i know going to work on freedom……


  31. hey marion!!
    Thanks for ur quick reply. U said u wish to be as unattached as aquas. well don’t be like that. I believe aquas anattached nature and scorpio’s fierce attachment are good complement to each other. He will need a constant reassurance of ur love, but without u being too interveining in his activities, (in the begining at least) Now what do i mean by this. If u constantly call him then sometimes prefer sms over calls. Sms are less interveneing. But u have to show that u care. All right. Take care. BYE


  32. Hey Marion, 4da best dnt change urself 4him.Is he worth it?..Personally i think Not lol these aqua martians r a waste of time n effort.DNT feel u hav 2change urself 4him!Mayb gud as “light” friends or fuk buddies;> jus use n abuse lol (they seem 2like dat) but anything else erm.. i suggest dnt waste ur time as in b careful w/ ur sensitive heart lol seriously y settle 4less wen u can hav MORE:D be Strong (Positive) us Scorpios r a Power House!Gud luk sweetie Kx


  33. Rutu, actually dnt mind break ups..as obviously wasnt meant 2b!It empowers me in sum sense i jus move on along, no big, im stil young n beautiful y waste time on a mistake you know lol;) Im stil in learning process, luv 2learn Knowledge is key put it down 2experience therefore no regrets.. Kx


  34. Im not a typical scorpio Anyway people shouldnt put people in boxes based on their starsign *winks* lol..


  35. hi,
    Great K !! u think aquas are waste of time, ok so u don’t need any advice then. Bye.


  36. Rutu hi..Sorry if i hav offended u n any other aquas!Was in a terrible mood lastnite 2 of my precious goldfish past away so sad:( thought 2bury them in da garden its only fair hopin theyve gone 2a gud place..l8r on dat evenin looked out da window n saw a damn FOX ravishin on bit of land/earth where i had dug, run out “shooed” da animal away thank g it went as i got quite scared!Looked at da ground n found my luvly deceased fish in PIECES everywhere i was horrified then ill!Jus had coffee now n on da mend:(


  37. Rutu.. *mwahh* big Kiss No hard feelings i hope lol;) Kx


  38. Greetings:D Been feelin rather deflated since my last post regarding aqua men being a waste of time lol..obviously they arent al da same (only da 1s ive cum across neway lol) but stil im sure there r few decent 1s rite..! Kx ;)


  39. So I’m an aquarius female and just wanted to hear from other scorpios (preferably male, but as long as it’s the same sign, I guess it’s the same thing. lol)… I’m not the only one that feels this chemistry, right? I was in a relationship with a Scorpio before and it was pretty much overwhelmingly the most passionate ever, as in you could basically reach out and touch the passion/tension/chemistry whatever you want to call it. So recently, I met another Scorpio and it was almost instant attraction, or at least they instantly caught my eye and figured they are worth more analyzing… lol. So basically, just wondering, do Scorpios feel the chemistry overwhelmingly too with most Aquas? Or is it just that I feel it because of his intense stares and smoldering passion? lol Thanks for any help!!


  40. We cant help da intense stares its natural;) try not 2luk in2 it too much as sum scorpios dnt like 2b probed or analysed (in an obvious manner) sum finds their intensity intimidating lol Scorpios definitely feels overwhelmed chemistry with Aquarius (trus me!) they r sensitive & v. intuitive but they seldom show what theyre really feelin n thinking..Scorps r difficult 2phantom often wearing a mask i think we hide it well especially women!It also depends on other planets influence in their birthchart. Kx


  41. I submitted a post but its not showing…why is that ?


  42. Hi!!
    Same here. I also submitted a post but it isn’t showing either.
    ‘K’ it’s ok!! no hard feelings. Can understand ur bad mood. Sorry for ur goldfishes. But look around and find some reason to cheer up. OK, take care.


  43. ;) thanx rutu knew u wud b understanding lol Im over w/ drama bout da goldfish malark now lol..Infact!, got myself sum new fish!..theyre so kewl way better! Kx ps.Im thinkin y post didnt appear hmm it mayb cos i changed my username perhaps..also noticed sumtimes i can type long posts but then other times ‘it’ wont let me..(weird!) lol


  44. on May 18, 2008 at 12:33 am | Reply brightstarlights

    really?? you’re posts aren’t showing up? K, I think it was because you switched to Galvanise, but I can’t understand about Rutu’s post. Let me know if this keeps happening.. I love this thread! xx
    aurora


  45. Aurora, do you give personal compatibility readings?

    I’m in a really hot psychological dance with an Aquarius who is attached to another woman right now.

    We are friends and the fire between us keeps escalating and we mentally stimulate each other, more than ANYONE else in both our lives. We are incredibly in sync. And psychicly connenected.

    He’s so noble, and I am too, that we’re both trying to keep this platonic but actually my plan is to Angelina Jolie him because I feel that the Universe has caused our paths to cross for 10 years and now we’re spending hours and hours together.

    I just feel like we belong together and that this chemistry is greater than us …like the Universe wants us together and keeps pushing us together — do you know the other night we went out for drinks at a really, really crowded night spot. I arrived 30 minutes after him… but as we walked out together we discovered that in that great big parking lot — we’d parked right beside each other!!!! OMG, I’m sorry, this is soooo much bigger than us. The harmony and tension and stimulation between us is overwhelming.

    I can read him very well and he is sooo conflicted because he’s a very loyal person and has been with his other girl for 10 years. But I dont’ think either of us were expecting to fall in love with each other. But I feel we are and I feel it’s mutual.

    But of us are very aware of lots of stuff going on beneath the surface of our stares, smiles, touches, and most of all our intellectual conversation — we can’t stop talking to each other. WE can talk for four hours straight and have to force ourselves to part.

    I’m a Scorpio with a Cancer Moon. He’s an Aquarius with a Scorpio moon.

    I’d like to send you our birthdates and get an idea of how compatibility we are and if it’s worth me turning on my Scorpio pursuit full blast.

    Is this possible?

    Thanks,
    Syn.

    P.S. If you can’t do a personal reading, can you tell me more about what the attraction is for the Aquarian guy and what you think is going on mentally when he’s with a Scorp?


  46. on May 19, 2008 at 1:40 am | Reply brightstarlights

    yes I do, Synthia. I will email you.
    Aurora


  47. So anyone have an idea why the aquarius and scorpio have this connection when astrology typically says it’s a bad match? lol… It seems it’s pretty common for aquarius and scorpio to have that close connection regardless of the vast differences, so just looking for your opinions of what you think keeps the intensity so great between the two… lol


  48. I can only speak for myself. But I like the opposition and the challenge.

    I’m a very strong Scorpio and I detest men I can walk over. I detest weakness period. So, I’ve always gravitated toward fixed signs subconsciously.

    I easily fall for Leo and Aquarius — said to be the ultimate worst mates for me.

    I like the clash of two powers. It’s extremely vibrant, sexy, and exhilarating.

    As for Aquarius, Scorpios are pretty brainy and rebellious, just like them. So, we can get lost in conversations about unconventional things for hours.

    The main reason I’ve read that Aquarius won’t work for me is because I’m too emotional and possessive. Well, you know what. Those qualities are on the negative end of my sign. And I’ve always fought to conquer them — and often could not.

    Strangely, being with an Aquarius who is anti-emotionalism BALANCES ME. The bond challenges me to be mature and love maturely, to rise above petty jealousy and clingy fears.

    This is an antidote for what the weak parts of me … the cure for my tumultous spirals into destabilizing emotions so intense they paralyze me with depression and prevent me from succeeding in many phases of my life.

    I live above my emotions with the Aquarius. And that makes me stronger. He brings out my strongest self. The dynamic forces me to be brilliant, mature, not needy, etc. It forces me into my highest Scorpio self.

    I’m always proud of myself when I’m with him, able to rival his intellectual enery and be intriguing without delving into my dark side.

    The intense Scorpio emotion is then just passion, pure passion about ideas and philosophies (and sex)…now of that self-destructive, crazy emotion that gives Scorps a bad name.

    Also since Aquarians are rumored to like strange sex, I also find that intriguing. I can sense their hidden sexual energy.


  49. hahaha that was actually a really good answer, and I can completely understand and see that now that you said it… I appreciate the response! Anyone else who’s willing to take a stab at it, feel free, but that was definitely a great response! lol thanks… And I’m glad we aquarius’ help stabilize you scorpios, because I think it is a good balance too. We are loyal once we learn to trust and once we have analyzed a person to our heart’s/mind’s content, and it seems that scorpio is the same way- loyal after probing and after a lot of time and trust.. so it’s a loyal, challenging, balancing, and yet still interesting relationship. Nice points.. thanks!


  50. well i can totally tell u how not to act…..if u dont hear from him dont expect to hear from him again they are all soo cold. let them call u


  51. Synthia brilliant post girl *touch* lol;> Personally agreeable thought it was really precise wonderful use of words, indeed beautifully written! So what dyou think these male aquarians thinks/feels wen theyre in scorpio female company..?


  52. K- was the “So what dyou think these male aquarians thinks/feels wen theyre in scorpio female company..?” directed towards Synthia or me? lol


  53. K- I’d like to know that myself.
    We need Aquarius men to answer!


  54. P id luv 2here ur views on aquarius men!..bein a fellow aquarian urself its interestin lol Also itd b great if there are male aquas sharin their take on dis thread too! *wonders where rutu is* =) Kx


  55. Alright, well here goes… lol

    I personally am Aquarius Sun and Moon, and Sagittarius rising, so I value my freedom A LOT… lol

    As Synthia also said, I also gravitate towards strong men.. Weak men are cool, I mean, I’ll be friends with them, but that’s it- unless they can show me that they are strong, capable of doing many things/handy, intellectual, have a passion about something and work at it, and a mixture of other things, they don’t get a second glance as boyfriend potential.

    I find that I get along well usually with Pisces- another water sign, but sometimes find that their ability to not discuss things out annoying.. They are almost too dreamy and not able to stand up for themselves enough.

    I get along well with Cancer until they start getting emotional… Then I don’t know how to react with them, and it just hinders everything.

    Which leads to Scorpio- I honestly don’t even pay attention to people specifically unless they do something that interests me. If there’s something unique about them that makes them stand out, then I pay attention and start analyzing them… And up until this point, I never really looked for the Scorpio or was never really like oh man, check them out- until either they gave me the infamous intense stare, or if I watched them share a story or something, I could almost feel the deep intensity of emotion behind their eyes, and it made me want to find out more about what’s behind their chill exterior.

    I also like a challenge, especially in dating, and the fact that they appear (and are) strong, yet still sensitive is really appealing to me. It’s like the typical macho or european man- Somebody who’s willing and able to kick some *ss but still able to come home and be sweet and caring, and then still able to stand up for himself when there’s a disagreement or fight between us.

    Going back to Synthia’s point about being able to get lost in unconventional conversations for hours.. that’s another thing that gets me..

    I tend to be able to talk freely with a Scorpio (seeing as being around him makes me want to joke and be even more unique and playful, yet still remain honest and true/loyal to him), but when I see that he can sit and talk for hours with other people (regardless of gender) it almost drives me crazy and curious to see what the conversation is about.

    Like I would expect him (astrologically speaking) to just be like emotional and sensitively passionate all the time, and to see him be able to talk for hours with people and be loyal to them, yet not warm up and open to others completely at first glance makes me want to find out what is behind that exterior that he knows. He has the analytical aspect as well, I can feel it, as do I, and I want to find out and almost compare notes about what he has learned through life from his analyzing… lol

    As a past scorpio boyfriend told me- He said something like, you’ve turned my life upside down, like you’ve made me confused, but in a good way… and I think the same goes for Aquarius…

    Scorpio (as it seems) tends to feel everything, and get jealous and clingy, whereas I in normal circumstances with anyone else could care less who my bf would be with (as long as he’s not cheating!), I would completely allow him that freedom and not worry or be clingy about it. But something about me having ties with Scorpio and them even talking with someone else makes me kind of jealous and want to draw them away somehow in a sexy way… Almost like I’m fighting for him, I kinda like the competition.. haha (and the whole being rebellious thing too…. lol)

    Also, I feel more in tune to my loving/nurturing side when I’m with him and am not just off in my own world all the time… it is a strange and weird, but functional balance somehow..

    Scorpio helps me see and understand things about people and the world, that I possibly wouldn’t have understood on my own. I am able to learn and be smarter and stronger in what I know, and he grounds me back down to earth when my mind is all over the place. Like I can look at him and just understand what he’s thinking, and it kind of rejuvenates me to be able to watch and not see a nervous wreck inside (like gemini or virgo for example) and to see someone strong and confident and able. idk, lol

    About the whole sex thing, I can’t say that point about it doesn’t intrigue me as well. lol.. the whole quiet rebellious thing is endearing and makes me more curious about how much of a rebel a scorpio guy could actually be (compared to me or aquarius in general) regarding bedtime or anything else… lol

    idk if that was just rambling or if any of it actually made sense, lol, but I hope it helped somebody! haha


  56. Also, what the other two said about aquarius I agreed with… (D and Rutu)… I’ll have to see if I can find something else to help you guys out as well… haha


  57. Gr8 post i totally understand thanks P! Its interestin cos i think/feel exactly da same when im w/ dis aqua guy ! To a conclusion (lol) scorpions & aquarians R gud 2gether!..certainly sounds like they make a gr8 team lol As long as there is communication u knw… They are both so intune w/ 1another its almost like telepathy lol I think in a way scorpio n aquarius r actually very similar!I feel bad how sum aquarians (especially male 1s lol) r misunderstood at times…


  58. Wow is dis an american site then..im kinda unsure lol Im 4rm london jus wonderin if any1 else is too:D Kx


  59. Very interesting, P!

    Good to know Aquarians LIKE the contrasting combo of sensitivity and strength in Scorps.

    You better not be lying— can a Scorp truly make an Aquarian jealous?! Wow. Was not expecting that.

    Yes, both signs are huge students of human behavior. Always watching, analyzing. That’s fun to have in common.

    And yes, both can have intense gazes. Love it!

    “Confused in a good way” Yep. Feel that all the time. The mind is just doing trampolines reprogramming and sorting schema from wild discussions.

    Aw….A scorp brings out your nurturing side?? Man, I hope that’s typical for aquas.

    And great, the Aqua feels the whole becoming stronger/smarter sensation too.

    I love this forbidden blend.

    It’s the best kept astrological secret.


  60. to K-

    How are male aquarians misunderstood at times? lol, in what way?
    .. and yeah, I’m from the US.. haha sorry!

    to Synthia-

    The Strength + sensitivity is good, at least to me, but maybe just because I’m strongly brought up with a european background and almost expect that. But I think most aquarians are really picky (regardless of if they admit it or not) and hold really high standards, so they’re basically looking for the total package in a relationship… and as long as the Scorpio doesn’t go completely emotional right away and plays the strong, hard-headed character every so often, it should lead to interest..

    (Think of gemini and aquarius- they’re supposed to be a great match, why? Because they show interest to aquarius one second, and the next they’re off doing their own thing not paying attention… that kind of unknown feeling leaves an Aquarius to keep analyzing and keep the curiosity going, as long as it’s not there all the time, they need to give something of themselves after a while or Aquarius will just give up and won’t come back… lol)

    Regarding the jealousy issue- I’ll make a distinction that it’s not insane jealousy or overwhelming anger or anything, but it’s almost like “Hey, he’s mine, watch it”.. more like territorial I guess.. whereas with somebody like Sag or Gemini- I’d encourage them to go hang out with others as long as they came back eventually. lol

    And you really think Aquarians can have intense gazes too? haha I never would have thought that… in what context do you think this occurs?

    Oh and about the nurturing side… Scorpio brings me more in tune with my emotional side, and once they have showed and proved to me through actions or statements that they like/love me then I feel more almost like a mother.. hahaha, like I turn more into a nurturing and a person to take care of everyone else (although Aquarius naturally likes to help others, so maybe it’s just that there’s more feeling and attachment behind the humanitarianism…)

    This is actually a cool dialogue.. hahaha I’m glad to be able to hear both sides of the coin.


  61. oops.. that wasn’t supposed to be a wink, just the end of the parentheses… hahaha oh well.


  62. About the intense gaze — maybe that’s just the Aqua guy I’m cavorting with . He has a Scorpio Moon so maybe that’s where that gaze comes from.

    We were sitting at the pub table talking and staring keenly at each other like psychopaths! LOL!


  63. canada


  64. hahaha like psychopaths? interesting… lol

    And after rereading some of these comments… I think a main part of the attraction between the two of us (aqua/scorpio) rises from the fact that neither of us show our emotions outwardly…

    So while both of us like to probe, we both get instinctual feelings that either a.) we are also being probed/analyzed or b.) we are being watched or admired from afar or c.) both.

    And since we both don’t like to show our hidden feelings at the surface of our exterior, we are left with instinct which we need to prove to ourselves is true… So it’s basically a hunt on both ends of finding out- does he like me? he said this one day, then didn’t talk to me, or whatever, and eventually just both sides keep this elusive, curious quality about themselves, so we are both driven to find out! In time through the search, the relationship is developed with intellectual stimulation, a fanning of both our rebellious sides, and a fearful yet noticeable loyalty to each other… and boom, the aqua/scorpio relationship is born… hahaha idk. ok I’m done, haha sorry.


  65. i am so not elusive….i lay it all out there thats the thing that aquarians cant handle


  66. yeah too much emotion and feeling all at once is like a death sentence to Aquarius… lol, well ok, not exactly, but it’s almost like, “ok I can’t handle this, get me out, I need space…” unless you happen to have or find an aquarius with a water sign somewhere in there… lol


  67. I feel sum aquarians r misunderstood..peeps wud often think theyr cold n detached, no emotions etc etc..but really (2my perspective lol) theyr actually kind,giving,unselfis,they r humanitarians!..luv theyr intellectuality n eccentricity!Jus hav 2b Really patient lol n get 2knw..takes TIME but worth it 4sure!:) I think theyr friends 2hav 4life!Astrologys cool luv how it provides insights on certain traitsn peoples characteristics..also really helps 2try understand sum1 2an extent.PEACE! Kx..luvin da AIR;)


  68. on May 23, 2008 at 12:10 am | Reply Jonny Stranglove

    Listen ladies, this is flattering, but some of ya’ll just don’t understand. Yes we are very shy, especially to women, and strong women. But it is all of our fantasy to have a strong woman. Every strong A is really an incredibly out going person. You say things that we think, or at least create a situation, and we love confrontation. We feel like idiots afterwards, but we soon learn to say f it. At least i have. 1 Ms. K – We don’t fear emotions, we eat it up like fruit loops, its our natural state. As men we are taught to be dumb and ignorant about them, but we understand u more than u do. And yes, we are weird, no normal hours, life is constant and we don’t want to miss it. Every time you think we’re not paying attention, we know everything that is going on. but we’ll never admit it. It’s our only strength. We’re not aloof, we’re observing you and the universe. It’s all there all the time and we see it all. If u want an A, then force it. He will use the excuse that he respects u, but he wants to destroy u, in a good way. Whatever, have fun. In the end we don’t think anyone will ever understand us, we just want to understand you. Who cares about us? We don’t. And i mean that in a good way.


  69. on May 23, 2008 at 12:15 am | Reply Jonny Stranglove

    PS – Be prepared bc we are insane. Litterally Psycho’s. We only act normal for the people around us. Most can’t handle the real us, not even ourselves.


  70. on May 23, 2008 at 12:17 am | Reply Jonny Stranglove

    One more time,

    Sorry i meant P instead of K. K is down.


  71. JOnny! Your thoughts are making me go bananas! You are saying stuff I’ve never read online about Aquarians. More!

    More details on the secret psycho part!

    And… when you say if you want an Aquarian force it … this goes against traditional advice that you’ll scare him off and send him screaming for freedom. Won’t forcing it ignite his fear/flee instinct?

    Aquarians eat up emotions like fruit loops? What? Psychologist!


  72. (yum lurve fruit loops) Jonny!?..soundin kinda rather “fruity” urself hehe And i mean dat in a gud way! ;) Im “down” wat dyou mean lol hope dats a gud ting !Im 4rm sunny england:D u c me no comprende NEwayzlol was thinkin i doubt men aquas hav fear of emotions think they r actually ful of emotions but fear 2show it *wonders if its an insecurity thing like majority of us!) n i doubt U understand me more than I understand myself i dnt even understand ME!There4 u wudnt understand me,understand?lol;) Pls elaborate more on “he wants to destroy u” bit?lol spooky Also “who cares about us?”..fellow scorpio chicas obviously do!:D Its fun 2b around aquas especially guys lol luv 2flirt;D theyr ful of energy luv their mad ideas theyr jus fun fun 2hav around!I think dats da main attraction 4me wen it cums 2these A men (cant stand boring dull humans) n u can alwayz rely on them.2giv u a helpin hand lol;) When i met dis guy i was intruiged im not easily intruige 2an extent ..knew there was sumthing bout him…so analysation


  73. ..began (as scorps luv 2do lol) got 2a stage now i think its jus sexual energy built up due 2such strong attraction n powerful chemistry between us (lol) its needing &yearning 2b probed n released b4 it destroys me.Anyway i think id rather prefer b his best girl buddy friend thing lol a gud honest meaningful deep friendship is wat i want!!! DARM im tired fallin asleep dribblin n everythin all on ma keyboard mwahhaha so L8r earthlings:D Kx ps..thought its kinda sweet wen u said u lot r shy guys hehe;)


  74. on May 24, 2008 at 4:30 am | Reply Jonny Stranglove

    A little background,
    I am a 27 yr old A male from ATL, GA. USA, and know very little about astrology or numerology. My bday is 02/07/81, so if this means anything about my “moon” sign, maybe it will help you in ur understanding. I actually use to think all of this was bs, but i have come to find in my life that everything i was sure of is/was wrong and yet i can not keep myself from still making strong judgments about things i do not know. I actually love it. A humbling thing, i don’t know. I am going thru a very transitional time in my life (more so than the usual everyday) and was looking for some understanding. I came across this website and was interested, bc my best friend is a scorp, unfortunately he is a male. I often joke I wish we were gay, or at least one of us was a girl. It would make things a lot easier. We have very little income in on the surface, but i consider him my brother. So, this website intrigued me.

    1. Synthia

    The psycho part relates to what i have read about Aquas online. Either we are completely intro or outro. I believe this to be a lie. We are both. Just very few of us know how to deal/accept this paradox. So we usually pick one to go with, and deny the other. This will inevitably lead to a split personality, and lack of knowing the line or how to deal with it, which entails us being perceived as aholes or utterly arrogant. I am so confused by it that i have recently decided to stop talking to all people, and let my destiny play itself out without my will forcing it. Hence, psycho.

    Forcing it – When i was 18 i really liked this girl who intimidated me. I was bold enough to put myself in the situation to be around her, but nothing else. She eventually started liking me, for the same reasons i think ya’ll like these guys, and started asserting herself. She would even sit on top of me, and in return i would turn my head (and start yawning uncontrollably, which apparently is a nervous twitch i have) but i would not ask her to get off of me. We might be “deep” and “understanding” but we are in all respects very immature when it comes to human interaction. And no matter what understanding we have, we will always be immature, like 3rd grade. So give it a go, and if he sticks around, even nervously, he likes you. If he runs then hes a pus, and you don’t want him.

    Emotions – Yes, i don’t understand at all the concept that we do not like emotional women. It shows that your real, and feel what we think we need to hide. Realize Aqua or not your still dealing with a guy. We do not have very good training on how to deal with our own emotions, but we are quite clear and understanding on what they are and why. Especially in other people. Now, if he surrounds himself with a bunch of douche bags, and partakes in their male belittlement of others, than ya he has no understanding, or is to afraid to admit them.

    2. – K

    Your down bc everything you say is from a very understanding point of view, and what you say is very true about aquas when the others here are not. NO offense to the others. We are a very confusing bunch.

    The “destroying you” point – I could have been a little more gentlemanly about it, but it means we are very sexual creatures. The first or even second time we might be very gentle about it, so we don’t scare you. But once we get comfortable, its time for fun. And yes to an aqua a deep friendship is the most important thing to us, but we are still men. ALL OF U PAY ATTENTION, you are still talking about men. ALL MEN ARE PIGS, NO EXCEPTIONS. Read that last part again as needed. I’m sure as women you already know, but you seem to forget. Just give the guy a chance, or two or three. If he doesn’t get comfortable or good, then have the friendship only.

    A perfect blossom is a rare thing, you can spend your whole life looking for one and not find it. Yet, it would be a life well spent.


  75. on May 24, 2008 at 4:33 am | Reply Jonny Stranglove

    PS

    There is nothing sweet about being shy. It is an incredibily lonely existence, but its nice to hear.

    And it is nice to speak with someone across the pond. I am a pale irish/scottish guy and i’m very jealous of your weather.


  76. on May 24, 2008 at 4:37 am | Reply Jonny Stranglove

    One more time, again,

    We do know you better than you know ur self. Think about how many times you speak to someone and they seemed so confused about whats going on in their life and its so clear to you. It is much easier to see around yourself, then in yourself. K, just from what i have read i could tell you anything you need to know about u that u don’t think you know. We all know oursleves, we are just scared to admit it. DURRRR IM INSIGHTFUL


  77. Hi there!!
    I wouldn’t agree with Jonny on understanding scorpio women. I don’t understand them. It’s only after reading astrology I am gaining some understanding. Before that i couldn’t have imagined that anybody can be soooo emotional. God, these scorp girls are emotional about everything. EVERYTHING!!
    I had a friend when i was in school I am in college now.
    Not to mention she was a scorp. With all honesty, she was just a friend to me. I had a circle of 5 friends and she joined in later. Initially everything was normal. We would share jokes, laugh a lot, help each others etc. She used to sit few benches away from me. Then she came to sit on the bench next to mine. I didn’t notice and didn’t bother. I thought it was good to have her there. As weeks passed i realized I was talking more to her than my other friends except for 1 (my best friend). I mean i didn’t realize when she starting misinterpreting my friendly behavior. She would act strangely if i talked to other people more or spent more time with them. Sometimes she would be really quite.. and i could tell that something is wrong. If i asked her she would say she is fine. But really unusually quite. Like I am standing next to a ticking TIME BOMB…
    Then some times she would be sarcastic. Asking me explanation of even little things. Which I have long forgotten..
    I did end up hurting her. And it was only because i didn’t understand her. It was never intentional. I know better now. So I personally think your aqua guy will need some astrology help to understand you. The main reason being aqua personality is so different from scorp (in emotional department) that understanding is sort of difficult without help. And also scorp don’t reveal emotions directly so it gets even more difficult.. I think if you scorp girls have any issue that bothers you, you should be straight forward and discuss it.


  78. on May 24, 2008 at 2:02 pm | Reply Jonny Stranglove

    Yo Rutu I feel you man, but like everything, if you focus on one thing (hence astrology) other things get lost. There are thousands of things that go into being a person at a particular moment that it cannot be broken down to a singular philosophy. Jealousy, love, hate, contentment, yearning, are all flowing things like the tides. She might of been seeking “the one” when you were in a state of trying to just meet people and have experiences. As i said to the girls, remember your dealing with a man, you have to realize your dealing with a girl. I hope no women take offense to this, but girls have an ability to romanticize a situation without even a word more so then the average guy. This is not always a constant on either side. I also have this trait, and maybe thats why i have written what i have said. The point is that each individual you meet and interact with is only that individual at that moment. Think about your past and wonder “why did i say that” when you know that was not representing who you were. It is called emotions stirred with experiences, and we are subject to them. No matter what your sign is, we all experience deep, and sometime confusing emotions. Its (cliché alert) called growing up. And we are always growing. This process never ends. I hope noone is taking what i say as a definitive understanding as a aqua male, bc i can only speak for myself, and as i stated, i have no to little understanding of astrology, and refuse to pick my friends or interests by the concept. I believe that the philosophy has a deep truth, but there are far more decisive factors that decide us everyday. We are all individuals, no matter what gravitational pull affected our chemistry when we were in the womb. My belief is that we all have the ability to decide are existence, even if we have a defined starting point. However, most people do tend to stick with what they are comfortable with, and that leads to patterns and repetitions, which allows astrology to be a good guide to predict tendencies in people. But never forget, anyone can be anything at anypoint. Just bc someone has the same sign as hitler doesn’t mean they have the propensity to genocidally kill whomever they find different. The dude was a nut, as we all are, but i guarantee it had nothing to do with the zodiac.


  79. on May 24, 2008 at 2:13 pm | Reply Jonny Stranglove

    Rutu,

    Sometimes people are just raw, and some people can deal with that, and some can’t. And sometimes this raw person just needs to take themselves out of situations or possibilities that will alienate people, as she did you.


  80. on May 24, 2008 at 2:38 pm | Reply Jonny Stranglove

    One more time, again and again,

    If you are young, 18-25, then you have no idea who this person will be or yourself. It is a great time, but also a consistantly changing time. Remember this about yourself and who you are dealing with. I highly recommend to not try to define anyone or yourself. And this comes from someone that has parents who are still married when they were highschool sweethearts. If you want, and i always recomend, fight the odds. There are always exceptions, and we all want to be that exception, but more common then not, it will not be you. As i said, my best friend is a scorp, and i love him more than any of my siblings. Its weird and i can’t explain it (we have been best friends for over a decade, and when i met him i hated him). Thats life, and you got to love it. Just remember God has a great since of humor.


  81. on May 24, 2008 at 2:41 pm | Reply Jonny Stranglove

    PS

    If you are younger than 18, then just give up and go with the flow. No offense, but you really have no idea. Enjoy it, it will be the last time.


  82. Hi Jonny,

    I’m very much over 18. LOL. (in my 30s).

    I’m also a very serious, introspective and rational person.

    I’ve always had a dormant interest in mystical things…but had always been skeptical about pursuing it and especially skeptical/derisive of astrology.

    Then last year I noticed my responses to the pull of the Moon. And I thought you know if the moon has an effect on tides and crops, which has been documented, it likely has a pull on humans, which are made mostly of water.

    They led me to coordinate some activities to benefit from full and new moons energy.

    This year, actually just in the last month, I’ve extended my interest to astrology as a whole. LEt me tell you, I don’t believe in using it to predict the future.

    But I am wholeheartedly convinced that the planets and their positions have an effect on people at birth and affects their personality.

    Reading about astrology now is making the last 30-plus years of my life crystal clear. I’ve realized looking back that people have acted according to their natal chart whether they knew it or not.

    I’ve analyzed past boyfriends, friends, family members and their natal charts have been right on point.

    The Universe operates according to laws and it’s efficiency and harmony is unbelievable. Astrology is simply a way of interpreting those laws at work when it comes to human behavior.

    I use astrology for awareness and interpretation not really to define me. I do agree with you that young people should seek to self-define first, lest they try to conform to what they think they should be based on the Zodiac.

    The first law of the Universe is to simply BE according to your nature.

    I’m not surprised that you come here a skeptic but remain intrigued. Getting a glimpse into how the Universe and its energy operates is really uncanny.

    No, sun signs don’t tell the whole story, but once you get into advanced astrology …you’ll see people natures corresponds with the thumbprint of their full natal chart, not just their sun.

    It just is what it is. Then, you’ll be even less dismissive.

    You don’t have to be a believer, because your destiny will unfold the way its meant to anyway.

    Astrology has helped me be calm about my destiny unfolding because I now glimpse confirmation into why I’ve made the choices I’ve made, have the passions I have, and love the people I love.

    IF something seems to conflict with astrology on the surface, you’d be best to do a deeper study of the natal chart. And you’ll see truth no matter what. I’m convinced.

    But I agree astrology isn’t the main force in our lives. (it’s simply the dna of our personality/behavior).

    The main force is human will. That trumps biology and astrology, social conditioning, environment and everything else.

    Through our own efforts and action we create what we want ….but we can’t escape our true selves, no more than Oedipus could, .. and I believe we’ll always walk in lockstep with our true personal astrology.

    P.S. what you wrote about Aquas made great sense. Thanks for expounding.


  83. on May 24, 2008 at 6:22 pm | Reply Jonny Stranglove

    synthia,

    Thank you, you stated what i was trying to say better than i could, sometimes ( actually all the time) my mind flows faster than i can physically communicate. I do mean to say that i am fully a believer in astrology, but i know nothing about it or how to persue it. I do not fully no what a “natal” sign means and would love to have a full chart worked on me. How i found this sight was thru a query of searches that started with “what is wrong with me”. I was just trying to respond to rutu, and before that just communicate, bc i have stopped with everyone i know. You all seem incredibly sweet and open and i felt like leaving a response. What you are saying makes complete since, and i do believe in the full moon, for the reasons you stated. I just have a stubborn streak in me that makes me feel free will exist, when in actuallity i believe we are all predetirmend by destiny. Thats why i stated aquas are insane, bc i personally can believe in the paradox, yet the mind won’t let one act in the paradoxel state. Thanks for the response and i would greatly appreciate an education.


  84. on May 24, 2008 at 6:25 pm | Reply Jonny Stranglove

    ps

    I am incredibily spiritual (mystical) and believe everything is everything. So the furthest star must effect my smallest atom. As our conversing effects both of us.


  85. on May 24, 2008 at 6:30 pm | Reply Jonny Stranglove

    As dylan said

    don’t think twice its alright

    even if he was being sarcastic


  86. Err 1word CHILL lol u lot r funny man


  87. oh yeh PS weather in england is shit


  88. Howdy martians:D All is well i hope!Jus a quicky ..apparently a mans Moon n Venus sign determines hes preferred “types” of women! And a womans preferred types are her Sun & Mars sign! My mars is in virgo and i HAVE dated a few virgos in the past!..hmm so it is kinda true lol


  89. K- I thought it was your sign opposite your rising sign (aka your ascendant opposite your descendant) that shows what sign a man or woman prefers?

    Ex. I’m a Sagittarius Rising, so my ascendant is in Gemini, meaning that I am largely attracted to Geminis..


  90. I read somewhere on astrologyzine.com “What attracts men” section lol hmm thought Rising n Ascendant is the same thing..?


  91. Soree got confused w/ the ascendant rising thing lol


  92. Okay im totally confuse rite now lol ..so is Rising n Ascendant the same thing?..and whats Descendant, how do i find all this?..lol Think im in need of basic astrology lesson:)


  93. on May 27, 2008 at 11:13 pm | Reply brightstarlights

    hi guys,
    first of all, i wanted to thank you all for your very insightful comments. I am learning a lot from you! Secondly, to answer some question.
    - The rising sign is also known as the ascendant (they are the same thing) this is the sign on the cusp of your first house and represents you exterior personality to a certain extent. first house is the house of YOU
    - the sign opposite the ascendant is the descendant. this is the sign on the cusp of the seventh house. the seventh house is the house of the OTHER, in your life, all kinds of partners including marriage partner. We tend to be very attracted to people whose sun sign is our descendant. example. A Sagittarius rising person would be very attracted to Geminis. There may also be planets in Cancer in the seventh house, and thus they might also be attracted to Cancers
    - People can certainly be attracted to people whose sun sign is the same as their Venus or Mars sign, however, in my experience the greatest ***attraction*** to both friends and romantic partners is people who sun sign is your moon sign (or vice versa), ascendant sign or descendant sign (or the co-ruler of the 7th house).
    Hope this helps. xx
    Aurora


  94. Much enlighted luvly jubly:) ..yet stil hav so much id luv 2learn! THANX aurora 4takin tym 2reply!Jus wanna say luvin the site gr8 stuf:) Kx ps. How can i find which sign is in my 7th house..?


  95. Its come 2me took a while but i got it!..lol so its the sign Opposite My Rising rite ..so apparently im like attracted 2leos hmm but im actually not lol i find leos kinda aggressive n a bit overpowering theyre kinda possessive too n a bit too “into themselves and soo vain n really fussy bout their hair hehe sorry!..altho sayin all that theyre really generous:D SO it really does come down 2certain planet influencing ones Birthchart;) idk lol Kx


  96. Who is the best looking sun sign?


  97. To generalise physical appearance i hav a tendency 2wards (Element wise) it wud b a toss between earth & air then water and then fire sign.. men & women but especially women cos we r more beautiful creatures lol;)


  98. Question for whoever is willing to answer.. lol. I am an aquarius as previously stated and am dealing with a scorpio now. I wanted to know if Scorpios can usually tell if Aquarians like them, or are they as confused by our friendliness to everyone as well? Because I’m getting a strong vibe that the scorpio likes me, but my aquarius friend who saw us together couldn’t even tell that I liked him… Just curious if it is as obvious as we think it might be or if you can’t really tell if we like you, like most other people can’t as I have read… Thanks for any reply!


  99. No i can’t tell


  100. I know K i find Earth sign especially Taurus women attractive than most then i would say Libra then Scorpios and last but not least lovely Leos


  101. LOL tootsie wow dats exactly wat i think haha but lets not 4get the straightlaced virginal virgos, quirky beauty of aquarius, those dreamy eyes of pisces n da confidence of an aries! ;)


  102. P- it’s not obvious at all. No matter how many compliments and flirtations.

    In the back of our minds there is always doubt. Because we KNOW Aquas love their friends and are nice and charming to all of them.

    So no clue. Nada. Just a shred of …wonder


  103. How are we supposed to know? What are some clues we Scorps should pick up on, P, that distinguishes us from the horde of friends?


  104. For example, P. An Aquarius man asked me what type of man I’m attracted to and do I think I’d like to be married. This is the second time he’s asked me this.

    What’s the purpose of this? Is he trying to make sure I like him? Or is this one of those impersonal Aqua questions like what did I have for breakfast?


  105. Thanks Synthia… I really appreciate the reply and am actually kind of happy that he (most likely) can’t tell I like him… a sticky situation, I’m not sure I want to get involved in.. lol but anyway..

    That is actually a great question…. lol One I’m still trying to figure out myself actually…

    I think a way to look at it is we are constantly researching and studying people. So we put them through tests… if you get more and more questions asked to you and we spend a lot of time with you at one point, then go off on our own for awhile, but always come back, then you know we like you. I think it’s basically like the more tests you feel you are being put through, the more we like you… because if you didn’t pass the one “relationship” test we had, then we will drop you as a potential mate… but you can still be our friends. lol I don’t know if any of that makes sense…

    Basically, the more questions we ask you, and the more personal they get, the more we like you and want to spend time with you (whether it be as a friend, or more)… but if he asked you a question about marriage more than once, I’d definitely say he was interested, personally.. (read it as another “test” to see if you can handle him or if your views are similar to his..)

    Honestly, I’d say try giving him some space or treating him differently.. say, if you ignore him one day, see if he stares at you or looks like he wants to talk to you… OR you can try being direct and staring him down with that infamous stare and flirting strongly with him, and see how he reacts… if he looks ready to jump away, he probably just sees you as a friend. But if he continues the banter, it’s a good sign, I’d say..

    I know we are hard to understand, and honestly, I can’t tell myself sometimes if I actually like someone or if it’s just convenient because I know they like me, and hey, they’re alright, I’ll try it for a while… kind of thing. idk lol. Another point is I personally waver with a lot of my decisions, because as said before, aquarians in general are constantly testing things, so if you didn’t pass one test, you might surprise us by passing another one and you could be put back in the running for a potential mate…. It’s a constant struggle, I know… I’m sorry, lol.. I hope that somewhat helps, and good luck!


  106. p.s. the more we like you, the more we will begin to open up emotionally as well…. it takes A LOT of time, but slowly you will start to get things out of us as long as you are patient and give us space and time to do it at our own pace…


  107. p.p.s. lol sorry… Aquarius always wants to keep their emotions and crazy thoughts guarded, because they’re not entirely sure how to compartmentalize and sort them through to understand them, so if we like you, we might also ignore you in a group setting and play it off as nothing… inside we are dying and going crazy (especially with scorpio.. lol)

    But in all honesty, just look at something as simple as body language.. are his feet pointed towards you when you two talk? Does he want a personal space barrier or is he ok with you touching him? Does he seem to stand in a way to assert his masculinity around you? etc… it’s all relevant.


  108. hey, i am the opposite way around here im an aquarius girl who is in love with a scorpio guy. it is so confusing he tells me how much he likes me and wants to be with me and asks me to text him but then when i do he doesnt text me back… i dont understand why he would tell me all these nice things and ask to be with me and then just ignore me.. is this typical of a scorpio guy? thanks


  109. Lol, sorry i’m amused, not at you Kathrine, because YES it is typical of scorps male to do that! Best thing to do is give him a taste of his own medicine, keep him on his toes, remember that YOU are in control! Try it, you’ll see his reaction, although he will try to hide it and very well at doing that too! Play mind games, (he’ll love it!) that should keep him more interested. Good luck, keep us posted!


  110. I agree with Tootsie.

    And thanks P, that makes a lot of sense.


  111. No problem, glad I somewhat helped… lol


  112. thanks a lot tootsie! i seen him the other night and he just completely blanked me so im guessing he is no longer interested.. i dont know why he said al that stuff to me in the first place then. i did kind of play a mind game with him though because one of my ex’s wants to get back with me and my friend told the scorpio but i dont know if hes bothered…


  113. well as a scorpio that never does anything but extremes i have found out in a totally heartbreaking way that aquarians like their distance i knew it all along but kept pushing in all the wrong ways….so viola nada….we might think we are alll great on the astrological stream but please listen to the advice that is given on this thread….i read it but let my always intense emostions get the better of me and struck out ….. a word to the scorpio girl and aquariuius guy


  114. Hi Marian!!
    I understand the frustration it must be causing you.
    I think you should totally stop manipulating your aqua guy to get what you want. let it be anything… No manipulations.
    Aquas totally need to trust people before they open upto them. So manipulation of any sort is a total turn-off. DON’T DO IT. You might be thinking that he is not smart enough to find that manipulation but that’s not the case it’s just that we don’t like creating scene with all the emotional drama so he might not say it openly but that will surely be expressed in his behaviour in some way. I think he doesn’t realise how much he hurts you by being distant. It’s just so much in our nature that it takes some time to change. I think you should sit with him and tell him calmly and sincerely about his distancing act. Don’t be overbearing, don’t be too emotional.. but very sincere. I can very well assure you that if he realises how much hurt he is causing you by remaining distant he will improve. Aquas don’t like hurting people. Especially the ones they really care for. So just try it. let me know. Take care. Bye.


  115. THE BOTTOM LINE IS BE STRAIGHT FORWARD.


  116. Rutu that was a great answer.. seriously, nice job, and I definitely concur.

    By the way, for those of you reading I thought you might find this interesting… Apparently not a well known thing about the zodiac signs, but there is thing thing called Antiscia, which means “opposite shadow” in greek, and it refers to zodiac signs that normally are said to not work, but they have an extra connection. Almost like opposite signs a little, but different. If you scroll down on this forum there’s a big explanation of it and everything and all the antiscia couples..

    By the way, guess which is the Scorpio antiscia? Aquarius…. lol

    So maybe it’s not as big a secret as we thought? But still pretty interesting…

    http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/008064.html


  117. Marion, I think you should explain in detail the situation you are in. In that way I think we can help better. And also please give me some insight to Scorpio woman’s nature.


  118. on June 12, 2008 at 8:56 pm | Reply Onewordspoken

    So I ran across this site today and was totally fascinated. First about me: My birthday is 2/18/79 and I have a moon in Scorpio, and an aries rising. Had my chart done a while ago, but totally can’t remember it all. Sue me.

    I am totally astonished by some of the hate generated online about aquarians. There is actually a whole website dedicated to how “awful” we are. And yet here is a site with scorpio women who are attracted to us. I find that encouraging. Mostly because aquarius men are just mis-understood. I’d dare say the only person who can come even remotely close to understanding an aquarius is another aquarius.

    I had a buddy of mine who was also an aquarius on the capricorn cusp and it was fascinating to watch him “work his magic” with the ladies. I knew every step of the way how his humor and eyes that showed mischief were leading this girl down a path that would have her adoring him. I recognized it because thats what we all do! (they are still together to this day by the way…and she too is a scorpio)

    On a personal note, I was in a relationship for 2 years with a scorpio woman. It ended sadly because she had some life issues, that just comepletely shut me out. Friendship wise and all. So i left with all the broken pieces of my heart and suffered silently telling no one the real story, and just saying things did not work out when anyone would ask. So I have some insight.

    Scorpio’s and aqua’s will work. But it takes some bassackwards thinking on both parts. Learning to deal with her jealousy, about drove me nuts. I couldn’t talk to girls, or if i looked at one she’d freak. She actually once picked up a steak knife! And although I think she was half-joking…….well i think she was half-joking. lol. And possessive as all hell. I always felt she was asking me questions to “catch” me at something.

    She learned quickly enough, that aquarians don’t deal with jealousy like others. And mind games you will lose. I’ll admit i’ve done the sidestep truth thing. When you ask an aquarius a yes or no question make sure you get a “yes” or a “no”. Otherwise we can spin tales so wonderous, that it borders on a novel we came up with. And we can do it on the spot. :( And even remember we told you 12 months later. Be very careful playing mind games or thinking you will get the best of Aqua’s. We have an inner ear so to speak that just tells us what you’re up to. But we use it for good too. We can know you’re hurt without you saying anything. We can know you’re depressed and that you’d like to talk about it. We can know you’re upset and decide that laughter is the best gift we can give you. Take it all in stride.

    I would say that being with an aqua can be the most wonderful, and gut-wrenching experience you can have. But it can be so rewarding, if you can be patient, avoid head games, indulge him in his head games, and pat his ego from time to time. If you can do that, the dreaded “aqua silence” and random tongue-lashings can turn into whispers in your ears that will make your legs weak, and body tingle.

    So much more to write….and yet this is already a wall of text. Sorry for it being so long, or if I rambled off topic. :)


  119. Aww. That’s sweet.

    Don’t worry about the “wall of text.”

    More!


  120. on June 13, 2008 at 12:41 pm | Reply Onewordspoken

    What would you like to know? The truth is that most aquarians don’t understand themselves all that well. A relationship is a great way to figure oneself out. There is a great deal of self- awareness for aquarians that stems from just curiousity.

    Im going to say something very painful. A lot of aquarians when you meet them or see them as a potential partner will eventually test you. A lot. You could be someone he considers life-long, or you could be his current “project”. Which brings me to if he sees you life-long. If he sees you as a potential partner, you have to keep the “project” so to speak going. There has to be a reason for him intellectually to continue seeing you. With Aquarius the head rules. And not the southern head. He wants to be kept fascinated. In all honesty nothing like the secretivness of a scorpio helps that lol. There is a constant, “Whoa, i’d have never guessed!” Scorpio people in general are freaking awesome. And I don’t think there is another sign out there that can handle a scorpio’s anger outbursts, better than the cool-headed aquarius. Even though I frequently heard how frustrated she’d get with me, for diffusing her anger. After a bit of time, the scorpio I was with didn’t bother with the silent treatment, or screaming at me. She just would sit me down, and say, “wtf”. She was after all…..still a scorpio. :)

    I’ll give you a catch-phrase that I think works well with aqua’s. And I say this because we can be unbelievably stubborn. Try to stay away from “You will” statements. Or “You HAVE to” comments. Try this one instead:

    “What would make me happy is if you _________”

    Make sure this is NOT after you have opened up your soul and bared every emotion known to God and man into his lap.

    Aqua’s at their deepest level enjoy making people laugh. They enjoy, helping others, as long as sticky, unpredictable emotions don’t show their head all that often. I can’t even begin to think about how uncomfortable they make me. Meeting girls in my past who, “Cried for the sake of crying”. What? Totally don’t understand that. lol. But that may be just a guy thing.

    Perhaps some other aqua’s on here can comment, and help out some of these ladies. I’ve been on like 4 other sites the past few days, and there are some angry women out there with Aqua men in particular. Lol. Whole sites dedicated to what we do, and how to “combat” it. Pfft.

    A friendship with an aqua, is easy. No emotional strings. The moment we cross that line, there feels like this pressure. Pressure to be like all the guys you girls swoon over in movies, with all their perfect romantic lines, and ideas. I can’t speak for others but for me, it always sounded so fake coming out of my mouth. So weird. And I always felt like she would pick up on this “fake” feeling, and would think I wasn’t sincere in how I felt. When in reality I was so trying to make her understand how wonderful she was to me.

    Im thinking of anything else I can say that will help you guys. It’s a fine line for sure. The problem is going to be when you realize he has allowed you to think you’re in the drivers seat, and really all along he’s been in control. It will piss you off. :( But if you want the ride of your life you have to play by his rules. Because to him, the only reality that counts is the one he’s made up. Go along with it sometime just for fun. :)

    Man im longwinded. Maybe it’s because i’m supposed to be working. lol


  121. I totally agree with these comments above. BULL’S EYE……
    Just sort of busy now. will comment later.


  122. As always… interesting stories OneWordSpoken.

    Just one caveat … Scorpios won’t just “go along” for the ride with anyone — not even if it’s an intriguing Aqua.

    She’d probably just ride off into the sunset.

    ;-)


  123. Synthia just explain that better PLEASE…..
    What could be the reasons????


  124. The reasons?

    :-)

    I’m sorry. . We have our vision and strongly held beliefs about the experiences we want to have too.

    OneSpokenWordsaid “But if you want the ride of your life you have to play by his rules.”

    Um… Scorpios, with all their passion and fire, can have the ride of their lives anything they want. We could definitely take Aquas for an out of the world spin.

    So, who’s the true force behind this ride? Scorpios don’t play long by any rules.

    I think in a pairing like this Aquas have no choice but to give…and hopefully they’ll be seduced by the whirlwind that is Scorpio.

    It has to be a mutual concession between these signs. Or else, I personally as a Scorpio would walk away.

    My strategy is to understand Aquas and how they operate and to leverage that — not conform to it.

    Ante up.


  125. on June 15, 2008 at 7:21 am | Reply dark_underpass

    wow. I cannot believe this thread exists. I am currently tossing and turning, unable to sleep tonight, over an Aqua guy I’ve been crushing on. (might have to do with the caffeine I consumed throughout the day-but alas, I am awake thinking about him.lol.)I’ll explain our story later.
    and yes, I am a Scorpio chick. He and I both born in 1981.
    I used to be WAY into astrology, but havent been in years. Something made me get out of bed and check our compatibility. (not like the outcome would necessarily make me give up lol)

    Wow. can’t wait to chat some more tomorrow.


  126. on June 15, 2008 at 11:52 am | Reply Onewordspoken

    Synthia, good to see you again. :)

    You’re right in that both signs will have to give mutual concession. You’re wrong in that aquarius will do that for scorpio passion, or for the whirlwind. They aren’t wired like that.

    By the phrase “But if you want the ride of your life you have to play by his rules” I meant that aquarius is not going to be able to emotionally do some things naturally that alot of other signs will. If you want to know what he’s thinking you’ll have to ask him and ask him directly. Subtly hinting at it, or suggesting things will not get you anywhere. And so you having to ask is what I mean by a typical “rule”. There are of course exceptions. And one would hope that aquarius’s everywhere are slowly learning to pick up on hints and the like. :)

    I wish you the sincerest luck on your strategy. But being a scorpio you are already the most fascinating Sign in the zodiac to an aquarius. Just not for some of the reasons that other signs find you fascinating. :)

    From my experience scorpio’s have made the some of the best friends, and drinking buddies I’ve ever had. My ex was wonderful too.


  127. on June 15, 2008 at 11:57 am | Reply Onewordspoken

    Rutu,

    Did I read earlier that you were interested in dating a scorpio woman?


  128. Aww. One Word! You mean my Scorpio passion won’t tame an Aqua, redirect him or make him putty in my hands eventually?

    Well, I’ve been wasting my bravado then — and you’re right. it’s not working that well :-(

    I think I’m probably not going to end up landing this guy in the way that I want. But the sport of it is fun.

    One more question, then. Please don’t say something mysterious like Scorps are the most fascinating to Aquas but not for the reasons that others find us fascinating. (!)

    What does that mean! Tell me the secret about what Aquas truly find fascinating about us? I’m pretty sure it’s our cerebral depth…which, right, is generally wasted on others who just think about the sex!

    But I’m tired of wasting my ideas and great conversations on something that’s going to end up just being platonic.
    :-(


  129. on June 15, 2008 at 6:29 pm | Reply Onewordspoken

    Synthia,

    Honestly some of the best stuff I can remember is how mad she would get. Lol. I would keep the phrase, “That bitch said what!!!???” Handy alot. I found if I wasn’t on her side about most things, then I was immediately seen as an “enemy”. Sometimes it was fun being an “enemy”.

    I think tha the whole “scorps are really heavy into sex” thing is a little over played. I think the Passion word throws that into a little spin. Because sex is just sizzzzzzzzle with these two. But it’s really about how deep that passion truly goes thats amazing. How deeply their emotions are connected into everything they do.

    And the whole secrative nature scorpio’s put off. There always was something I knew she wasn’t telling me. Like she was keeping it just for herself. But she was smart, and witty. Funny as all hell. And a lot of fun to be around.

    On the other hand she seemed to enjoy drama, and ALWAYS had the next greatest problem in her life on the horizon. She always would talk to me about those things, because I would “make her laugh” and I suppose it made her feel good about things.

    She admitted I had a way of diffusing her anger. She’d blow up all white smoking hot about a subject, and wonder why it didn’t bother me so much. If she was angry, and I was happy, she’d get pissed. I had to be angry right up there with her. Upset with whomever, and whatever had gotten that scorpio tail a wavering. It got tiring being mad all the time. lol.

    What fascinated me about her most was how independent she could be to the outside world. I always felt like I was in some sort of personal bubble, that only she and I shared. Especially when it came down to her anger. When she was upset with me, to our friends she’d be all cordial and kind never letting on her feelings about me at that moment. When they left it would return to the skin-peeling eye glare. But I knew that she loved me when she did things like that. And even though angry, didn’t want others to see it. That anger was meant just for me. And as stupid as it may sound, there was a sense of security in that. The fact that I liked her anger in that way would usually make her more mad, so it was a never-ending cycle lol.

    I dated a cancer for a few years. My first true heart-break. And she couldn’t decide on things if her life depended on it. I like a scopio’s ways of knowing what they want, and when they want it.

    Also scorpio’s understand stuff without having to be told anything. That aqua “cave time” where we kind of stay to ourselves for a length of time, is generally understood better by scorpio’s. At least in my experience. And once you get over the soul-seething anger they show you when you return, they are usually accepting of it. I miss her actually. :( Anger and all….

    *sigh* Scorpio’s are a wonderful sign. And can’t really be compared to any other sign. They are so unique that an aquarius will find them almost irresistable due to that very thing. The sex (which most other signs are looking for) follows much afterwards.

    Wall.

    Of.

    Text.

    Don’t give up on all aqua’s. We aren’t all the same. And imo given a learning curve, and some time….throw in a little bit of understanding on his part, and some closeness, where he feels more secure…you can make him putty in your hands. Just don’t use your typical Passion (which works on others) to try and do it. Just be funny, and yourself. Think of him as a friend with benefits, and don’t put any pressure on him to put his feelings into words. Don’t try to be anything….nothing more frustrating than trying to be something you already are….and that is wonderful…and irresistable.


  130. on June 15, 2008 at 6:53 pm | Reply Onewordspoken

    Oh and synthia,

    One more thing, then I’ll stop posting, becase franky i don’t usually talk this much, and I feel rather guilty taking like 3/4 this page’s realty space on my rambling.

    One more thing to add though:

    The most wonderful thing about scorpio’s is that once you get past that hard shell, they are soft. But the moment they let you in on that, you’ve become a life mate whether you like it or not.

    The scorpio I was with sometimes at night would cry while telling me about something painful. And even nights where no sex was involved she would lay on my shoulder (like i was a warming rock for lizards) and speak softly about how she truly felt about whatever was happening in her life. It was in THOSE moments I became enamored. Because I knew how much trust and love she must have had for me to be so lucky to share that part of herself.

    Weeks after I would say something careless, she’d share with me a story of something that had happened to her in the past, and how that simpole statement had hurt her to her very core. Leaving me swearing on the inside I’d never come close to that subject again.

    Scorpio’s have an emotional depth like none other I have seen. But not in a cry-your-eyes out temper tantrum way. It’s just the feelings they have are so deep, Im not sure I completely understand them to this day. But I would always tell her she had enough feelings for us both. And that I would let her handle the emotions department if she’d let me handle preparing ahead of time department. (This girl will be later for her own funeral).

    Scorpio’s are a present to society that I think has been marred by the “they like sex” thing so much that their true beauty, which is the ability to feel passionately about subjects others would dismiss, has been lost. They are accepting, unless you cross them, and forgiving unless you act unforgivable, and they have another side to them, that is so much worth getting to know, that I’m not sure I can find all the words to describe it.


  131. Hi. I just found this thread last night and i am fascinated!
    but for some reason my post was not posted! anyway. i dont want to type any more unless it will be posted so this is a test post. lol

    i am a scorp girl into an aqua guy. both born in 1981.
    he’s driving me nuts!

    more to come….


  132. Hi Rose!

    @ OneWordSpoken. That was beautiful. It made me want to cry. You have reminded me of myself…reminded me not to sell my passions cheaply by linking them too closely with sex.

    C U on the other side!


  133. Hi Rose!

    @ OneWordSpoken. That was beautiful. It made me want to cry. You have reminded me of myself…reminded me not to sell my passions cheaply by linking them too closely with sex.

    C U on the other side!


  134. i think my ongoing saga is SUCH a typical Scorpio Woman/Aquarius Male story!

    I worked with him for about 9 mos. We worked RIGHT next to each other and became fast friends. He and I were both attached to other significant others for a greater part of that time and I wasn’t necessarily attracted to him at first sight. (kinda goofy looking!) My boyfriend and I ended up breaking up about 6 mos ago and i moved to nyc. (where i was commuting for work- which is also where Aqua lives.) My new roommates and i ended up throwing a huge party in Feb and he showed up later in the night and we hooked up .(he had been on the outs with his gf but i think they were tech. still together!) that night we hooked up we were drunk but we remembered everything. he basically professed his feelings(crush) for me the entire time and it was SO passionate.(no sex but OH.MY.GOD.) he didnt want to leave. he couldnt stop kissing me and telling me how much he wished we didnt work together and how he loves our friendship and little talks at work and thinks i am gorgeous and “perfect” etc… it was flattering but i had to kick him out and remind him he had a gf and we worked together.
    well, from that night on i was hooked. i had been crushing but i wouldnt admit it. it wasnt weird after that. in fact, we became better friends. he tried to keep it platonic, and so did i, at least til he was single. we had many heart-to-hearts, him even coming to me for advice on his gf who he had been trying to break off with (they moved to ny together and lived together). so we basically kept flip-flopping back and forth between friends and “crushes”. mostly friends. but there were a few more times where we ended up making out passionately. he asked me to a concert once, and once we went to a bar for drinks, both ended up in kissing and talking about how we had crushes on each other. i played it very cool this whole time, except for the last night we kissed. i felt like i was too drunk and threw myself at him. even tho he responded and couldnt resist, he kept saying how we needed to stop…at least until he was single. and kept repeating “we’re friends Rose, just friends for now, lets just wait a bit ok?.” with that im-trying-to-convince-myself-and-resist-this-girl tone lol. and i respected that, and i was also VERY verbal about myself being anti-relationship since i had just recently gotten out of a 3 yr long one. i kept repeating that because a. it WAS sorta true and B. i didnt want him to think i was pressuring him into anything serious. i really just thought we could have a super casual little relationship when he became single and SLOWLY just would see where it would go. im not desperate. i just like him so much. so about a month after that he comes to work all sad and eventually tells me he broke up with her and moved out. i felt bad because i know how hard that was since i did it myself too. so i was there for him through that. i knew that in time he’d be ok and maybe we could at least make out hehe. i backed off tho and let him call the shots.

    well, basically, since he’s been single, we havent hooked up ONCE. i attributed it to him not being ready and being all emotionally weird because of the breakup. so i continued to just play it cool and assumed he’d come around. but, he hasnt. he continued to be super-friendly with me, even still admitting he has a crush on me and once mentioning he was cool with us casually hanging and fooling around once in awhile. then about 3 weeks ago, an overhaul happened at our job and a shitload of us all got fired, including he and i. he seemed very hesitant to hang out with me after that. he was single and we didnt work together anymore, isnt that what he wanted?! we hung out once right after that and we spent the day riding bikes and having lunch. not fooling around at all. but he had been telling me how his friends were telling him to go out and meet girls and how he just wasnt in the mood since the breakup and how he needed to be alone and learn how to be alone. i enforced that, always telling him he needed to stay single and just play the field (i would be fine with that, if he dated around but also included me ; ) haha) he kept mentioning that so i assumed that when i tried to kiss him when we parted that day, and he politely rejected me, it was because of the mindset he was still in since the breakup. he did also mention to me that he still had a “little crush” on me. well, he ended up getting a new job. im still unemployed, doing freelance here and there. i also just found out a few days ago, that he had hung out with a girl THE DAY BEFORE he and i spent that day together riding bikes, and my friend forwarded me a picture on her myspace page of them sitting next to each other, with her hand on his lap, in that very “we’re dating” way. WTF?! is he THAT needy?, that was a quick rebound! jeez! im very hurt that it wasnt me…why her??? the girl is VERY homely looking and he isnt all over her in the pic, but still. i assumed they were dating. which is weird because he was always like “rose, i need to try so hard to stay single this time, im always jumping into relationships one after the other after the other” and i was like “yes, u need to be single for about a year.” (i was mainly his friend, we had lots of heart-to-hearts and he knew i didnt want to date him so he felt he could tell me things like this) so i am confused. why didnt he tell me about her that day? why did he tell me he still had a crush on me that day and he’d be willing for us to casually see each other and “maybe make out”-he said with a giggle. lol
    now i CAN’T admit to him that i saw this pic. he keeps emailing me about his new job and just catching up and keeps mentioning how we need to hang out soon, and i miss you! and i even let him borrow a camera of mine, which he still has. i feel like im losing him. we havent seen each other in 3 weeks and hes slowly contacting me less and less. i fear that it is because of this girl. but i really dont know anything. those pics were taken a month ago almost and he could still be playing the field. the pics just looked so couple-ey! im sure hes embarassed to tell me because of our almost “pact” to not get involved with anyone and focus on being single. it was almost like we planned to be each other’s fake bf or gf when we had those couple urges but not be obligated to each other.
    but since we left work, ive missed him so….and i texted him once saying that. and he wrote back “aw i miss you too rose!”
    i dont know how to play it now! im trying to let him make all the contact now. theres nothing i can do…

    PHEW theres my story. sorry for the novel!


  135. I just kind of stumbled on to this site looking for obviously Aquarius Scorpio compatibility. Most of the times what you want is the real stuff not the confusing rambling sentences which most books and articles just give about compatibility and how the other sign is right or wrong for you.
    Though most of the conversations here (i did look through the whole bunch) were interesting in the end, it just isn’t enough. Maybe it is because Scorpio women are so hard to open up. You can actually feel the heat from them and it just is so hard to keep a lid on your emotions. There is this particular person and whenever I see her, i actually can sense my physical being gravitating towards her but at the same time being drawn back by the thought of what would happen if she would just cold shoulder me. You want to touch the magnetic sensuality but still the fear of being drawn into her not being able to escape makes you fritter away your time. Yet, still afraid that just cavorting around might bore her and she will walk away. Thus leading us to continuously go back and forth not knowing what to do. It is just a simple request to all Scorpio women who like Aquarius men – Please, Please, Please just seduce them – make them weak and desperate for you and if the fool just jumps around not knowing what to do – catch hold of him and tell him what you want. Even then if he cannot stay then let the crackpot waste the rest of his life ruing the heavenly pleasures he has forgone.


  136. Anyhow, my personal problem is a quandary since the person is a subordinate who I am responsible for. Hence, the simple mechanics of a relationship which would work for colleagues and peers don’t work here.


  137. on June 16, 2008 at 2:28 am | Reply Onewordspoken

    Hi Rose!

    You’re story is not uncommon apparently. Wish I could say differently.

    There is a risk you’re going to have to decide if you want to take or not. You’ll have to do either one of two things in my opinion.

    Either ignore him completely, and just trust he’ll come back around.

    Or, send him a text saying something similar to this: “I know you are hurting right now, I want you to know I still think about you, and would like to see you. But whenever YOU’RE ready we can do that. Hit me back whenever.

    Either way it’s a risk. He could be pulling away for a ton of reasons I think. My suggestion is to be very direct.

    He may not respond for a while. And you’ll have to adopt his attitude towards those things. Aloofness. Tell yourself you’re gonna give this guy a certain amount of time to respond. Like a month or something. If you don’t see that then start seeing someone else. And if he comes back around, let him know he had his chance, and he missed it. (Is hard I know)

    Remember a couple of things….Oh scorpio. If you get jealous of this girl, remember how he has kept you at bay, and managed to avoid sex with someone he has said he has a crush on. So he will probably do the same with her. IF thats even her intent. Who knows the situation behind all that really.

    Secondly, He most likely had you in mind when he left his GF. He Knew you would want to be with him, when he finally did. So I doubt he has forgotten about it.

    Patience is going to be your only real weapon here. You’ll have to avoid ANY type of clinginess you scorpion you. Aquarius’s love to act like they are not paying attention. But I can guarantee you that he was, and probably more so than you realize.

    Keep us posted. And perhaps synthia or Ratu has some more suggestions for you. :)


  138. thanks for your insight Oneword. I am afraid that, unfortunately, he is not keeping this girl at bay, but just me because he had lost interest once he met her and hasnt known how to tell me and maybe even keeping me around just in case, since he obviously still does not know what he wants and probably still doesnt want to get too seriously involved with ANYONE. he once said he is very needy and cannot be alone. obviously this girl is his rebound and he needed to jump into it to feel the pain.

    it just sucks that it wasnt with me. i dunno. i guess this girl was a clean slate for him, thats all.

    and youre right, i dont know what is going on with them, i just saw a picture. just assuming he’s been seeing a lot of her since he’s pulled away from me.

    i have to see him eventually to get my camera back. i really dont need it and im sure he’ll contact me eventually to hang out and/or just to give it back. part of me wants to pretend i need it just so i can see him. haha but play it off real cool.
    i just dont know how to handle that. i feel like i shouldnt text him anymore cuz i sent the last one about a week or so ago asking him if he wanted to go for a drink but he said he was working late (could be a lie) but “friday will be fun tho!” (i had a party this past friday night. guess what, he didnt show!
    but texted me yesterday morning apologizing for not coming..but to make sure i post the pictures on my flickr.

    *sigh*
    so i just played cool again and said “no worries! there’ll be plenty more.”

    soooo….i really think i need to lay off totally.

    if anything wait a week and text him or email him saying i need my camera back…

    ugh. he makes me crazy and we made plans to hang out so much this summer…..

    Oneword, what did you mean when you said you can guarantee he was paying attention? paying attention to what?

    ive been super aggressive and intense in the past, and have learned from my mistakes. however, i have never been a clingy girlfriend for some reason. which i think is weird for me being a scorpio. i feel like i have been playing this off very cool this time around though. i still always feel like i can get him with my looks, because thats what i know first attracted him. i know it is shallow but it cant hurt. :) ill just make sure i put the best pictures of me on my flickr from the party and let him see what he missed! hahaha

    and apparently he doesnt always go for looks, judging by this new possible girl… her facebook says her bday and she is a capricorn. wonder if that makes her special. hmmmmmm….


  139. oops edit last post. end of 1st paragraph: *HEAL the pain not FEEL the pain.


  140. on June 16, 2008 at 5:57 am | Reply Onewordspoken

    How can anyone lose interest in a scorpio? *shock* lol. Move away from thinking your passion or looks will win this guy. It’s a strength you carry with other signs. You’ll have to pique his interest intellectually. You’re a scorpio. You’re brainy. Obviously intelligent, and can articulate what you want clearly.

    Don’t try jealousy to get him interested either. We aren’t wired like that. ;)

    All aquarius will act as if they are not interested sometimes, or are bored, or aren’t listening when you speak. But I bet you he can repeat back to you every word you said. Could probably do it 6 months later. Hell, i’ve even feigned like i’ve forgotten stuff before, just so my GF wouldn’t think I was some sort of memory bank freak. What I’m saying is that we remember stuff. And we watch carefully. Every move, every action. It’s like you’ve been put under a microscope. It really is very calculating. Before you think that you’re alone in that though, lemme bust your ego and say we do that to everyone. Even the local bum down the street. We are very watchful of himan behavior.

    Def show him what he missed on your flickr. :)

    Im still thinking give it time. You don’t know what this girl is all about. And as a capricorn….well no offense cappy’s, but you don’t hold a candle to a scorpio. It’s just the truth.

    I’d send him a text like once a week. Reminding him you are there. Nothing mushy, just a “hey whats up”. Don’t invite him to do anything or go anywhere, just see what he’s doing.

    Whatever your next card is, it’s important. So play it wisely and go with your gut.

    My grandfather before he died gave me this advice: “Don’t be afraid to take risks. Because you don’t want to get to the end of your life and wonder what may have happened, if you’d just had the balls to do it. And by the time you have regret, it’s too late”


  141. Hi Rose!!!
    Well, let me try to analyaze the situation using my logic!
    You said he kept mentioning about how you and him should wait till he gets single. But he couldn’t stop himself from kissing you or admitting his crush for you.
    My guess is that he still must be feeling guilty about cheating on his girlfriend. He SHOULD HAVE WAITED. And he couldn’t.
    Aquas have this strong sense of RIGHT and WRONG things. He knew what he was doing was wrong but couldn’t control his emotions. There must be some struggle going inside him over this. Then he broke-up with his gf. One more break-up… I am sure he had YOU on his mind when he broke-up. But again breaking up isn’t good and he is surely guilty of cheating on his gf. He knows it…..
    He told you he should be single for some time.. But what if he cann’t control his urge to kiss you whenever he sees you…..Or be with you…
    There is this thing like he knows what to do but cann’t control his emotions and thus there is struggle.. so the better way to control these emotions is to avoid you for some time. Till he gets over all these OVERBEARING emotions like GUILT and ATTRACTION.
    My guess for this girl is that she just a way to unwind from the past. Seeing you will remind him of the PAST. Most probably she is just another friend… And I am sure he still remembers all those things he said to you.
    You shouldn’t call him to join him for party or anything but instead just tell him there is a party. let him decide…..
    Be in contact with him through texts or through a common friend. But keep it casual… And wait. I wouldn’t suggest you to start seeing someone else. beacause he needs to know and WANTS to know you are there…
    Ok ROSE!! More details if you provide will be good.
    Let’s wait and see.


  142. hey Rutu!

    thanks for your opinion!

    see, my problem NOW is that he CAN control his urges when he sees me. lol. he is acting NOW like he should have been when he was taken.
    That is what leads me to believe that the girl in those pictures is a new girl he is actually dating and wants to be faithful to. he cant seem to come out and tell me he’s seeing someone tho. he’d rather just play it off as the im-not-ready thing. im SURE he’s at least kissed this new girl. at least.

    I am torn. Anyone notice the contradictions they have read about how to “deal” with Aquas? not just on here but everywhere:

    on one hand, you should ignore him and spark his interest “i wonder why she hasnt contacted me? hmm i need to study her again!” hence his interest is piqued and he comes running back.

    on the other hand, you should always be there and occasionally let it be known you are there. and try to woo him with your intellect, because thats what they like.

    now rutu, you say to not see anyone else because he wants to know i am always there? wouldnt that make him stay away more? content in knowing i am ALWAYS gonna be there pining away?

    my real problem is how to react in front of him when he finally tells me he has been seeing someone. im sure i will get it out of him somehow(indirectly) when we do get together….even if its just casual drinks when we get together for him to return the camera he borrowed from me.

    im just so afraid that, even though ive known about those pictures for 2 weeks, i feel like hearing it straight from him will make it more “final” and my face will turn bright red and that lid on my emotions will shoot off like a cannon and i will freak him out for good. i want to just react with “oh. oh really? i thought you said you were gonna try to stay single?” “well, thats cool, i hope it works out for you. i mean, im not gonna lie. hearing that definitely upsets me, since i thought you and i really liked each other…”

    and of course i wouldnt say any of this with a sarcastic, bitchy, huffy, “well fine then!” attitude as it may read. i will do it very sweetly and understanding. hah. this is what i WISH i could do. but i know as soon as he says it im gonna get that lump in my throat like i have to go run and puke. haha


  143. on June 16, 2008 at 7:39 pm | Reply Onewordspoken

    THere’s no easy answer I’m afraid.

    All I can tell you is that you NEVER know. EVER. He could tell you that she came onto him, and he’s been trying to get her to leave him alone, but was too afraid to do that. Or….he could tell you he’s happy with her.

    Either way i’m betting you are in for a surprise. And by the way……I think you should say what you wrote above. If and when he tells you he has been seeing her.

    The thing with aqua’s is as soon as they think they’ve been figured out, they change things up. Makes it hard to tell you what he’ll do. Hell i’m not even sure what I’ll do from moment to moment. Makes it hard in those interviews where they ask you whay you’d do in a given situation.

    Stay tuned is what i’d say. Give yourself a time limit to wait for him, or to hear about this girl. Once you’ve hit that time frame, then move on. But he might surprise you.


  144. wow! sounds like my aqua friend….except for the other girl part…..i think….


  145. ps i have calmed down a lot from my last post thanks for your insight….will definately keep you updated


  146. Marion, what if youre the other girl in my situation?! hahaha
    wouldnt that be funny.
    you dont by any chance live in nyc?? lol
    i am interested in your experienced. i will scroll up and read ; )


  147. another interesting note/detail that may or may not have anything to do with whether he likes me or anything to do with being an aquarius….

    He CONSTANTLY is using my name when talking to me. Like “Come on, Rose!”
    “Aw Rose I miss you too!”

    like that, always using my name when talking to me. as if he likes the sound of it or something. lol.

    i NEVER use his name when talking to him. i mean, i would when id have to get his attention or something. we did work together for 9 mos.

    i dunno. just a weird tidbit of info. i tried to notice if he did it to others and it didnt seem like he did. just me.

    even the last time we hung out and i wanted to fool around he was like “come on, rose.”

    i dunno. just weird. is it an Aquarius thing????? i wonder


  148. Hi Rose and Hi Marion!!
    I don’t think this is an aqua thing to use someone’s name so often. I mostly don’t do it. Don’t know if i ever did it unconciously. But it could be because he likes you.
    I think our situation will be a lot clearer if we could know if he is dating that girl.


  149. And Rose don’t start seeing someone till you know for sure that he is serious about this girl. Because we still don’t know the situation between them. Mostly he is just being Friendly with her.
    If he is more than friends with her then I am also very angry with him. He said those things to you and must have meant when he said them… Aquas definitely value their promises this what makes me think that he still has YOU on his mind. It would be very wrong and UN-aqualike on his part not to value those words.
    Tell me is he noble enough in other aspects of his character, as you have worked with him for 9 months that you can expect him to stand by his words.
    Also give me some insight on Scorpio woman’s nature.
    There is this one woman I met on line. What to say she is Absolutely captivating. It’s not like I know her much. we just had wonderful chat for about 3-4 days. then she started asking some questions like she wants to probe me. She would just reach her own conclusions from the information i had given. And I just told her that “I think you are thinking too much.” and that’s really made her MAD. She just got so angry with that. She warned me NOT to say that SHE THINKS TOO MUCH….she said, ” DO NOT INSULT ME BY SAYING I PLAY MIND GAMES… NOR TELL ME THAT I THINK TOO MUCH.. I HAVE BEEN HEARING IT EVER SINCE I BEGAN TO SPEAK AND IT MAKES ME VERY ANGRY WHEN SOMEONE SAYS IT TO ME…” These are her exact words. She hasn’t replied to my requests and also didnt contact me. It’s been more than 3 weeks now. She is terribly interesting. I just cann’t stop thinking of her. I don’t want say like I am interested in her or not. It’s like she so wonderful like it hard to keep away from her. I don’t think there is love or anything. but i need to understand her behaviour.
    Any help?


  150. @Rutu

    thanks again for helping with your input. I am pretty positive that he is seeing this girl. yet, i dont know how serious and i really dont know if he stopped anything before it could start. all i know is that they were holding hands in a picture that i saw. and it wasnt a pose for the camera. it was a candid shot. that is all i know. he never promised me anything. just admitted his crush on me and we talked of how we could “do what we wanted” when he became single. he could very well have just lost interest when this new girl came along. people change their minds…i just wish there was something i could have done (or still do) to make him re-have a crush on me. haha. he still admitted he did when we hung out (2 days after the pics were taken with that girl-but i didnt know that then) he obviously doesnt know what he wants now and i can only hope this rebound girl doesnt last. not like i want to be his rebound girl but i definitely wanted to continue staying friends and slowly moving onto something more because i am crazy about him.
    we are both in the same boat too so i thought he and i would be perfect. we both always got advice from each other about our breakup….and what are the chances this new girl is in the same boat and isnt itching for something he cant give her right now? ya know? i wish i could make him want me but i know i cant. im just going to assume since they were holding hands very lovingly last month, that they are still dating..
    as for your situation, i literally laughed out loud when i read this. this is because i think i once SAID THE EXACT SAME THING TO SOMEONE! maybe more than one occasion. We scorpio girls are VERY defensive, especially over something that is true. we KNOW we think too much. we HATE that we do it. (I obviously do-look at my walls of text on here!lol)
    i hate to say it but if you did not have a decent bond with this girl already, i think youve lost her. i definitely blow up over people pointing out my faults, especially ones ive heard all my life. i think us scorpio girls would rather someone insult our physical appearance over our personality or our intellect. ive had people insult my looks before and got over it quickly, but i once had some guy say i was “dumb” in high school (which im not, but i was thin and blonde back then and acted ditsy-still had a 3.5 GPA tho) and i guess i believed him and i never forgot it. to this day i definitely have an inferiority complex about not being “smart”
    am i rambling? i hope not.
    that just is typical scorpio girl behavior. she probably isnt psycho or blow up that easily, but when we do, run for cover!


  151. THANKS ROSE!!
    I am still thinking about your situation. So need some time.
    And really thanks for that input. I can understand one can get sensitive about such things but then HOW MUCH…it’s been more than 3 weeks and even the walls of SORRYS from me hasn’t made her reply. It’s like I re-read my every written word so as to understand what exactly happened. But by the way she is MORE THAN WORTH all the trouble. She is just amazing……. She is so beautiful in so many ways.. I don’t mean looks. I havn’t seen her. Anyway.
    Take care. Bye for now.


  152. rutu,

    i really hate to say this but it is my true opinion. you talked to her for what? 3-4 days? you dont know her. at all. shes been ignoring you for 3 weeks?
    shes not gonna respond. im sorry. i know i sure as hell wouldnt if i were her. thats how scorpio women are. we can cut people off LIKE THAT. even good friends. some things are just unforgiveable to us, even things most other people would find odd. I’ve cut off very good friends of years for one stupid betrayal. if you hit a certain nerve, youre gone.

    my situation is still a mess. i miss him like crazy…..his friendship mostly.


  153. Yes i agree but we would still think of the person now and then and yet maybe even consider talking to them again but then stubborness kicks in..! As we know Scorpios & Aquarius are both FIXED signs.


  154. Hi Rose!!
    Well now even I am accepting that may be she won’t reply to me. It’s OK. It’s her loss too. And yes I do agree that we talked just for 3-4 days but we talked a lot and had really good understanding. Anyway let’s stop this subject. ONE MORE LESSON ABOUT SCORPIO WOMEN. ( DO NOT TELL THEM THEY THINK A LOT.)
    I wanted some other aquas here to tell me how about straight way asking him if he is seeing this girl in Rose’s case?
    What do you think about it Rose?


  155. on June 18, 2008 at 1:04 pm | Reply Onewordspoken

    I think there should be just a little more time. But I agree that direct questions are usually best. They just can’t be emotionally charged. But that my opinion.

    And if you really like aqua’s, rose there are plenty out there. I think. You always hear about taurus, and scorpio’s and gemini’s. Not a whole lot on Aqua’s. Wonder why that is….

    Meh. I’d give it a little bit. Maybe when you get your camera back, just ask him if he’s seeing anyone. Or how he is healing. If it’s going alright with him. Approach it like you would if you had ZERO emotional desire. Just friends. Just making sure he is okay. Etc.

    But you’ll want to be direct. Ask him if he’s seeing someone, don’t tell him you saw him in a picture. That might not go over so well.

    All my opinion.


  156. on June 18, 2008 at 1:10 pm | Reply Onewordspoken

    Ratu

    I wouldn’t even sweat this girl.

    If she was special, then she’d have recognized special, when you wrote her.


  157. OneWord–

    Does your Scorpio Moon give you SOME intensity and SOME emotion — far beyond the average Aquarius? Have you noticed that?


  158. Hi Onewordspoken!!
    Just explain it more for me…( She would have recognized special, when you wrote her.)
    I wouldn’t have bothered to say sorry to some other person for something I don’t see as a mistake. But then she is INDEED so special… She is very goooood with her words. She is a lot into poetry.
    Anyway it’s time to get over her.


  159. so i just had a little back and forth email chat with my Aquarian and it was just very friendly-nothing more. and thats good, but i want more! and i know hes standoffish because of this girl. it makes me so jealous that we could have TOTALLY had a little fling going on as soon as he became single and we stopped working together. but NO! ugh!

    so i emailed him the link to this indian restaurant i used to tell him about but couldnt remember the name, and now i know. we both loved indian food and restaurants and thats what we used to talk about a lot at work…he also sent out a mass email that his band was playing this friday so i wrote that i couldnt make it b/c of something else and that id maybe be able to stop by the afterparty. so he wrote back with a thanks and that he hopes to see me at the afterparty. then he asked me about how my job search was going and if i had talked to so-and-so and thats really it. so i wrote back answering those questions and mentioning i had a funny story about someone we worked with…yadda yadda. and then i said (but prob shouldnt have) “if i dont make it friday we should definitely hang soon!” so-
    he responded to that with something again about his job and “that sucks about —–, tell me about it soon.”

    and thats it.

    i dunno. hes totally avoiding the whole hanging out thing. if he really wanted me, wouldnt he just go after me??? should i just adopt that whole “HE’S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU” motto?

    this is mainly the reason why I believe he has his mind and heart set on that other girl. Because, can someone REALLY practice THAT much self control when “trying” hard to stay single. esp when they really like a girl????

    can you really have a few heated makeout sessions with a girl and tell her you have a crush on her and then a couple of months later decide you just want to be friends with her?? so weird. is he even trying to be friends with me or just being polite and hoping we phase out??


  160. oh and i mentioned i watched the link in his email for the new music video his band was in and i said “you look hot when you fake-play your bass!” and he responded with “haha thanks!” and then another sentence or two about how the thought the video came out…

    and thats it.

    driving.
    me.
    crazy.


  161. omg rose,
    get a girp he is not into you! I will play devil’s advocate and say about the other girl….that its a play to keep you at at a distance…..i know my aqua guy is totally into me but he has been burned before…..i could tell when we said goodbye on monday….there you go scorpio intuitiveness….lol


  162. if u r a scorpio that has always been held down its really hard to let ur self go


  163. if u r a scorpio that has always let yourself to be held down for the sake of the relationship its really hard to let ur self go….still workin on it…sucks when u r thinking all the time i think thats what makes scorp girls and aqua guys different…and oh so tantalizing at the same time….note to self quit thinking all the time that’s what ur aqua guy wants

    right or wrong….look forward to ur feedback


  164. Marion,
    so you read all of my posts and can honestly say he doesnt like me?
    well, i appreciate you feedback and honesty. its just really hard to accept that because we never dated. he just had a crush on me for a few mos. without me knowing and when i did i considered him… and thats when all that started.
    i just find it hard that he just changed his mind so quickly.


  165. and also, if he wasnt into me, why would he say that he still had a crush on me… and when i brought up the idea of us casually seeing each other and fooling around he said “that might be fun. yea. im down with that” thats what he said 3 weeks ago . the last time we hung out. when we spent 6 hours together. all day. riding bikes and talking at the park.

    however, he didnt follow through and turned me down when i wanted to kiss him.


  166. Hi Rose and Marion!!
    Let’s not spin our heads trying to guess what’s on his mind.
    See Rose said he had crush on her for quite some time but then she wasn’t able to realise it. So if she couldn’t tell what was on his mind back then, then similarly this time also she will probably not able to guess what’s on his mind. And Marion you yourself said that “you wouldn’t know if an aqua guy loves you unless he tells you.”
    So a bit of patience would be nice. And Rose I am finding it difficult to believe that he can change his mind like that. When he said he had crush on you he must have said it when it must be soo overbearing that he cann’t hide it anymore. There is still something in you that he finds attractive.
    @marion,
    How do you know that your aqua is in you? What are the things you observe. And how do you make him understand that you are into him and serious. Asking for my knowledge…


  167. on June 19, 2008 at 12:53 pm | Reply Onewordspoken

    Rose
    Im with Ratu on this one. I would keep myself with the impression he last gave you. Which was that he cared. And yes aquarians have mastered self-control.

    Keep it friendly until you have concrete proof he is with this girl. I’d pretend like she doesn’t exist. Ask him random stupid stuff. Keep it light. No heavy stuff. Nor constantly dropping the “lets hang out” thing. Aquarians are very slippery when they answer stuff.

    @Ratu
    Your situation is a tough one. But in my opinion I would say this: Do you REALLY want to be with a girl that gets offended that easily? We both know you’d try to handle it. But in the end, you’d constantly be walking on eggshells afraid you’d say the wrong thing. When you told her she is thinking too much, sounds to me like that was the truth. I know you’ll come up with justifications. “But she’s been through a whole lot in her life…I could see why she’d think like that”. Pfft. All scorpio’s if you listen to them long enough will start to tell you how hard they’ve got it. There always seems to be that next big challenge awaiting them.

    I’d let her go. Find another scorpio not so easily bruised. It’s worth it. They are good people.

    @ marion
    I wouldn’t stop thinking. Make sure you aren’t trying to control him. Aquarians sense the slightest movement towards manipulation. Our sign is famous for being cold….scorpio signs are famous for wanting to be in control. Even if it means using manipulation. Be careful you are not doing something he thinks or could be presented as controlling. And if you’re not, then he could just be a wascily wabbit. Trying to jump from being too committed. Im afraid I don’t know much about what your situation is. I scrolled up but mus t have missed your post.

    @ synthia
    Whatever do you mean?

    I love my scorpio moon :)


  168. Hi oneword..!
    I can explain to you what Synthia means. She means to say that normally aquas like cold blooded people who have no emotions what so ever and whichever small amount of emotions you get, you get that by having scorpio or some other water planets on your charts.
    Synthia…
    I don’t think aquas are cold people. But there are different ways in which emotions can be displayed. Shouting and screaming is not necessarily the only way. Have you ever helped an aqua ? Did they return your favour. If yes.. then is this cold behaviour.
    Anyway you are not the only person to think this way. We need to take the blame for not being good with emotions. Look in the eyes perhaps you will see some more emotions.


  169. Oneword..
    I am done with that girl. I gave her all the chance and consideration and that’s it. I am not doing it anymore. I suggest she should stuff some cotton in her ears and wear dark glasses to avoid hearing or seeing anything that hurts her supersensitive ego.
    I really want to ask Rose or Marion or Synthia have they ever considered about moderating their extreme behaviour.


  170. Rutu,

    i’ve flipped out like that before, but it’s not common for me. now whenever i do, i always cool down eventually and come back to the person and apologize. that is, if the person is a good friend or family member. if they are an acquaintance or stranger, i don’t even bother. but that’s just me. i know its extreme, but i dunno. it sounds kinda f-ed up but i sorta pride myself on it. if someone pisses me off, they piss me off. i cant help it. helps me weed people out. lol. tho i tend to do this only with people who are very close to me. i do it to my mother mostly. lol. some friends of mine and my roommates would be probably not even believe that i would ever act like this. few people have seen this behavior of mine.

    Oneword,

    damn. i shouldnt have dropped that “lets hang out” bomb huh?
    dammit, he said it in almost every email before that. yet, he’d never follow through.
    a few weeks ago he emailed me when he was visiting family in florida and ended it with “lets kick it when i get back!” yet never made that attempt to “kick it” lol. and once i texted him saying a bunch of friends (whom he knows) and i were going out and would he like to come and he said he was working late.

    why even keep saying we’ll hang out when he may not mean it??? i NEVER say that unless i really want to hang out with the person.

    im trying to be patient, but im starting to agree with marion. He’s just not into me. im sure he WAS. and he could probably be again in the future if i play my cards right. thats what i guess im trying to do now. but who knows if ill even want him after all this. lol


  171. on June 19, 2008 at 8:33 pm | Reply Onewordspoken

    @Rose

    The truth is that it IS your decision. An aquarius will typically come back around. And not even explain why he was gone, he’ll do it just like nothing is wrong. Perhaps he noticed…or perhaps he didn’t.

    Here’s the truth: You can only be you.

    Simple huh? Somehow it escapes people. But there is nothing more frustrating then trying to become something you already are. It makes you question your ego and pride.

    Here it is you KNOW you’re good looking (you said so in one of your posts)
    You KNOW you’re smart
    You KNOW he has or had a crush on you

    And yet he seems to dismiss all of it. Gets you wondering what changed? “Is it me? Am I REALLY like how I percieve myself? And if I am why did he all of sudden make this u-turn.”

    If you have a large ego or have lots of pride beware. lol.

    You seem to me, to be a very intelligent and heartfelt woman. And thats just reading a few of your posts. I’m sure you are a lot of fun to hang out with.

    My advice is still the same. Be YOU. Forget his actions or re-actions to you. Be YOU. Give yourself a time-frame that you will wait in, and then stick to it. Make sure you give him ample time to come around. This way you have given yourself closure, and allowed him time to think about stuff.

    Everything so far is salvageable. I wish you the very best.

    @ Ratu
    Good for you bro. Sounds like there would be an awful lot of YOU giving and her taking with an outburst like that over a simple statement. Just my two cents.


  172. @ Rose
    I do behave the way he did. Like saying that we will hang out sometime but not really trying to hang out. It mostly happens when i want to spend time alone. JUST MYSELF. Just thinking about some problem or situation I might be facing, trying to find the solution. To get over the difficulty. MOST aquas do like to spend some time alone. This allows me to concentrate on myself better. Sort of INTROSPECT. Now he doesn’t want to hurt you by saying it directly that he is not in mood to hang out, so he says Yes. but he will find some excuses to avoid hanging out. It’s nothing personal. Most probably he will be doing it with other people also. Be patient. And do not reach any conclusions about his feelings for you until you have solid evidence. You never know. Tell me how good were you about guessing his feelings before? Now when you look back do you notice anything that could have hinted he had crush on you, till he confessed it to you. Don’t be pessimistic. At the very very least he will still be friends with you.


  173. Rose
    Tell me more about your typical behaviour. Things which are unique to your nature. Things you absolutely don’t like or like a lot.
    I had a friend in school she was scorp. (13 nov) The same one I had mentioned in earlier post. She absolutely knew my likes and dislikes and we were not that close at that time. If she heard a new song i havnt heard she would tell it to me and would also tell if I was going to like it or not. She was really good at it. She could tell how I was going to react on certain things. And even said she was sort of psychic. ( good at anticipating things.) though I didn’t believe her. (IRRATIONAL….)
    So just tell me more….


  174. hi to rutu….
    gee must give u great pleasure in analysing us scorp women….i do appreciate it but come on u r starting to act god like lol,,,,and if u r not willing then i second guess myself
    know one thing about myself is that i dive in with both feet and see how it all shakes out untiil i think otherwise…i know my aqua man wants me but is scared …. he has been burned major before and still paying big bucks for that one and since he has nothing to offer he does not think he is worthy…..i seem to do that to a lot of people…all i can say is that make me ur 1st priotity or not and thats it iam urs. the thing with me is that i always want to save someone from themselves at the detrement of myself….k…analyse that … cheers!


  175. totally showed my true scorio colours….lol


  176. HI MARION!!!
    Ya I really want to understand Scorpio women. So that I don’t by mistake end up hurting them. The ones I care for.
    Tell me MORE PLEEEEEEEEEASE!!
    And yes I kind of understand what do you mean when you say ” I want to save someone from themselves at the detriment of myself”. I don’t understand it completely but I can see the point. This girl, let me tell you, always wanted me to NEED her in some way. She really wanted to be NEEDED. Like I cann’t do things without her. Like she wanted to occupy all the space in my head and leave no space for anybody else.
    And yes I feel at times the same INSECURITY that your aqua might be feeling. NOT BEING GOOD ENOUGH. I will tell you I am sort of combination of LOW SELF ESTEEM AND HIGH EGO. (FIGURE THAT OUT) I think YOU CAN sense this can you? And you are I guess only person who can bring him out of insecurity. By talking straight forward. Tell me how do you deal with any problem that you both might be facing? Are you direct. IT’S THE BEST WAY. DON’T HIDE..JUST DEVELOPE STRONG TRUST THAT IS SOOO NECESSARY FOR AQUA. (according to me) ABSOLUTE TRUST. KNOWING THAT WHAT I AM SAYING IS NOT GOING TO BE USED AGAINST ME AND IT’S TOTALLY SECURED.
    Tell me MORE ABOUT YOU….
    MARION PLEASE….


  177. AND I AM ACTING GOD LIKE…. HOW?????


  178. Well, Rutu. I’ll tell you what I am like and what I look for in a guy. I tend to like a guy who is inspiring to me. Very smart. Motivated. Fun and spontaneous. keeps me on my toes. looks arent a big deal. the aqua guy i have a crush on is not good-looking, but i adore him.
    i just got out of a long term relationship with a Leo, who was better looking but boring. he got very annoyed easily at little things and was very reserved and quiet. he loved me to death and would have done anything for me. but, i got bored. he had no ambition in life. he was uptight about a lot of things too. it was like i wore the pants in the relationship and i found myself always having to make excuses for him..i hated that. i want someone who i’d want to show off. not necessarily successful and rich or anything. just EXCITING and intellectual, but not pretentious. (like the guy i like now). i LIKE a guy who has a life other than me, basically.
    Now my question….should i go to my Aquarius’ show’s afterparty tonight? i wont be able to make it til way late and i told him id TRY to stop by. I dont know if I’m prepared to see him with the girl….should I even bother? i wouldnt go alone, of course, and i would NOT hit on him. Jus try SUPEr hard to keep a lid on my emotions…


  179. on June 20, 2008 at 10:10 pm | Reply onewordspoken

    Rose

    I’d go. And wear something bedazzling. And if the other girl is there, please dropkick her. As I think i’d laugh for days if I heard that you did.

    Being a scorpio it’s certainly within the realm of possibility. lol


  180. Yep GO GO GO!!
    And look sexy and stare him (the way scorpio women do) so that he melts for you right in front of that girl or at least it reminds him of what was between you two. Such reminders are necessary. STARE HIM.


  181. Don’t do anything more obvious to indicate flirting.


  182. Yes indeed i think it puts some aquarius guys off, just act aloof and nonchalant but not too cool or too distand, be a bit friendly and just SMILE (aqua guys loves a good smile especially a sexy one from a scorpio!


  183. What would you like to know? I am loyal, devoted, kind, obsessive at times, if you treat me well i will do the same, generous, great sense of humour, i have empathy for others, i am kind of shy and sometimes keep people at a distance, i can be fierce if wronged, my feelings can get hurt easily but i am getting pretty good at hiding that, i can be somewhat of a perfectionist but working on letting that go, sometimes i feel like i dont fit in anywhere, if i show my true self to someone and they dont run you will have a friend for life, i like to dress nice when i go out but when i am home i like to relax, i love to people watch, i like to keep busy, i love big warm hugs….hope thats enough cant really think of anything else.


  184. Hey good but not good enough!
    Tell me how mad can you get.
    I have heard Scorp women when angry like to break and throw things. My friend threw notebooks at me. (ONCE) What about you.
    @ Rose
    What about you. What do you like to throw. Some prefer earthenware cups. (Handy.. Can aim properly) What about shoes. (Need some practice but some have mastered the technique)
    Tell me more…


  185. nope dont throw things but will drive my car hard lol


  186. if i get really, really mad which isnt often instead of throwing things i will retreat and have a good sobbing cry


  187. rutu
    i have to ask why would someone get so angry with you that they would throw things???????


  188. Ugh. i am home right now. i didnt go. i couldnt. concert i went to got out too late and by the time i got into brooklyn from manhattan it was almost 2am. if i went, it wouldve just been to see him and i wouldntve had any fun. plus all my friends were asleep. it just wasnt the right night. now im just afraid if i let him be, he wont even initiate any contact. why do i even bother?

    as far as the throwing things issue. yes, i have thrown things. however!
    i have only gotten this angry so few times i n my life that i can count them on one hand.

    and.

    the ONLY person that ever got me that mad was my mother.

    and i can tell you that its when someone either accuses you of being the total opposite of something you pride yourself on or they dont believe you about something when you are telling the truth. shes the only one that has ever pushed my buttons to that extreme.

    and i did about $500 worth of damage to her house when i had this tyrade. for me it was picture frames, dishes which broke the tile on her kitchen floor. i feel absolutely AWFUL after i do it.


  189. Scorpios do know how to Party… they can party Hard recreationally!;)


  190. on June 22, 2008 at 8:41 am | Reply onewordspoken

    @ Marion

    They’d get mad because he is an aquarius and does aquarius things. It comes natural for people to love/hate us. I wish I knew the whole secret behind that. But for another day.

    @ Rose

    Patience young padawn. Patience….

    All is not lost. Lots of girls feel like an aqua won’t make contact. If you two were close, give him time. If in that time he starts seeing the other girl, well then consider yourself lucky that he didn’t break your heart by flat out telling you he didn’t want to be with you. (IF thats the case….which i strongly do not believe it is) If in that time, he comes back around because he’s had time to miss you and realizes he’d like you back in his life, he’ll pop up out of nowhere as if nothing had happened at all. And be perplexed that you thought otherwise.

    All is not lost.


  191. Well. the weirdest thing happened this sat..

    my friends and i went to coney island and we bumped into my Aquarius and his friend (guy friend- whom we are also friends with)

    he was SO excited to see me and we spent the whole day with them having beers and going on the beach!

    i had SO much fun with him i hardly had any time to analyze. lol. he was in such a good mood and kept saying “this is the best day ever!” we talked a lot and were always sitting next to each other and we even laid next to each other on the beach. he didnt give any clues that he was seeing someone. he had plenty of opps to throw in a ” the girl im seeing…” casually. but he didnt. (who knows what that means) he talked a lot about the things hes been doing and none of them sounded like they included her. we didnt speak of hanging out at all. i just tried to live in the moment and have fun so he’d see me as a fun, non-threatening gal. i mean, he knows i have a crush, so the way i see it, if i knew a guy liked me and i didnt like him in that way, i wouldnt be super friendly to him. but he was being SO friendly and fun, not necessarily flirty but i cant tell. he did rub sand off of my back for me with his shirt…without me asking. and when i posed for a picture for my friend he jumped in and put his face against mine to get in the pic…

    all in all it was an amazing day…we brought up old jokes from work and we had our “fake fights” lol. we would pretend to fight over stupid things. like “shut up!” “i hate you!”

    immature but fun, nonetheless. we always acted like 8 year olds on a playground, people would say.

    then both guys asked us what we were all doing that night and i said i didnt know. he gave me a huge squeeze hug and made one of those noises when u hug someone …kinda like a “grr” noise. ya know? lol…i think both our stubborn streaks kicked in and neither of us asked the other to hang out that night..i guess i was kinda hoping for a text message but of course not. he did mention something about getting together with friends who were visiting from out of town…but still…

    so i am just gonna be patient and take it for what it is…

    damn water bearers.


  192. HEY ROSE!!!
    That’s GREAT. See now your all that worry seems to be unfounded. All of a sudden everything just goes back to normal like nothing happened in between. That’s sort of Healing time. Gathering yourself. Getting over the bad patch.
    I think after some time you can start being more flirtatious. After receiving some good signals from him. But I am really happy to hear this.
    Take care. Bye.


  193. Hi there!!! quite an interesting discussion and really helpful too….Now here is my story and I wonder if any one can help me with that…i met an aquarian guy in NYC at a club…i ws drunk n so ws he but we kinda strtd dancing w/ each other and then kissed…that was electric…..i loved it…we exchanged numbers and have been talking to each other for 6 months nw… he is in east and m in west…though distance is long but we do stay in touching calling and texting….now the issue is at one point he became pretty comfortable with me and used to call me cutie, sweetie n stuff even i call him by pet name…he sent me roses too nt red though..:P…but nw suddenly he seems aloof….and that really pisses me off…i try hard to keep the conversation going and he very conveniently calls me when he feels like and stupid me keeps waiting for his call…i jus do not understand this behaviour and since we are not into any relationship i can not even talk to him so openly like why didnt he call me or something…do not kno hw to handle tht coz it really pisses me off and then i feel like not puttin in any efforts…kindly advise…thanks…


  194. Also my guy’s birth date is jan 21…so i believe he is a cusp…so wt shd i consider him as aquarian or capricorn and m scorpio….


  195. Onewordspoken YOU make sense!


  196. on June 24, 2008 at 12:11 pm | Reply Onewordspoken

    I do?

    WOOOT!


  197. Hi mini!!
    You are one more typical example. I think though on cusp your friend is a typical aqua.. (going by his behaviour) Aquas are aloof and distant and sort of cold (at times). This doesn’t mean that they cannt behave other (normal) way but this is their sort of instinct. and the normal behaviour needs some efforts.
    There could be many reasons why he started acting like this Or there could be NO reason at all. He just might not be in mood.
    First of all it’s important to know where your relationship is standing. Are you just friends or more than friends. Aquas can be distant even in serious relationships so if you are a friend then….
    If you are just a friend then you have nothing to loose. so you can even try speaking to him openly about what’s happening on his side? why has he reduced calling? Again it’s a long distance relationship. Aquas can be ” Out of sight Out of mind ” type if their bonds are not that strong with you. But since he initially did send you flowers and remained in contact regularly, You can just ask him casually about the reason of his behaviour. BUT ASK CASUALLY. Not like he has commited some crime and he is answering your inquiry. And if you need more attention then say like, ” I will be happy if you call me more often or regularly.” Or ” I miss you calling me” Make it a request.


  198. And just say it straightforward and direct. Don’t expect him to pick up hints from your behaviour. A STRAIGHTFORWARD REQUEST in short.


  199. Edit… In my earlier post i didn’t mean to say ” long distance” just distance.


  200. Thanks rutu…..it seems that he is interested and he do calls me up and msgs me but m not sure as officially nothing has happened i mean no i loves u have been exchanged and he has not proposed as yet…now as u say for aquas ‘out of sight is out of mind’…does that mean its nt gonna wrk out….Also we planned to meet this july but he is just starting his MBA so he wont be able to but he tld me that we might meet in october…now he gives such signals where it seems he is interested and its definitely being more than frens…but again m confused….like yesterday he called after two days and i did not pick up coz i was pissed by his behaviour….although m sure i will talk to him today..but then i dont kno if m wasting my time here….


  201. Propose?! Whoa MINI ease up girl lol you don’t wanna scare him away! Aquas apparently has commitment phobia/issues. (To be honest i don’t blame them.. Who wants to be married now a days anyway!) Sounds like you’re getting too intense on this dude..just ease up a little, keep it light and fun, you need to have ALOT of patience! Don’t pressure him into anything. Just have fun with him ! Some Scorps are highly intuitive. Try to suss him out in a nonchalant manne.. If/when you come to a conclusion, decide for yourself if you would still want it to progress into a more fulfilling definitive relationship. In any types of friendship/relationship whatever COMMUNICATION is a must. I know sometimes you might find it hard/uncomfortable expressing yourself. Some scorps always thinks nobody can ever understands them which leaves them feeling quite sad & a bit lonely. Anyway don’t leave yourself all vulnerable n stuff!..lol yuck;) Kx


  202. Hey Mini!!
    That out of sight out of mind thing was meant for calling regularly. It doesn’t mean that it won’t work. He is showing interest. Calling after 2/3 days. Keep it going like this. Talk to him on his work, future etc. There might be times when he won’t call for some time but that doesn’t mean he is trying to distance you. But it seems like you need constant reassurances from him. If you want him to call you regularly try telling him in the manner i have mentioned above. I think it will give better results. And “Propose”….well I think it will take time.
    Meanwhile you can try understand his behaviour. You and him are very different type of people. You both need to learn a lot about each other.


  203. HI K!!
    Nice to see you back here after a long time.
    What’s going on your front?
    C u later.


  204. Thanks rutu n K….well i try keeping my patience a lot and i put in a lot of efforts too….but at times i jus lose my patience….although i did talk to him tonight and we had good long conversation but then there are times when i really want him to call me and not i calling him….i think i wil try telling him casually like i ws expecting ur cal over the last few days or something….is tht fine or too pressurising…coz its the prob w/ scorpio women they are like ‘i want what i want when i want’ at times…they might maintain a very cool exterior and ry keeping patience but at one point when patience is gone then this situation arises…..anyways thanks a ton…wil try being a lil easy…


  205. Mini, like rutu said above i agree keep it light n casual Straightforward Request:D @Rutu Whats goin on my front?..WELL hmm lookin good i must say!;)hehe SO Britain’s facing inflation which is terrible everythings gone up n soo expensive still kinda affordable i suppose, economy jus adjusts kinda naturally. And Wimbledon has started!which is always good so better weather is here Woohoo err i hope!


  206. Hey mini!!
    Ya you can say like that. Say, ” I was expecting your call over last few days. And I was sort of dissappointed when you didn’t because it really makes me happy when you call.” Please do mention that it makes you happy. Don’t wait or expect him to pick up hints. Aquas can be bad at understanding emotional needs of other people. So it’s your job to make it clear what exactly makes you happy and what you would want him to do for you. He REALLY wants to see you happy. Once they understand what exactly is expected of him he will put lot of his efforts in making you happy. ONE VERY IMPORTANT THING ABOUT AQUAS MOST PEOPLE DON’T UNDERSTAND IS THAT AS LONG AS YOU OPENLY AND CALMLY DISCUSS YOUR PROBLEM WITH YOUR AQUA THEY WILL DEFINITELY MAKE GREAT EFFORTS TO SOLVE THEM. But more often people just wait for them to pick up hints, which I don’t think they are really good at and thus the problem arises. I have visited other websites and almost all of them had long list of angry women (angry with their aqua of course) , the reason mostly being the distancing act. It’s just SO SIMPLE to solve any problem you might face in this relationship.. Be calm and be straightforward. Tell him clearly what makes you happy and what makes you sad…..Don’t bottle up your problems.. like Scorpio women tend to do… They either bottle up or lash out. Be more moderate. I CAN ASSURE ALL THE SCORPIO WOMEN OR ANY OTHER WOMAN IN RELATIONSHIP WITH AN AQUA THAT YOUR AQUA ABSOLUTLY DOESN’T LIKE TO SEE YOU UNHAPPY ESPECIALLY DUE TO HIM. So AT LEAST you can discuss problems openly now. AND ONE MORE WARNING MINI…..AVOID MAINPULATION….IT’S DISGUSTING TO MOST OF THE AQUAS…THE KEY TO RELATIONSHIP IS DEVELOPE A STRONG UNSHAKABLE TRUST BETWEEN YOU TWO….PLEASE THIS AGAIN AND AGAIN BECAUSE I REALLY MEAN IT VERY STRONGLY….Take care,


  207. Thanks rutu n K….@ rutu..yeah i think i understand what u r talking abt..its jus tht for a scorpio woman to wrk on it is a lil difficult coz they really dnt kno hw to talk openly as they cn be rude at times and specially in such issues when they r already pissed…like i cn be rude and i wnt even realise tht time..though i might after a while but till then damage has already been done…so i dread tht…like if i ask him then i might sound rude…wil try my level best and keep the things which u hv tld me on my mind….its jus tht the expectations r high or probably nt high but the other person is nt understanding….like fr example wt pissed me off once that he messaged me at midnight saying that he cudnt call as he had friends over and they have just left now…hellllloooo he cud hv jus called for two mins and told me so…y is he messaging me..is it because he is avoding me or he jus doesnt like talking to me or doesnt want to..i quite dnt get tht…also during these 6 months talk wt i hv realised is tht i keep the conversation gng ALWAYS…like if i will nt talk he will nt have any thing to talk abt…its me who is like picking up one thing or the other to talk abt so as to keep the conversation gng…he hardddddllllllyyyyy does that…does that mean he is not interested and probably he dreads talkin to me tht i wil talk fr hrs rather mins….but if this the case he shdnt call me at all….and i dnt even talk tht much like he is 3 hrs ahead of me in terms of time so i always take care of the fact tht he must be tired and sleepy so i do keep asking him like he can hang up whenever he feels sleepy….and once i actually took one open session w/ him where i asked him openly like wt r his likes and dislikes n we talked fr like 4-5 hrs continuously…he really liked it and i thought i ws rude at times during tht talk but he realllly liked it tht i talked rathr asked him so many questions openly….goddd knows whether he is interested or not….leaves me confused…


  208. I knw what u mean @mini lol i understand totally scorpios often come across a bit aggressive n defensive we dnt mean to at times its jus kinda in our nature and we r so impulsive kinda irrationaly hence mars ruler so its kinda hard 4us 2b all “nicey nicey” tone of voice especially when pissed off at that person, we cant stand cowardly actions too! Also Scorpio must b quite prominent in ur chart i think..:D I hav quite a lot of air & earth in my mine i think im a walking contradiction at times lol


  209. acting like a coward totally sucks dont do it whether aquarius or scorpio


  210. Scorps r always so suspicious lol (not a bad thing to an extent obviously:D Mini try not to look into it too much when he textd maybe it was easier convenient at the time ..read somewhere that aquas r manipulators and narcissist lol hmm! Im quite suprised ur aqua guy liked being quizzed/analysed on such personal questions about HIMSELF ?! I wish this A friend of mine would open up jus a litttle bit i wanna know what on his mind he seems to think a lot…


  211. I want deep hard intellectual stimulation on a personal level intact however as of late he hasnt been able to b hittin ma notes or rub my curiousity the right way i jus wanna blow him away ..Kx;)


  212. Hi mini, Marion and K!!
    @mini
    I agree with what K said. You are doing what scorpio women tend to do but hate when someone mentions it to them… what is it?….OVER THINKING….. Now think about it. Suppose everything is going nice and well and you think he is interested in you. Then for few days he doesn’t call or instead of calling messages you..So now this will be a small issue to him. May be he wasn’t in mood to talk or may be he wanted to do some other work or may be he thought if he calls the conversation would continue for long time and didn’t have time… In short there are thousand other possibilities than that he has lesser interest in you now. BUT SCORPIO WOMEN JUST TAKE EVERYTHING SO PERSONALLY.. Sorry to say but they are kind of pessimistic at times. They want things THEIR way. And other big problem is they expect other people to understand them the way they are able to understand others. Well not everyone is good at understanding you (SCORPS). Why don’t you go by a simpler and very effective way.. that is….COMMUNICATION.. I am sure he liked it when you talked to him openly. That’s what is needed. And at any point if you feel you have been rude, then just appologize. HE WILL FORGIVE YOU..We don’t hold grudges for such small things..
    Now you didn’t like him messaging you and would have preffered if he had called you instead. Have you told this to him???????????? Most probably NO…..NOW HOW WILL HE KNOW…..HE WILL NOT KNOW….. AND WILL REPEAT THE SAME THING AGAIN…. BECAUSE IT’S NOT A BIG DEAL TO HIM( whether to mesage or call)….
    @Marion
    Hi there…. Talking about cowardly act.. Ya I totally agree acting cowardly sucks. But being cautious doesn’t mean being coward.. Most of the people think that aquarians are commitment phobiac..I will speak for myself which I believe holds true for at least some other aquas. I am not commitment phobiac but I am afraid of being committed to the wrong person. That’s what makes me check and recheck the decisions I make, so that I don’t regret them later.
    And you had asked me why my friend got so angry with me that she threw things.. THAT’S BECAUSE I TOLD HER WHAT I THINK SHE WAS..A CYNIC..SHE SORT OF BELIEVED EVERYONE WAS SORT OF CONSPIRING AGAINST HER….It just sucked..I had enough. And by the way she threw my notebook at me. (I was asking her to return it, sort of bad timing..but anyway my notebook survived)


  213. MINI
    I suggest you read Rose’s posts. She also thought so convincingly that her aqua friend is seeing someone else and has lost interest in her.,… What happened ?….. It doesn’t seem to be true now. Sort of similar stories isn’t it? Talk to her when she comes back to the post.


  214. Lol marion!How r u so hows it lookin with ur A. bloke! Got him under ur spell yet lol;) I was wondering if anyone has put into practice any of these helpful insights/advice from this thread ..and has it been a success with ur current quest of “understanding” and or “getting” these electric aquas to open those wonderous eyes n make realise that their truest lovefriend is right here, gazing w/ intense penetratively right bck @them(”,)


  215. Lol marion!How r u so hows it goin with ur A. guy!U finally got him under ur spell yet lol;) I was wondering if anyone has put into practice any of these helpful insights/advice from this thread ..and has it been a success “understanding” and or “getting” these electrifying aquas to open up those wonderous eyes make realise that their truest lovefriend is r!ght here, gazing w/ intense penetratively right bck @them(”,)


  216. Lol marion!How r u so hows it goin with ur A. guy!Finally got him under ur spell yet lol;) I was wondering if anyone has put into practice any of these helpful insights/advice from this thread ..and has it been a success with ur current quest of “understanding” and or “getting” these electrifying aquas to open up those wonderous eyes make realise that their truest lovefriend is r!ght here, gazing w/ intense penetratively right bck @them(”,)


  217. U knw how Aquarius is the sign of intellect n communication… Well this A. friend of mine i find hardly really “communicates” with me i think he is still analysing me (lol) if not playin mind games which i dnt mind cos its kinda fun hehe Its been awhile but hey im in no rush i suppose for now lol all i say is best of luck those who attemps to analyse a scorpio female!..lol scorps r unconventional n difficult to fathom. Definitely what u see is not what u get there is SO much more deeply MORE;) Kx


  218. Soree for overload!..lol mars in virgo tendencies somewhat mild case of OCD:D


  219. Hi K!
    See K I have played my part in introducing aqua nature to you.. Now I wish you or Marion, Rose, mini or Synthia, anyone of you please start explaining Scorpio women to me…See it won’t be fair if you don’t…Right.
    Hey K..why not start talking to your aqua about england’s inflation..Anyway give me some insight into your nature….


  220. U have indeed n we really appreciate ur part in this astrology topic somewhat intruiging… I believe in sharing “knowledge” i luv how i learn new things everyday, life is a learning process n for a 24 yr old i have so much more im anticipating to learn! No1 can take knowledge away 4rm u n 4those that doesnt “share” i think they r somewhat selfish. Thru communicating, knowledge is gained i strongly believe in COMMUNICATION if these people in all parts of da world COMMUNICATED then mayb wars b prevented …


  221. Also if everyone jus read, listened n educated themselves more especially deep concerns of the planet we live !n if u care enough be aware of ((global warming)) serious guys tornadoes earthquakes typhoons sunami how dyou think this has escalated what is the root of it basically stop ‘efin up the world this poor world cant take much more its happening rite in front of our eyes yet we r stil blind ? Participate, do the littlest things cos it does n will help! If u care Children r the/our future.


  222. Soree lol i knw im in the wrong thread for this! Kx (admin’s gettin annoyed with me i think sorry again lol ..PEACE!


  223. I want to bring up the topic of the “Intense and/or sexy gaze”
    Apparently, this is something that everyone thinks Scorpios have. (mostly non-Scorpios-i notice)
    I read this and hear this ALL THE TIME.

    Now am I crazy, but is this very difficult and awkward to do?
    In fact, I don’t think I’ve ever done it, unless I had been dating the guy for quite awhile and I do it as a joke and we end up laughing…

    I’d like to learn how to do this to “put them under a spell”. sounds like crap to me but i’m intrigued by anything lol.

    In fact, it popped into my mind last weekend when I had my accidental beach date with my Aquarian crush (read my old post about that day if youre not familiar). I had sunglasses on and when he was kinda far away from me I just stared and kinda practiced. But then I took my sunglasses off when he was closer and was TOTALLY gonna try it, but as soon as he caught eyes with me I couldnt do it. It’s weird!

    I read what you wrote, Rutu, a few posts back, about needing more Scorpio insight. You see, its easier to give you advice and feedback when you have a particular situation you are trying to analyze. We have particular situations and you have been MORE than helpful with them….but it is very hard to give general Scorpio woman advice, ya know?
    Id be happy to answer ANY question you may have, though. I’m just not a good lecturer. lol

    My situation is kinda stagnant right now. I don’t know if it’s good or bad. It’s bad because he still isnt making effort to hang out with me and I still suspect this girl is in the picture. See, I feel like that could be the only possible reason for keeping me at bay and not ravaging me as soon as he was single and we didnt work together anymore. (that was his plan lol) SOMETHING must have popped up and put a wedge between he and I.
    After we ran into he and his friend on the beach last weekend, we sent a few emails back and forth. We exchanged pictures we took of all of us from that day, etc…talked about how much fun we had. I said. “we should hang out more!” and he said “i had a f**ing blast! We will do it again soon for sure!”
    he never follows through with those promises. I’ve gotten the, “we need to hang out” line (and other versions of it) QUITE a few times in the past month or so with no action. Am I being naive? I refuse to ask him to hang. The ball is in his court. I guess I could one day, with attempts to get my camera back that he borrowed. Im just so scared of rejection.


  224. Hey, I just realized yesterday that before Aqua Ashton married Scorp Demi Moore his other girlfriend — Brittany Murphy– was also a Scorp!

    That is soo wild to me. He must REALLY like Scorpio energy.

    (I love Brit by the way).


  225. Wonders what keeps their relationship going… and what do aqua guys like about scorpio women like what is it that attracts them to scorps ? I think hes sexy in a dorky goofy kinda way which is a gud thing dorks r cool luv dorks! Nerds r cool too for some reason im really attracted to the “nerdy” types hmm


  226. on July 1, 2008 at 3:22 pm | Reply Onewordspoken

    Rose,

    So you want this Aqua to ravish you huh? Interesting. I wonder if that comes across in your demeanor.

    Some aqua’s are notorius for insecurity. Not sure they will be all you hoped for etc. Easy going and light hearted intelligent fun is the way to get your guy.

    It’s a contradiction for sure. You have to be distant, and yet close enough that he won’t lose sight of you. But here’s the catch. He will EVENTUALLY remember everything you guys talked about. (dating once he’s single etc) It’s going to happen. You can bank on it.

    However…how he chooses to act on that is going to be something no one can predict. Not even another aquarius.

    @K

    I imagine we are attracted to scorpio’s because they are fun to be with, and at face value seem lighthearted. You really don’t start seeing all the “trouble” they always have until they get to know you better. Then out comes the, “You won’t believe what that B**** said to me today” stuff. Scorpio’s seem to constantly be surrounded by the next biggest and best problem in their world.

    On the other hand it’s fun helping a scorpio through all of that. Laughing, and making jokes where appropriate. I never met a scorpio that couldn’t be pulled out of her little “Emotional Lull” by a good laugh. Scorpio’s also are deep creatures that have a lot of mysteries to unravel. And aquarius is all about trying to figure it out.


  227. Oneword,

    I’m pretty sure it does come across in my demeanor. I’ve thrown myself at him, drunk, a couple of times. Once he tried to resist when he was still with his girlfriend, but he gave in. That was back in April.

    And the second time was that time a month ago, when he flat out turned me down in a “oh come on now” way, when i suspected he was seeing someone new. (which was also the same day he admitted he still had a crush on me, prior to me hitting on him)


  228. on July 2, 2008 at 4:33 pm | Reply Onewordspoken

    Rose

    Personally, I woul dgive myself a time limit…and if he hasn’t committed to you by then…date someone else. Now thats totally my opinion, and I would take it as that. I know it feels like thats being unfair or something, but protect yourself, and your feelings. He KNOW how you feel i’m sure. And he remember the talks you had. If he wants to move on those things then the ball is in his court. I wouldn’t tell him how long you’ve given him or anything, but set a definite day. At that point start looking for someone new. If you don’t find someone new, and the aqua comes back around, then give him the shot. But don’t close off any other chances you have at another relationship for this guy.

    Thats my opinion.

    P.S. Sometimes having a girl throw herself at you can be kind of fun. Sometimes not. lol. Depends on the mood.


  229. I am very willing and ready to start a no-contact(on my part) thing with him right now. I haven’t in over a week. Nothing from him either. Now here’s the thing. That day I ran into him at the beach, he was like “hey i still have your camera. let me know when you want it back” So this is tough. i want to take it off his hands but i want HIM to initiate contact. the ball is in his court. i cant do anything more and im sick of asking him to hang out and getting some lame excuse. i felt like saying “well YOU call me and ask me to hang out and then bring it along” I am very ready to leave him alone but I feel like hes thinking “why wont she come get her camera?”

    oh, and did anyone read my post a few days about about the “intense gaze”? Im interested in what you others think!


  230. Hi Rose!!!
    So you wanted to know about intense gazes… Let me share my exprience. I have faced this from 4 scorpios. 2 were friends and 2 teachers.
    This girl and I were not introduced to each others as I was new in my class. I use to usually stay with just one another friend. Didn’t have a friend circle. I was into my studies and attended the lectures regularly. She had missed few lectures and wanted a notebook. So she asked my friend for his but he had already given it to someone else so he asked me to give mine to her. And explain her a little of what happened in class. I agreed. She was sitting on the bench and I was standing in front of her and notebook was kept on the desk. All the time that I was explaining to her she looked at the notebook and me. Just looked.. nothing special. Asked few questions and I answered. she took some time to go through the notebook, looking down. Then when done she looked up at me as I was standing before her, had a sort of slight smile on her face and that intense gaze and she just said ” thank you” and asked me if it would be ok for me if she returns my notebook in 2 days. Her pitch was definately changed. I just said Ok. At that time I thought it was nothing deliberate and guessed may be thats what people normally do. But then I began seeing this more often in her behaviour. Suppose we were standing in a group and I was talking to someone else and if she is there she would stare at me with usually a slight smile. And while staring she didn’t blink much. Also she had dark brown eyes and always hilighted them, perhaps used eye liner(i don’t know).
    You know Rose its the combined effect of those eyes, her voice and those expressions. But mostly eyes. Just stare constantly as and when you can. She definately knew how uncomfertable I would feel at those gazes initially but she continued. When she stares she had this smile on her face like she is telling me….I know what you feel and you cannt hide it from me… I felt sort of exposed. Hence the discomfort.
    Thats the techincal analysis of your gaze.


  231. I am meeting up with my Aqua tonight to get my camera back.
    I will try the gaze! maybe i already do it and dont know????
    i dont know if this is a full on getting drinks kind of thing tonight or if im just picking up my camera. i must admit, i will be a little hurt and sad if he doesnt wanna hang out for a bit. i will feel rejected….

    i will do my best to keep my emotions at bay.

    oh and rutu, i have dark brown eyes too! haha weird.


  232. umm…well i think it’s safe to say that i am just fooling myself and that this Aquarius is trying to send me some OBVIOUS signals that he is not interested.

    i told him i needed my camera back tonight for something i needed to do next week, and he is going out of town tomorrow for the whole wknd. he said yea lets meet up tonight. ill call you when i get out of work.
    No call.
    I texted him asking if he was still working late, and if so i could MAYBE try to squeeze in time tomorrow to meet him, but i couldnt promise.
    No answer.
    WTF.
    I really need to stop kidding myself. i mean why would someone go through THAT great of lengths to avoid someone??????????
    JEEZ.
    its just so hard to accept b/c he couldnt wait to be single to spend time with me.
    now he is, AND we dont work together, and what does he do? go get with someone else. or if that’s not true, what does it even matter? He’s avoiding me like no other person has avoided me in my life.
    i just want to get my camera back so i can move on already. im done…


  233. on July 3, 2008 at 3:24 pm | Reply Onewordspoken

    Rose

    Thats unfortunate about how he treated you. And it’s not right in the least. He should not disrespect your time OR your effort.

    I think you did everything right. And you certainly did all you could. This guy apparently is not capable of giving you what you need. Especially at this time in his life. At least this is the way it sounds.

    Regardless, he did not even let you know why he was late or didn’t respond to you. Perhaps he had a good reason. Perhaps not. Either way, you did what you could, and no one could ask you to do more.

    Don’t grow apathetic though. You sound like a gem of a person, and thats over the interweb. So Im sure in person you are a delight. My suggestion is to go with your instincts on how you are feeling. But don’t do it with anger, or resentment. Those are very negative, and no sense in carrying them around. Or harboring them for that matter.

    Get your camera back, and if he has a reason ( a GOOD one) for missing your meeting, then hear him out. But I would say the time for “waiting and expecting” has passed. If he wants more from you, then HE will have to pursue those deep brown eyes. :)

    Thats my two cents.


  234. One Word —

    I can’t believe what I just read … your comments about Scorps seeming lighthearted and fun … and being pulled out of an emotional “lull” with a laugh. And needing to be helped along.

    That’s not quientessentially Scorpio at all. Those are such bizarre statements that I wasn’t expecting to hear from you.

    You know the dark, brooding guy who’s the daughter’s boyfriend in American Beauty. He typifies how scorpios are to me.

    When in good humor of course they seem enthralling yes but one can always sense the undercurrent…

    I, personally, very much detest frivolity and when Aquas do that around me I tolerate it…but it would never have any emotional impact on me. And The intense emotions and depressions I feel as a Scorpio are never things I need to escape…because I love studying them and learning the root of them.

    Yes our emotions are deep as you acknowledged … so it would be contradictory for jokes to pull us from them.

    Also, what Scorpios wants help being pulled out of a “problem” (as you suggest emotional phases are) — they are pretty self-sufficient.

    I think you have great insight when it comes to what makes Aquas tick … but with Scorps? I dunno.

    I think you’re letting your Aqua lens skew your perception….


  235. Hi Rose!!
    ROSE PLEASE PLEASE LISTEN TO ME…..I totally understand how much frustration his behaviour must be causing you but then on the day you accidently met him did it seemed like he didn’t want you. Just be more patient. Do one thing. DON’T CALL HIM… DON’T TRY TO CONTACT HIM FOR FEW DAYS…. DON’T PRESS HIM TO MEET YOU…. HE IS JUST NOT IN THE RIGHT MOOD…AND ITS GOT NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU (most probably)…..Have you checked if he is avoiding other people too….. He might be avoiding them also…. You can surely do one thing at this time….ASK HIM STRAIGHT WAY IF HE IS SEEING ANY GIRL…..YOU CAN ALSO MENTION THE NAME OF THAT GIRL…ASK IT CASUALLY AND EXPECT THE TRUTH…..AT LEAST DON’T STOP TILL HE HIMSELF TELLS YOU THAT HE IS SEEING SOMEONE ELSE….If he is not seeing someone else he still has you on his mind…
    I read your posts and I can clearly see your mood swings. It’s normal I totally understand. But PLEASE give my this advice a try. I can go without calling for several weeks in row if I am not in the mood even to my very best friends. but that doesn’t mean I like them less now. It’s just a phase.
    And remember you and him are two different personalities. So don’t draw conclusions according to your logic. I mean say if you do something then it means something but that doesn’t mean if he does the same thing then it would mean the same thing at it was meant for you.
    So Dear Rose… I really request you to now just ask him straight way if he is seeing that girl and expect the truth. You can also straight way ask him, after this question if he still means what he said to you months back…But PLEASE do not reach any conclusions before you hear it from him..
    That’s a humble request to you. Please act on it. And tell me what happens….I am waiting for your reply…Take care.


  236. Or Rose you don’t even need to meet him to ask this questions you can just call him and ask them. But just hold on to your hopes till he answers you..All right.


  237. i cant ask him if hes seeing someone. i mean, maybe i can bring it up if we’re already in conversation. but just out of nowhere, no. its not in my character and he will think it’s weird. he still thinks of me as lighthearted and fun. (when really i am overanalyzing and getting advice from strangers on msg boards lol)

    i DEFINITELY cant be specific. i saw the picture of him and the girl via STALKING lol. i cannot admit that.

    so, he texted me apologizing, saying “my phone died and i got drunk” whatever. could be true. i was talking to his coworker who is also my friend.(weird long story-we all used to work together. now they work together, and i am still unemployed) and he was complaining that —-(Aqua) was hours late to work and hasnt called. so his phone totally could have died. still. whatever.he was at work late, he couldve emailed.

    anyway in his text this morning he said we should meet up sunday. i dont know if he expects me to just grab the camera and leave or wants to get a drink. we’ll see. i just answered with “thats fine. call me then” thats it.

    im so sick of this but im trying not to be negative.

    They really are nuts, those Aquas ;)


  238. by the way, as a general disclaimer. i am out there keeping my options open, obviously. and ive hooked up with a few guys during the entire time ive been crushing on this guy. its just that hes always there in the back of my mind because of….well….whatever the hell it is that makes us Scorpio women go crazy over them! it really is some sort of crazy magnetism.


  239. Rose,
    Well let’s see then what happens on this sunday. Can’t tell what he expects from you on that day.. But you can definitely figure it out when you meet him.
    I don’t think anyone can blame you for keeping your options open. But then it should work both ways. How would you like it if he also keeps his options open… You just saw his picture with other girl and got annoyed. What if he comes to know that you hooked with other guys.


  240. well heres the thing. it doesnt bother me if i find out he’s seeing a bunch of girls and totally playing the field. in fact, it would make me happy. he SHOULD be doing that, after being in one committed long term relationship after another, after another, after another……what BOTHERS me is if he is IN another committed relationship and won’t see me. which is what i think is going on…why he’s avoiding me etc…it would pain me to think that he couldnt give me a chance during that tiny bit of singledom he had and then all of a sudden, boom! we “cant have anything” cuz he has another girlfriend again. see what i mean?

    he could bang every girl he sees and i wouldnt care.

    oh…and im pretty sure he doesnt care if i hooked up with other girls. lol we werent ever “together” like that.


  241. OOPS. i meant GUYS hahahaha


  242. on July 4, 2008 at 10:41 pm | Reply onewordspoken

    @Rose

    Perhaps I’m in a wierd aqua mood, and see things differently than you might be needing. But I’d say scrap it. There is NO excuse for not calling. Or contacting you. It’s a pet peeve of mine though. If you say you’re gonna do something you should do it. Period. He knew he was getting drunk, and he could’ve used a payphone, friends phone whatever. I’d keep an eye on him in the back of my mind, but by no means would I wait for him or anything. Skrew that.

    @ Synthia

    Im not even going to comment. I’ve lost interest in what others think about my opinions. However…I will say that I have 3 sisters that are scorpios. 2 of my closest friends in the world are scorpios. One of them for 21 years. I dated a scorpio woman in a long-term serious capacity for 3 years. I think I can say I know a little bit.

    I stand by what I said. Imo I didn’t say enough. But this is all my opinion. Skewed or not.


  243. @ oneword

    no, i know. in fact, thats how ive felt for a long time, but you and rutu seemed to feel so strongly that i was taking things too literally and analyzing too much, so i heard you out, and i took the advice…and i believe it was very good guidance for me.

    i do agree that there is no excuse. its a pet peeve of mine too. i HATE it. however, i totally forgot how i sent him an email after i said that that night would be best for me to get together to get my camera…saying that “if you end up working late and tonight sucks for you, i supposed i could wait til monday.
    so…i guess thats why he didnt take our plans so seriously and texted me the next day apologizing and asking “sunday or monday?”

    but still, i dunno if its just me, but i would at least text the person saying i couldnt make it, not wait til the next morning.
    unless his phone did die, which his coworker vouches for….he was 3 hours late to work the next day!
    and a payphone never works b/c seriously, who knows people’s #’s by heart? lol. i sure as hell dont. i dont even know my mother’s cell # by heart.
    im not making excuses for him, as you guys know i definitely havent been. YOU were the ones making excuses for him lol.
    but logical ones of course! : )

    anywho….im very apathetic now….so you probably wont see me on here for awhile…maybe after this sunday when i see him, but i cant help but expect a negative outcome. i think i might just tell him im busy and just need to get the camera and run. i cant even deal with his shit anymore…

    thanks again guys…for your insight and care. :)
    i might post about sunday, but maybe not….only if its worth posting about..


  244. Wow that was enlightening. Lol.


  245. I think scorps secretely wants or wishes to be more fun and lighthearted and not to be so serious and brooding all the time !


  246. I find some scorps so intensely boring and can be quite dull. They definitely need to lighten up a bit and not take minor, unimportant issues/situations so seriously.. They’re so intense man, it’s kinda draining lol. I think pairing up with aquas works well for them.


  247. That’s if aquas can put up with scorps annoying “habits” ! Probably not, aquas can’t handle it/us! Aquas just runs away lol.


  248. @Rose
    hi there….
    Well I agree i have been making excuses for him because perhaps I at times do find these things in my behaviour. I do tend to be distant most of the time.
    Let’s see what happens on this sunday or monday..

    @ oneword
    Hi buddy…
    See this Ms.scorpio getting pissed about some small statement. One thing I don’t like about scorpios is their SUPER PRIDE in themselves. Well definitely not all are like this but you can SEE the example… Anyway I have a scorpio friend she has been our neighbour since i was very young. she is elder to me and is like a sister only. My grandmother is also a scorpio. and my uncle too. Also had lots of scorpio friends and classmates.
    SOOO Ms. Synthia we do know few things about scorpios.


  249. on July 6, 2008 at 6:41 am | Reply maverickMuze

    I am a Scorpio with Leo Rising and Gemini Moon.

    I am married to Gemini (born 6.11) with Gemini Moon and Pisces Rising.

    My son is a Libra (born 10.11)

    I have always been attracted to Aquarius people, whether it be love or creative wise. My Mentor was an Aquarius, My Two best Female Friends are Aquarius. I have always attracted them. Now that I am studying Political Science and Film. I have met alot of activists whom fall in the aquarius scope. I prefer them, over other signs, I love air signs. I dated a Leo briefly, But I am too intense and have a need to lead that we bumped heads too much. I dated a cancer, Boring. I dated a Piseces, Clingy. I dated a scorpio, Psycho. LOL I feel better with an air sign.


  250. Um… Ms. Synthia here. :-(

    Wow. This thread has gone from being intriguing to ridiculous.

    1. I don’ t know any boring Scorpios, because something’s always simmering underneath the exterior.

    2. I can’t speak for all Scorps, but I personally have never “wished” I were “fun” and lighthearted” as someone else just suggested. LOL. LIfe is grand and amazing. So are humans and I take them both very seriously — and that leads to great thrill and depth.

    I don’t entertain myself the same “fun” way others do and no I secretly don’t want to either. I always think secretly, wow, they are really missing fulfillment. They think THAT’S fun? Ugh! I see most fun as a cheap substitute for fullfillment.

    I remember once a friend invited me to go bowling. I responded. “Why? It’s just rolling a ball down a wooden lane?” I mean really, why the hell would I want to do that?
    He thought about it and agreed! But we went and spent most of the time in intense conversation. Thus, it was made very unforgettable.

    3. Um, I didn’t get “pissed.” I was simply amazed and shocked. I had been refraining from commenting here for weeks but I couldn’t let that go lest someone visit and get a completely wrong view of Scorpios.

    I find it quite hilarious that yet another person has listed relationships as evidence that they know Scorpios. Let me say this: one can be related to someone, date someone, and in fact live in the house with them for years and never ever really know that person. Think about it. (or maybe this is only a secret that really reflective signs can perceive. Most people are not that deep and are content to have a very shallow understanding of other people).

    Just because you’re super familiar with them doesn’t mean you know them on a deep level… espeically if your tendencies as a sign limits you because your trend is not toward the intimate and reflective.

    4. Also, it wasn’t a “small” statement. Words have ideas behind them and ideas change the word. If something is wrong or uninformed it should be countered. You can’t mischaracterize a whole genre of people by calling them the complete oppposite of what they are. I mean what astrologer (not that experts matter much) has ever summarized Scorps as fun and lighthearted. LOL.

    Someone else said they wished Scorps wouldn’t worry about “small, unimportant” things. Where are the Scorps who do this? Maybe I”m just an evolved Scorp, but I fill my mind with interesting and profound questions/topics. The world, as I said, is grand… I would argue there are few small things. If it seems small to you, then that’s on you.

    Some of the dating anxiety presented on this thread might suggest trivial preoccupation from some Scorps, but in dating I’ve seen all signs fret like this so no worries — even the Aquas who pretend they don’t. I’ve seen it on various boards. That’s human youth nature. Not a Scorp thing. People eventually grow out of it.


  251. Oops… That should have been “Ideas change the World.”


  252. i always felt like Scorpios would fret over deep things, and spend hours pondering and obsessing over serious matters.

    i am thankful that my only “problems” right now are finding steady work. (thank god i have some to pay the bills) and my issues with this guy.

    not too long ago, there were real “problems” and i WISHED i had the time to worry about trivial things. and now i do.

    he called me this afternoon to tell me he couldnt meet me AGAIN today because he had band practice. so i suggested afterward and he nervously said “ohhh ummm no. we’re all going out drinking afterward, you know, a band thing.” okkkkk so im like what about tomorrow. and hes like yea i think i can squeeze in some time after work. WOW. he really is trying to avoid me. ive never seen this before unless ive DONE something to someone! jeez. and to think that a little over a month ago we were like best friends. weird.
    i just want my damn camera. nice of you to “squeeze” me in. i barely even talk to this guy. i dont know what i couldve done. ive seen this behavior in the past when ive chased guys and made myself look like a fool, but i stopped that after my teens and learned my lesson. now i do the opposite. i dont contact them at all lol

    I agree with Synthia’s post. All signs overlap in their traits sometimes. it can be difficult to generalize. making broad generalizations is fine, but i do agree that some people on here were being way too specific, usually based on one or two people they knew. no one should be feeling insulted though! i sure as hell dont feel insulted. none of us know each other!


  253. on July 6, 2008 at 8:24 pm | Reply maverickMuze

    I am a scorpio and I can agree with Synthia’s post. I prefer a deep conversation over watching people roll a ball in a aisle. Scorpio have an OCD complex, and I can say I am one. When I work on a project I can get obbessive to the last detail of the film.


  254. Rose i agree you should stop chasing after guys it’s coming across quite desperate sorry just TAKE THE HINT AND MOVE ON (i don’t mean that in a bad way) i think aquas finds it a turn off!


  255. yup desperate is what it is


  256. i know aquas find chasing as a turn off. most guys do, no matter what sign. if you read the rest of my post you would see that i said i USED to chase guys when i was a teen. i NEVER once contacted this particular guy. we were best friends and would talk everyday. and when we both got laid off, i never ONCE contacted him in any way (except to get my camera back, obvi)

    thats what was weird about the whole situation. it’d be a lot easier to get over a guy who left you alone.

    jesus. i didnt think id be attacked for this.

    if you even KNEW me, youd know i was the furthest thing from desperate. i have no desire to get married or have children, so im not even in a rush to get into a relationship. i enjoy my single life, and tend to prefer pursuing my career over a guy. it was just a nice sidetrack to my life, thats all. he was fun, we had a blast together, and i had a crush on him, and he had a crush on me


  257. and i found this thread fascinating, because i didnt know why i was so drawn to this particular guy!


  258. ive read some of your posts, and found some things you mentioned lame (in my opinion) but ive never once sunken to the level of insulting either of you (TOOTSIE and MARION)
    i ignored things i may not have agreed with and instead focused more on things i can elaborate on or on some level agreed with…

    i thought you were both women in your 30’s. i would have expected more from you.


  259. oh and tootsie, what “hint” are you referring to?

    you mean him telling me to my face ” have a crush on you”?


  260. on July 7, 2008 at 6:01 am | Reply onewordspoken

    We should probably get back to helping each other instead of ridiculing.

    @ Rose
    I hope you get your camera back. And I sincerely hope you just let this guy go. It’s my opinion of course. But i’d say he has had his time. It sounds like your moving more towards this idea too. I’d say it’s probably that wonderful scorpio intuition.

    PS – I don’t think you sounded desperate. Just curious as to why this guy would do such a thing. I hope any posts you’ve read have been clear and not too confusing. And most of all I hope it doesn’t leave you with a bad taste in your mouth for aqua’s. :)

    @Rutu
    I made a statement based on experience. I don’t care if everyone and their horse thinks you can’t know a person after 27 years ( my oldest sister). I said “from my experience”, so i prefaced it, not my fault if it was mis-understood. I still stand by my statement. Synthia is probably a different kind of scorpio than I’ve met. I hope so. Because if you don’t like fun-loving you have no business being around an aqua.

    And rutu, I don’t know how old you are, but let me give you some advice. Don’t ever let anyone tell you what you experienced.

    If they want to try to be constructive and add to it, then by all means. But to take away is never an option. Ever. I made statements based on my experiences. And I’ve not met the dark, brooding presence that synthia describes. Frankly….I don’t care. And neither should you. Enjoy the relationships you have built. Scorpio or not.

    @ Synthia
    You eluded to me not being able to relate to scorpios on a deep level because my sun sign is not “intimate and reflective”

    As far as my sign not being able to relate, my moon is in scorpio. Making my ability to feel quite deep. Most astrologers would agree that it’s more so than a sun sign scorpio. I would go get the links to prove it but im feeling lazy.


  261. on July 7, 2008 at 6:27 am | Reply onewordspoken

    @Tootsie

    Hey just scrolled up and caught the rest of your posts!

    The scorpio’s i’ve met ARE fun loving and CAN be light hearted.

    They can be very deep too. Not sure where the problem is. You can be light hearted and mysterious. *Shrugs*

    There is a lot more to a person (even astrologically) than just their sun sign though. So much more can be attributed to other parts of their chart. I don’t think scorpio’s are the only sign to take themselves too seriously. For instance: Aqua’s are one of the most “free spirited”, light-hearted, jokesters amongst the other signs. But even aqua’s will have to sit and involve themselves with periods of self-introspection. They can be deep too. Just on a mental level. Not so much on an emotional one. Does that mean they can’t be deep thinking AND light hearted? Of course not! They can be both. Just not at the same time. Scorpio’s on the other hand seem to be able to. (JUST MY OPINION) They can laugh and carry on, and still be thinking about whatever trouble is going on in their head. (JUST MY OPINON) I once was at a birthday party with my ex-gf and it wasn’t until afterwards that she sat with me in our car on the way home and just cried about something pretty harsh that had happened to her father. I mean it truly effected her. (JUST MY OPINION) But you wouldn’t have known ONE bit by looking at her. An aqua during his little “cave time of life trouble” wouldn’t have even shown up. Is the difference clear?


  262. NOONE is “attacking” ANYONE wtf LOL.? We are all free to simply express our own OPINION…hence this site and all the others lol… How it is perceived by some, well that is down to them.


  263. Like i said Oneword.. You make Sense ! MY OPINION ;)


  264. Yeah, a part of his post makes sense to me as well — the part about the woman at a party who breaks down crying right after. That proves my point … the heart was not light at all that night — despite the exterior. And a party and a few jokes didn’t pull her out of anything.

    That’s why one must look deeper. Scorpios always have some intensity, and probably a volcano, lurking under the surface. How this logically supports the lighthearted argument is questionable — it doesn’t!

    The state of being is the reality. The exterior is not.

    But anyway. The suggestion that one who’s not lighthearted and fun mustn’t be around an Aqua goes against the theory of opposites we’ve been presenting in this thread.

    I know one particular Aqua who gravitates toward me precisely because he can access a more profound part of his personality — that he can’t with those who are just into the amusements.


  265. Wow. Lot’s has happened in 2 days…..very funny stuff too.

    First of all, Aqua boy is no longer. (he’s alive lol just completely lost all my feelings for him)

    AND haha, youll love this. The love of my life is back in the picture after 5 years. we dated briefly but things couldnt work out for certain reasons…..and now we’re BOTH single again. HE’S A SCORPIO. we’ll see what happens. im just happy we can reconnect.

    So Aqua is basically a f**** asshole. he bailed on me AGAIN last night! and i know hes definitely with this girl because his friend posted pics of their “weekend getaway”. they are not lovey dovey in the pics but i see her in the background of some. so i know thats for sure. what i dont get is why he wont tell me. i know he got “caught up” with her last night. so i got mad at him. i didnt blow up but im like “i really didnt expect this to turn into a “whose going out of their way to exchange the camera” i figured friends WANT to get together and have a drink, and youd just bring the camera along”
    so he swears up and down we’re meeting tonight at a bar by MY place. he also wrote me a page long apology email this morning, still not mentioning he has a gf.

    i dont even want to meet him, but somethings telling me i should. i dont like to end anything badly with anyone. not just romantic endeavors. do i look like a fool for forgiving him? ive just been cold so far, and enjoyed watching him kiss my ass. haha.

    aquas, how should i treat tonight? he insists on hanging out with me and getting a drink. should i bother?


  266. on July 8, 2008 at 5:00 pm | Reply Onewordspoken

    I doubt a volcano all the time. There is an intensity, but i’ve run into my scorpio buddy a few times, and he was just bored. We could apply the same logic.

    State of being is bored. His exterior perhaps showed interest in a tv show. It doesn’t relay the individual. And besides all of that, there is a necessity to feel as if something bigger and grander than ourselves is at work. But that doesn’t imply a complete “volcano” under the surface. And it certainly doesn’t imply ALL scorpio’s to be like that. And to go even further it doesn’t imply they are like that ALL the time.

    For instance. My sister enjoys bowling. She actually likes to bowl. And she is a scorpio. Synthia however does not. Now my sister could have hopped on this board and said:

    “Hark! Synthia you don’t like bowling? WTF? That doesn’t sound very scorpio. Perhaps your view of bowling is just skewed”

    Of course we could all agree to disagree and go about our merry ways. Which I imagine is where this is headed. But to make my point I had a conversation last night with my sister that involved her telling stories and talking about Penis’s to her friends in a subway the other day. Her friends were all embarrassed and she apparently kept up the convo, trying to make it as brash as possible. Laughing, giggling and carrying on. Where is the volcano? Where is this deep, dark introspective side? Self-being says she just wanted to shock her friends. And was having fun doing it. I could recount lots and lots of stories. Perhaps she has other influences in her chart. Perhaps there was something else brewing under the surface. But maybe not. Perhaps she just wanted to have some fun, and embarass her friends. According to some posts in here, you can’t ever know a person. So Im not going to try. Because I already knew that However, I can try to understand the action.

    So does that appear light-hearted? If so then let me post my comment again:

    “I imagine we are attracted to scorpio’s because they are fun to be with, and at face value seem lighthearted.”

    I think face-value sums it up nicely.

    As far as a joke pulling my ex-gf out of that no. For two reasons, and you should have picked them up reading the damned post.

    1. She needed me to listen at that moment. Not crack jokes. Im not an idiot, nor am I that insensative.

    2. I said that I have not met a scorpio that couldn’t be pulled out of an emotional lull with a joke. What happened to make her cry is by no stretch of the imagination an emotional lull.

    All aquarius’s enjoy accessing the profound part of their personality. It’s nice meeting someone who can keep up. But mark my words. He will eventually grow towards the lighthearted fun all this hub-bub has been about. It all depends on the other aspects of his chart. But aquarius will eventually be for the people. And even if he stayed in that complete profound way of thinking, you wouldn’t be able to harness it or catch it, as it’s for humanity. At least that is the way most aqua’s see it.


  267. on July 8, 2008 at 5:04 pm | Reply Onewordspoken

    Rose I think you should go.

    His lying is a little problematic at best. If he finds a way to squirm out of it again, tell him to mail you the damned camera.

    This guy sounds like a real winner. lol.

    Whatever his reasons were, he has made his peace with them himself I think. I don’t know if he will share them with you, but if you’re curious you can ask. And be blunt about it. Seeing him squirm a little might make you feel better.

    Perhaps he has ignored you because he doesn’t want to have to face the question: “why?” or “Why did you say you had a crush with me, lead me on, and then walk off with some other chick?” Would make for a really long emotional to-do that Im not sure he’d be comfortable with.

    However it all turns out you made the right decision it sounds like. I’d be proud.


  268. OH, I don’t need to harness and catch it. I have a Sag stellium…I’m busy retaining my own independence and finding new things to be passionate about.

    He’ll never tire…because he’s all about ideas and so am I, except where he discussing them dispassionately, I discuss them with concentrated spark…and well that leads to a lot of spontaneity and excitement.

    As for the sexual joking — that’s quinessentially Scorpio — and it’s still intense. Scorps will stop anyhting to talk about sex… and if you get a shocked reaction from people, all the better.

    Sex is like a second language for me. I lost one boyfriend after discussing porn and looking at porn pics with his friends. HE thought I was flirting with them… um, no… I pretty much want to discuss sex in an exhibitionist fashion all the time (although Sag takes some credit for that).

    ROSE– I know you asked for Aqua advice…but as a fellow Scorp, I personally don’t think you should go. Get another camera already. Tell, him that’s OK, you have a new camera, he can have that one.

    You see, you don’t really want the camera. You want to see him. You’re using the camera as a barter. HE knows that. And he’s avoiding you because he doesn’t want to spend time.

    I know that hurts. And I’m sorry. But no, he’s not an azzhole. He’s probably trying to avoid hurting you because he wants to focus on the other girl. Sometimes feelings are mutual and its sucks but it doesn’t mean the uninterested party is evil.

    Of course after weeks of feeling harassed for the camera, he’s insisting on meeting you for drinks. That’s just to get it over with. Dont except crumbs from anyone. HE spent a weekend out another girl. As a Scorpio, I know you have tons of self-respect and pride. Girl, please remember who you are. You are better than this. Embrace the hurt, let the bond die, and move on. You are selling yourself cheap and he’s definitely picking up on that.

    The worst thing you can do with another fixed sign is give in. The excitment of the scorp-aqua bond, to me, is the whole power vs. power dynamic. You are giving all your power away. I know it’s scary losing love..esp. when you’ve don’t nothing to cause/deserve it. But love is elusive and sometimes that’s how it works.

    If you truly, truly want the camera, sned him a box with prepaid postage and have him mail it to you. Let it be an impersonal gesture.

    And going back to a past love seems like a bad move too. IT’s like you’re looking for a security blanket. I mean it ended for real reasons that shouldn’t be overlooked. There’s a whole world out there… As a Scorp, I’ve don’t stuff like seeking to rekindle a past love too…but then I woke up. Better to be alone with pride than to sell yourself cheap.

    Good luck.


  269. well you know if i go, ill definitely ask him those questions that hes been dreading lol. i noticed he has some sort of weird self-esteem issue, where he goes for (hate to say it at risk of sounding shallow) unattractive, overweight girls…..my roommate had a good point. she said some people who have self-esteem issues tend to steer away from people they see as either their equal or someone intimidating and feel more comfortable with someone who they view as “inferior”. i think this is interesting, but find it hard to grasp as i like men who can challenge me and whom i can learn from….sometimes someone who intimidates me. anything else is boring to me..

    anyway, that has nothing to do with sun signs but just a thought.

    oneword, im still finding it difficult deciding how to act tonight. i probably just should go with the flow…i mean, is there anything you think i SHOULDNT do? i dont really care as much anymore but i think its human nature to still not want to come off as “that psycho girl” to ANYONE, even if you dont have any desire to pursue a friendship with them.. you know?

    P.S. i HATE bowling. lol


  270. oops. That should be “sometimes feelings AREN’T mutual and it sucks.”


  271. oh sorry synthia, i just read your comment to me.

    i agree with you….but actually, i really DO need the camera. i need it to do the few freelance jobs that i have…i dont have steady work right now and i really cannot afford another one. i truly do not think he sees it as a barter, as ive made it clear that we do not need to hang out, i just NEED the camera by wednesday. i appreciate your opinion, sincerely. but i can tell you for sure that he doesnt see it that way, because its not like that. i really dont even want to see him. i just want the camera back and it to be over. i even suggested him dropping it off at my house but he refused, saying he missed me and “we havent hung out in awhile, lets get a drink and kick it”.

    so i think i decided what im going to do. im going to go, but im going to say that i need to leave to meet up with some friends. ill be civil, even somewhat nice lol. and just leave it at that. im fine with that.

    and about the past love, i didnt seek it out. im always the type to prefer to stay single. its just weird that this popped up NOW.
    he and i never dated. he lived too far away and he was still in college when i was out and neither of us had cars. its not like one of us hurt the other. it just plain didnt work. now we both live in nyc and we’ve been out of college for 6 years now….(well, i have) i dont know. i am gonna give it a shot, not expecting anything though. i just got out of a 3 year long relationship and i really dont want to date anyone seriously. i didnt even want to date the Aqua guy to be honest with you, i just liked him and thought we could have something very casual. im kind of a commitment-phobe. haha. is that typical of scorps? lol


  272. Oh, I thought it was an old boyfriend that you’d had a consummated romance with. But this is a bond that was never really given a chance… oh, OK.

    As for the camera. Glad you didn’t take offense. As a Scorp, I know it’s hard in the whirlwind of emotion to keep your head straight and strategize properly.

    IF you must pick it up, I think you’re idea of NOT STAYING LONG is a very good one.

    I was just picking up on mixed signals… I mean you’re asking someone what you should say & how to behave. I’m like if you don’t want to be friends who cares what he thinks.

    Follow your intuition. So far it’s telling you not to stay long, so the intuition knows what to do. Follow that, no matter what advice you get.


  273. ugh i am dreading it tonight.

    because, like we all know, the CHEMISTRY. damn. so intense.
    why would he run away from that????!!!!


  274. Wow, this thread has been incredibly eye opening and fascinating. I’m an Aqua guy currently compeltely confused by a scorp girl. Here’s a brief rundown.

    Introduced to her by a mutual friend while out one night. Ignored her for a bit, talked to her for a bit but “busted her balls” big time. That’s my way of flirting. Didn’t really think anything of it and really thought I’d never talk to her again.

    As my friend was leaving she took my phone, but the girls # in and told me to call it. I forgot about this for a couple of days. Couple of days later I have an after-party at my house. Mutual friend shows up, which triggers my memory and I start texting the scorp. We trade texts nonstop for a week and then I go on vacation. She was also on vacation about an hour and a half from where I was staying. I had a big group of people with me. A couple of days in get a phone call from the scorp asking if she and our mutual friend can come visit for a night and spend the next day on the beach. They show up, we have a great time and the scorp and I hook up w/no sex due to there being lots of people in the bedroom.

    She leaves the next day but we text nonstop the rest of the week. Set up a date for the day I get back into town. We decide to stay in and watch a movie. She comes over and stays the night, not leaving until 4 pm the next day. We go out for dinner that evening. Saw each other a couple of times that week. We called each other at least once, sometimes several times a day. Our calls, however, are really short and to the point, which is fine by me because I’m not a phone person.

    Next week rolls around and she spends every other night at my place. We go on several real dates that were out of this world. She spent the entire following weekend with me, stayed over Thurs – Sun.

    Mutual friends tell me that she’s incredibly into me, was not going to sleep with me until she knew it was for real. Needless to say while she was over so much we were having sex.

    Last Monday (June 30) he 9 year old daughter came home from a month long vacation. Ex is no longer in the picture.

    I’ve seen her only once since then, and this was for a 45 minute lunch date. This has been driving me absolutely insane. We don’t text at this point, but phone calls are regular although short. Still several times a day. I’ve asked several times to go out or for her to come over, but she always has an excuse. At the same time she’s made it painfully obvious that she’s spening a lot of time with her best friend who lives about five blocks away from me.

    Today I decided to not answer her calls. She called twice and I sent them both to voicemail. I did call back several hours later and tell her I was having a busy day at work (which I was) and to call me when she had a chance. Haven’t heard from her.

    My take is that she’s no longer interested but something doesn’t add up and it’s bugging the hell out of me. My second thought is that she’s found some new guy and doesn’t know how to tell me. My brain tells me to just stop taking her calls an move on. At the same time, I’m drawn into this girl like I’ve not been drawn to someone in a very long time.

    A couple of other side notes… we’re both on myspace and I get constant comments from women either flirting or just keeping in touch. She has a very small group of “top friends” and I’m the only guy there. She hasn’t removed that. We don’t really message or comment to each other online. Everything’s been offline so far. Lastly, I have a really large circle of friends and I’m really popular. A lot of my friends are women. I’m VERY single at the moment and I’m beating women off with a stick. I WISH I could get the scorp off my mind and move on to some of these other women, but the desire isn’t there with her always on my freaking mind.

    Any thoughts? Comments? I’m thinking that I need to completely cut communication for a few days and see what happens. My gut tells me that if I do this, I’ll never hear from her again.


  275. Quick update…

    Got a text from her last night that I didn’t see until late so I never texted back. It basically said that she was going to bed and wanted to say good night.

    Checked myspace and she left me comment saying she’s been spending time with her daughter and missed me. I know for a fact that she’s gone out several times without her daughter, so I call bs, but maybe she just wanted time with her friends.

    She called this morning on her way to work. Despite my better judgement I answered. She seemed happy to talk to me. Still no mention of seeing her though. I really don’t understand. It looks like she has plans this weekend but she’s not mentioned them to me.

    Is this kind of game normal with scorps? I’m so not used to this. My gut, head and heart are so conflicted. I get a different message from each one of them. lol.


  276. I am a scorpion woman who has been dating an aqua man for almost 3 years. He is exactly what is described as the typical aqua man. Silly, handsome in a non conventional way, intelligent, and funny. I am the epitome of the scorpio woman except i am not super jealous, or insecure. I have always been extremely attracted to the personalities of Aqua men and women. I have dated leo , libra, and sagitarious men before only to grow bored within the first year, and eventually leave them. I met my aqua guy in 10th grade creative writing, and it was love at first sight on my part. I never said more than a few sentences to him because i was so self conscious about how i seemed in front of him. Sadly he did not notice me because I wasn’t the best looking girl in high school. ( I hadn’t blossomed yet). I talked to him on and off over the internet but was weary of him since he had a reputation with all of the girls as a heart breaker. Everyone was after him but no one could have him, he didn’t want a gf and had never been close to loving anyone but his family and himself. A few years after hs I ran into him at a place where he worked, and he would follow me around asking me on dates, i’d tell him to call me and give him fake phone numbers. Years later after i left my boyfriend, i ended up asking him to buy me booze ( i was 20) we ended up hanging out and “hooking up” one night after some drinks.. Obviously we scorpions know how to “play” the game, since we are the smoldering temptress at heart. I gave him a kiss that blew his mind, and told him if he wanted to date me he could get in line. Soon after that he started showing up daily, driving across town so he could give me “hugs” and shortly after we were in a serious relationship. He admitted to me around our third moth together, that he had fallen in love with me after the second week we hung out, and he hid it from me because he never felt that way before and he wanted to be sure. I am not going to say the best way to get a man is to play games, but you should always be a little hot and a little cold, keep them guessing, and we are so good at that. Aqua men are terrified of commitment to anyone other than themselves though so keeping him is the hard part. In fact about a year ago, my bf freaked out about moving in with me, we had been together for a year and a half and i wanted more.. our relationship was more like a marriage for the whole time, but he was scared to commit. he ended up breaking it off with me, so i decided to move to Chicago. The week I moved down here, he told me he was moving in because he couldn’t imagine not being with me. We have been happily together ever since, and talking about marriage. You need to let them run, keep in mind you amaze them as much as they amaze you.. it is HARD work to keep an aqua man, especially to keep one doting on you, but it is SO worth it.


  277. hmm…so i guess i dont belong so much on here anymore since i now am a Scorpio who likes another Scorpio. lol

    id like to post the outcome with the Aquarius last night. not in the mood now. but i think it might be cleansing to do…


  278. SO refreshing to see/read other posts… Sorry but roses posts were/are getting kinda BORING (zzZ) lol.


  279. Howdy all so IS IT TRU aquas hav a kinky n v. unconventional ways in bed ..ive also read dat it goes beyond a shocking suprise 4a female seeing how “equipped” they r down south:D >>HOPING dis is tru dnt wanna b left disappointed ..hehe;) Kx


  280. yesss k we have what it takes we have THE TOOL we don’t disappoint either! See for yourself go on i dare you LOL


  281. jeez. sorry i was so “boring”, tootsie. what did i ever do to you? i dont know what you have against me.

    i thought it was kinda fun.


  282. anyway, for the people who are interested in how everything turned out. we had a blast together the other night…this board has helped me understand Aquarius men in SO many ways. It was an outlet for me to express all my emotions. i dont know what i wouldve done otherwise-probably would have poured them all out to him and probably would have lost him! haha.

    we sat at the bar for 3 1/2 hours just talking, mostly laughing….mild flirting. he met some girl that he likes but hes keeping his options open and repeatedly mentioned to me how much he loves my company and that im “one of the most awesome girls he’s ever met” i intended on just showing up, grabbing the camera and leaving but he begged me to stay and of course i had to. duh.

    i guess i worried for nothing.

    we are getting together tomorrow night again. he texted me that night after we hung out saying what a great time he had.

    so….its basically going exactly how i want it to be going…

    nice, casual relationship. us scorpios just need to not take the Aqua guys’ distancing so seriously. it has NOTHING to do with us!

    its so weird how through ALL of this, i never ONCE made the initial contact. (some people should read this before saying something like “stop chasing him, you look desperate!” *ehem-tootsie*)
    but oneword and rutu, you guys read my posts thoroughly and knew i never chased him. i probably would have eventually but this board kept me sane. lol

    he emails me at least twice a week(and has been for 2 mos). its hard to let the guy go when he wont let ME go, ya know.

    but i like how its going now….i think we are gonna be friends (or more) for a long time…..our chemistry is INSANE and we have such a great bond. we never run out of stuff to talk about. the bartender thought we were together!

    anyway…..now it’ll be interesting to see how things go with this fellow scorpio guy! im not interested in getting serious (as i just got out of a draining 3 yr relationship/engagement) but im willing to see where it goes!

    exciting!


  283. @ jim

    your post was interesting…

    especially because i cant see what youre complaining about!

    it seems like she is interested but doesnt think you are!

    stop ignoring her texts and sending her calls to voicemail…

    she’ll come around. TRUST ME.

    any other scorp girls agree???


  284. BrightStarLights,

    I read somewhere up in this thread that you can do personal compatibility readings? is that true? If so, I’d love one.


  285. Thanks Rose. I saw her last night for the first time in about two weeks. We were going to meet for lunch, but plans fell through. Then we were going to meet for a drink after she got off work, which she changed to “if you want, come meet me at v bar. I’ll be with the people I work with.” Not exactly what I had in mind, but I made an appearance. Threw her for a loop when I showed up with one of my best female friends. Stayed for one drink then left. I think we’re done. The 20 mins I talked to her were fun and lively though. We flirted some, but it’s not like it was before. Two weeks ago we were all over each other. Now it’s just a kiss on the cheek if you know what I mean. What’s really funny is that I went to a VIP party for a film studio in town and saw one of her best friends all over the other guy I think she’s seeing. That’s Karma for ya.

    Anyway… like a typical Aqua I’m keeping my options open. I had been set on giving her the “friends” speech last night, but decided instead to keep things open and play it cool. I’m not going to go out of my way to call, but I’ll take her calls and answer her texts if she sends them. Her daughter is with her dad for the next week so if she’s still interested she’ll come around. If not, I already have other things lined up. Why waste my time on someone who doesn’t want to really be with me when all these other women do?


  286. @ jim

    i think that’s the best way to handle it, even if they are seeing someone else.

    i think you have hope with this girl, but its great that youre not putting all your eggs in one basket. im sure she likes you. i can tell. scorpios are pretty straightforward. you would KNOW if she didnt like you. she probably is just trying to play it cool as to avoid being hurt. just keep in mind not to play games…which i dont think you are, per say….but you were starting to learn toward it, in my opinion.

    im playing it the same way. not going out of my way for him, but its obvious he still likes me despite seeing this other girl. he seems to be very keen on being my best friend haha. so ive been playing it cool, letting him do all the texting and emailing….not ignoring him but not going all out either. hes a great friend, if anything. id hate to lose him altogether. im trying out this new guy who is a scorpio. which is hilarious. i bet the aquarius will be trying to get with me as soon as his thing with this girl boils over. let’s just hope im available!


  287. on July 13, 2008 at 6:28 pm | Reply brightstarlights

    HI Rose,
    Yes, I do private readings. You can email me at brightstarlights@gmail and we can discuss it. Have a great day.
    Aurora


  288. @ Rose

    At this point she’s gone pretty cold. I think it’s safe to say it’s over and I’ve moved on. I’m not calling, and she’s not either. The only strange this is that last night we were both downtown. I knew where she was, I’m fairly sure she knew were I was. I saw her group of friends come into the bar I was at and “case” the place three times, each time about 30 minutes apart. These people never go to this place. It’s not their scene at all. She was in the swanky disco across the street, which is their scene. May have nothing to do with me at all, but I just found it really odd.

    Anyway… there’s this other scorp girl that I’ll be visiting in about three weeks. Maybe I’ll have a new story at that point. ;)


  289. Jim,

    Well you know the situation best and if she’s gone cold, just let her be. Chasing is the worst thing you can do. That’s always my motto. “Let it be”.

    It’s likely they will come back if you do that. But then again, in my current situation, this guy wont leave ME alone so i can move on and get over him! go figure.

    Hang in there and just enjoy your life. Don’t try to ALWAYS be involved with someone. Take time for yourself.


  290. What went wrong … Wonder where all the other active peeps at?? Guess they’ve moved on to a more interesting thread! Unfortunately this Ones lost its fire.


  291. Well at least I am still here Toostie..
    And happy to see new posts and happy to see Rose answer them.


  292. AND ROSE DIDN’T BORE ME ATLEAST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


  293. wow. you too, rutu?


  294. what makes you think you guys are so “UN-boring”?


  295. making posts like that and causing tension is exactly what made this thread lose its fire, not my posts. The thread is about Scorpio women and Aquarius Men. That’s what I would post about.

    It definitely was more interesting when OTHER people would post, instead of just me.


  296. Rose, honey, Rutu was supporting you.

    (I think you’re being a bit delusional, needy, and insecure with your Aquarius which is why I’m not responding to that meeting at all. Talk about going from one extreme to the other. You say one thing and do the complete opposite. But you do you.)


  297. waiiiit a minute…synthia, perhaps you didnt really read my posts thoroughly. (i dont blame you, they were long).

    you have to understand that it is really hard to grasp someone’s situation from postings on a thread. you dont know the person, and its easy to misunderstand. of course i was insecure. arent we all? but if you really knew the situation you would know that i was NEVER EVER needy with him, nor am i with anyone. i am NEVER in relationships because i am one of those independent people that cant be tied down. my aquarius was basically my best friend for a about a year or so…HE pursued ME and when i finally decided i might like him, it was obviously too late… thats it in a nutshell. i didnt realize how much i felt for him til it was too late.

    and thats why he and i still are, friends. its disappointing but id rather have him as what we were than nothing. and ever since our last meeting, hes contacted me every single day.

    where did you get DELUSIONAL and going from one extreme to the other? do you know me or my situation? no?

    you mean to tell me YOU, yourself, were not NEEDY, AND DELUSIONAL in your situation with an Aqua?

    and WHY can EVERYONE ELSE post similar stories and not get judged like you are judging me?

    honestly, i came here for what i thought was some AWESOME insight on aquarius/scorpio relationships and i thought it was FUN.

    i feel like you guys are taking it all WAY too seriously. let’s try to have fun and stop judging each other…

    I dont mean to sound like i am retaliating and being spiteful, but seriously? COME ON! you guys are way too damn serious about this! Let’s just all try to get along and post some more stories and insights. i feel like i have tons more to share, but im now afraid to! it shouldnt be like this!


  298. Rose, don’t be afraid to post more.
    I think your openness is really refreshing.

    Anything I say to you is out of love for the Scorpio sisterhood. I just want you to be strong and strategize from a position of strength not weakness.
    That what I strive to do.

    And I want you to be in touch with your true intentions and how you’re playing out those intentions — and not bluff.


  299. (Zzzz. LOL.) More like YOU take things seriously…look at how you’ve totally misunderstood Rutu & Synthia’s post, talk about defensive! CHILL OUT punk:D


  300. tootsie,

    well, how would you feel if you were me? seriously. i just bothers me when i am misunderstood. jeez tootsie, you remind me of a 13 yr old girl on a playground, bullying people. how old are you anyway? not much older, i assume. dont take it the wrong way, im just trying to guess based on how you compose yourself via text, that’s all.

    i am very chilled out. i was really having a great time posting on here until the “bullying” started. thats negative behavior to me. i dont know, just my opinion.

    and synthia,

    i can tell you are more mature and are just trying to look out for fellow scorpios. i appreciate that. but honestly, can you blame me for feeling slighted? you really didnt know my situation and immediately did what ALL women do to other WOMEN. the typical “hes not that into you! move on honey! you can do better!” ALL of us women, myself included, tend to do this. i really do feel like you did not know my situation well enough, and just jumped straight to that conclusion. and i cant blame you for that either. i mean please, its a message board. :)
    this is not an advice message board. its here so we can understand WHY we do the things we do and why we are attracted to such sun signs that are so CRAZY : )
    I love to learn about why and how the aquarian male mind works. not to be judged. im sure you understand.

    ANYWAY, its my last day off before my new gig and apparently there is a stabber lose in my neighborhood. hah. (seriously)
    i plan to stay in all day. let’s get some new insights up here!

    Where is onewordspoken? did he get angry? i cant remember. i loved his insights…

    anyway, synthia, in case you did want to know the outcome. i couldnt just grab the camera and leave. haha. i KNOW you are disappointed that i did not listen to your advice, NOR MY OWN
    : ) we stayed and talked for 3 hours!! he wouldnt let me leave. he said he loves talking to me!! This made me laugh, thinking about the cosmic connection that we all speak of on this thread.

    he basically told me that he knows he has a deep-rooted problem where he needs to be in a relationship at all times. he even admitted to never EVER loving anyone he ever dated! crazy, right? he says he is very cold and doesnt know how things will turn out with this girl.he doesnt feel capable of loving. he even told me this once a long time ago, when he was with his ex, but needed to stay for comfort. he did not want to take me on that ride and ruin the awesome friendship we had, especially when he is at a time in his life when he is pretty much positive that he cannot sustain a relationship. so we are back to being best friends, and im fine with that. i just needed to hear him say that i guess? i am big on closure. haha. and it worked. we are actually going to get together this weekend. its weird how my feelings for him just went away. anyone ever do this?????

    Are Aquarian males also prone to this type of relationship pattern??

    Oneword, WHERE ARE YOU, MAN???? someone post some stories!!!! not “ZZZZZZZZZZLOL OMG LYKE TOTALLY”. THOSE are boring. hahah.


  301. You. Are. Boring. Get. Over. It. You amuse me with your “stories” lol…ANYWAYZ!!


  302. see what I mean?


  303. Synthia, what’s been going on with your Aqua guy? wasnt the one you were involved with dating someone else? What came of that?


  304. DEAR ROSE!!!
    I AM AND HAVE ALWAYS BEEN SUPPORTING YOU………
    What did you read in my post..
    I was SHOCKED at your reaction…..
    I have totally LOVED giving you insight and suggestions and you kept this thread going or it would have stagnated otherwise….
    I don’t understand whats going on with Tootsie….
    Tootsie, PLEASE stop whatever you have against Rose. Let’s just go back where we were before all this started…
    AND ROSE I AM ON YOUR SIDE, PLEASE READ MY POST AGAIN.
    Take care. Bye.


  305. Rose,
    Aquas feel very comfertable with friendship tag. It’s relaxing because it doesnt make heavy emotional demands like a relationship does. I believe an aqua can truely love someone only when he thinks that person really understands him. when he can talk freely to that person and thus friendship is frist and important step before falling in love. I guess he wasnt really that good friends with his ex.
    Ok. looking forward to your posts ROSE.
    But your reaction to my post left me speechless……


  306. hahaha hey Rutu,

    You said ” and Rose didnt bore me!”
    and i thought, “oh, i bore you too??”

    good to see you back. what’s been going on with you? any scorp girls giving you problems?

    I have always read that friendships are very important to Aquas. I noticed he deems his friends VERY important. And no, he was never friends with any of his girlfriends first. Every single one of his relationships overlapped each other since he was 17. He said that this one was actually the first one that didnt. he had ONE WEEK in between where he was actually single. hahahah.

    so yea, he’s got lots of issues…..which is fine. he acknowledges them.

    did you read the post where i said i was into a scorpio guy now??? hahaha GO FIGURE.

    i still love this thread.


  307. Rose, I can relate to your Aqua. I was this way for years. I don’t seem to be like that anymore, especially now that I’ve forced myself to stay single for more than 4 months. I definitely was in that pattern for a long time though. Never truly loved anyone I was with, but wanted to keep a relationship, didn’t want to be alone, but still wanted my space. I also went through a phase of pushing everyone who was ever close to me almost completely out of my life. I got some kind of weird satisfaction from that somehow. Thankfully I’ve really changed and haven’t pushed anyone really away in years. I never really equated that with being aquarius. Always thought it had more to do with the way I was raised as a child, but I could be wrong after seeing some of the things you’ve said.


  308. Hey Rose!
    I was sure you must have read my statement wrong. Never mind. And I read your all posts irrespective of how long they might be. I find them interesting as I can see how a scorpio girl thinks. I have read that post of yours where you said you are in a scorpio now. Well let’s see how things move further. I don’t want to make any statements and already biase you.
    And I guess some have got this impression of yours that you being desperate, which i definitaly don’t agree with. I thought the situation was like you were wondering why this person is not keeping his words. Like few days back he was waiting to be single and now when he is finally single he is not behaving the way he said he will. So it was curiosity on your part. And if at all you were desperate, you were desperate to find why is he behaving the way he is. not desperate after him.
    I somewhat agreed with synthia when she said you were swinging between extremes. Like few posts back you were thinking that he is an @$$hole and after meeting him you have wonderful things to say about him and your bond..
    well I guess you were not really angry with him when you called him an @..hole but angry with the way he was behaving. Angry with the fact that he ignored you. Well one thing I know about scorpio women i.e. LOVE THEM OR HATE THEM BUT DO NOT IGNORE THEM…..I guess this was his mistake.
    I really wanted to reply to your previous posts but just wasnt in the mood and now i forgot what i was going to tell you. And even if i don’t post I am still reading ALL your posts.. ESPECIALLY long ones….
    and no scorpio girl is giving me any trouble. I don’t socialise much. I am more into my studies. But my gradmother has come our place and as i have said she is a scorp. She cooks verrrrry well, wakes me up at 6.00am and helps me keep my room clean. And in return i get her favourite movies dvds and music CD’s for her. So no trouble…Bye..


  309. Rutu,

    exactly,
    i can totally see how i could be misinterpreted as “desperate”. I let off all my steam on these posts as to not come off as crazy to him…hah. i dont give a s***t if I’m not dating anyone. I’d rather not be, to be quite honest with you. I rarely find myself into someone, as I am more of a loner. You hit the nail on the head. ANYONE would get upset and angry if they were in this position.
    And as to why i would go from one extreme to another….
    He was my FRIEND to begin with. It’s hard not to get all soft on your friend once you see them. I know I should have stood my ground, but halfway through our meeting, I felt I got the closure I needed. If I knew I couldnt handle having a casual friendship with him, I would have cut him off cold turkey. He fascinates me. I fascinate him. Hence what this thread is about!

    That’s funny about your grandmother. She sounds like a wonderful woman. Is she Italian by any chance?

    I wish waking up at 6:00 am was a Scorpio thing! If I don’t have to work at 9 am, you’re lucky to get me out of bed before noon!!! hahah.


  310. oh and rutu,

    i took your post as to mean, “and rose actually didnt bore me for once!”

    but i get what you mean……haha


  311. Rose…..
    you are the person who has opened up so much on this thread. You really discussed your situation and we tried to understand it and find a way out. Others like Marion, K, Synthia havn’t really opened up. So I guess you are the first person who really made the right use of this thread. UNDERSTANDING THIS RELATIONSHIP…

    And i am all ears for what more you may want to share.

    And my grandmom isn’t Italian. I am Indian. She wakes me up at 6.00am, makes sure that i wake up and then she goes back to sleep and wakes up at 7.00am. All right.


  312. Rose Synthia
    I have found this site its about aqua men. There is this wonderful woman named Becky she has written this article on aqua men based on her exprience. She is a Gemini. Her bf is an aqua and her ex too was an aqua and her daughter is an aqua too. I liked her article and the comments. I did put few comments there and actually had a showdown other other fellow. Anyway. its a good site so go check it out. Giving you the link. http://www.love-astrology.com/astrology/men/aquarius-men/#comment-1101


  313. Aurora
    Would you mind if i advertise this site. I have given link to Becky. Wish she visits us.


  314. on July 18, 2008 at 9:15 am | Reply brightstarlights

    hi rutu,
    maybe you can email me and tell me more about this. thanks x
    aurora

    brightstarlights@gmail.com


  315. woahh!!!…looks like m being missed….no new stories so things r gettin hotter here…dont worry m here now with my story…hope that will divert everybody’s mind…m sorry fr nt keeping in touch with this thread….so last time when i was writing i had this problem with my aqua guy as at times he used to be completely lost somehwere…that means no calls no text messaging…(meetings are not possible as it is a long distance relationship)…and i ws getting pretty irrittaed by this behaviour…so then as advised by rutu i had to tell him this in a subtle manner…and being a scorpio woman i dont think i cn rather any scorpio gal cannot ever tell a guy y he ws nt keepin in touch in a subtle manner…so i thought abt it and i thought of sending my guy a text msg…which said “busy busy?”…and believe it or not tht worked…even if tht text msg sound stupid but it worked and since then he has been calling me on his own….also to my surprise he himself started talking about meeting..(like we discussed few months back that we will meet but since his MBA is starting we could not)…but this time unfortunately i can not make it but hopefully we will meet soon…..and he is keepin in touch too…calls pretty often…:)…i reallly hopes that this keeps on working like this…thx rutu..:)


  316. Hi mini!!
    Really you came at the right time. Thanks…
    And feels good that things are going good in your case. I actually was wondering why didn’t you put your post to tell what happend… But you did come at the right time. Take care. see you soon.


  317. Hey Rutu,

    I know I completely lost touch…had been really busy+lazy…will not repeat that in future though…:)…and i hope that even I would be able to help someone out by my experience…and this thread rocks n so does the contributors…so guys cheer up and lets have a healthy discussion….


  318. there is not an aquarius guy that is worthy of a scorpio woman


  319. Marion……..

    What happened. You just don’t discuss things here the way others do. like Rose, mini.. What happened. make use of this thread. just describe the situation you are in. may be we can help in some way.
    Waiting for your reply.


  320. Marion —
    I’m gonna have to agree with you on that.

    It’s amazing what a little time and familiarity can breed.

    (Plus, I think his Neptune in Scorp cast a spell on me :-) which is now breaking)

    So, here’s what I”m realizing:

    1. Aquas are just too silly after a while. As a Scorp with Cap rising, I equate seriousness with maturity. I don’t have time for all these amusements and attempts at being clever, witty and funny. Please. Spare me.

    2. They love everything equally. OK. The Aqua I’m getting close to says “wow” at just about every discovery — even mundane ones. It is starting to make me secretly loathe him and discount his judgement.

    I used to relish that he found my philosophical insights amazing …. now, I see he would find some idiot’s insights similarly worthy of the wow factor. Are you kidding me? Scorpios can distinguish between greatness and idiocy. Everything is not “wow” to us. We do not praise all things likewise. You know why? IT CHEAPENS LIFE! You have to distinguish, be critical, judgmental. It’s OK if the world at large doesn’t like you because of it. I have extreme likes and dislikes.

    But he admonishes “don’t be elitist” “don’t say that” WTF? I will be elitist if I want to! :0)

    3. Having been with a Leo prior…think the strong presence of Arnold Schwarzaneggar and Lawrence Fishbourne… I will have to delicately say the masculinity of the Aqua cannot measure up to the manhood of a Leo.

    And in some ways, all the jokes make them even more like little boys. As a highly sensual Scorp with lots of Sag fire… um, I’m just not into the the boyishness. Will tangling with me make him more of man? Absolutely. But then …If I create him … will I still want him. (no).

    4. Where’s the brilliance? It’s typically one layer deep. And as a Scorp with Sag stellium who mines thoughts down to their deepest core … this is like discovering the Emperor has no clothes. Yes, they are smart and have a quirky intelligence …but they can only take an abstract conversation so far before they get lost and lose the logical thread. The fact that they have so much energy and need to move on the next thought doesn’t really give them the staying power to really distill concepts. It’s so obvious — well, to me since I’m really philosophical — and will run circles around him if necessary.

    I’m too smart and mature for this B.S. Getting bored …


  321. My new favorte Scorpio pairing is Leo-Scorpio.

    Arnold & Maria
    Bill & Hillary


  322. WOW
    Bill and Hill. What a pair…..
    Must be very happy together….
    Bill having countless afairs outside his marriage and Hillary not far behind him. with her latest being Hot Hot Huma Abedin..(her closest aid) Why wouldn’t be anyone happy in such a marriage…
    Looklike soulmates to me….


  323. I’ve heard rumors that Arnie has strayed as well.

    But POWER COUPLES like these don’t break up over annoyances like sex outside of marriage.

    Marriage ideally for this Scorpio is more than sex. IT is a meeting of the minds, of two independent powers, it is a clash of wills that breaks you and heals you simulatneaously.

    You can’t get that with just anyone, but I think Leos & Scorps can achieve that. And no tryst can take it away. That’s why Hillary and Bill are still together. And why Arnold and Maria are.

    Bill would never leave HIllary because any other woman, no matter how sexy, would simply be LESS.

    Yes, soulmates. I would agree.

    P.S. For all we know they have an “understanding” about extramarital sex …like Will and Jada…


  324. hey guys!
    been so busy but i thought id check up on everyone! just started a new freelance gig after 2 mos of working from home. Welcome back stress! : )

    funny you mention Scorpio/Leo, Synthia. My ex-fiance was a Leo!
    We got along VERY well. We never faught, and had good understanding and trust, but there was NO passion. NONE. I kept it going way longer than it should have. I found him BORING, to be honest.

    Still talk to the Aqua guy here and there. Havent seen each other since that night though. He’s very enthusiastic about our friendship and it’s going well. So basically he knows he cant have security with me like he can have with this girl. She’s homely looking and overweight but he says they “click”. And we dont click??? hahah! riiiiiiight. he agrees we click as well and have amazing chemistry, has expressed how attracted he is to me, and is still with her. Makes no sense to me…still. I mean, it does because i made it VERY blatantly and obnoxiously clear i wanted to be a free woman and be single, and he obviously needed someone to cling to….plus we still worked together when he met the other girl….we def. couldnt do anything major while we worked together(major company no-no) it makes sense, but i guess the superficial and shallow side of me thinks “well now that he knows i would date him and am upset he is with someone else, why wont he dump her???” *Whine*

    anyway. i have more on the Leo/Aque comparisons…be back!


  325. Really? I almost married a Leo — and ALL we had was passion! We didn’t have the intellectual chemistry that I have with an Aqua but we both were passionate and anyone around us could feel the energy we created when we were together.

    The thing I liked most about him was his masculinity and natural leadership. I defy all authority and establishments and was way too rebellious when I met him …but he walked into my life, put me under his wing/command and spontaneously created an atmosphere of order and safety for me. I didn’t think anyone could counter a Scorpio’s rebellion — but a Leo can…he will put you in his charge in such a warm, loving — yet firm and commanding –way that you just cherish him.

    And the intimacy was Hot. Hot. Hot.

    Our Scorpio and Leo natures meant we both brought lots of ego and bravado and a sense of drama to the relationship. So, it was always challenging and edgy.

    I wonder what else was in your Leo chart to make him so boring? My Leo is low-key (like a Lio lazing in the jungle) but not boring, per se. I can see how others would interpret that as boring though. But they are loyal!

    I haven’t given up on Aquas…I’m just saying I’ve tempered my view of them…

    P.S. On your situation…Rose…I still think you should pull back, definitely don’t pursue him & don’t display so much unconditional interest. You’ve basically let him know the ball in his court and that he can have you no question. Not a good look and definitely not a good romantic strategy, my fellow Scorp. Stop that. Embrace your natural strong, self-sufficient air. I’m willing to bet this “homely” girl he’s with is more of a challenge for him. Am I right?

    By the way, Aquas seem totally open to unconventional looks. They don’t buy in to society’s one mold for beauty. I think that’s pretty amazing.


  326. hey synthia,

    i find that really interesting about your Leo experience. i also wonder what else were in both our charts. i suppose, first of all, that i am ALMOST on the cusp of Libra. Oct 29th. does that matter? His birthday is August 21st so that is TOTALLY on the Virgo cusp. i bet that has a lot to do with that. i really dont know much about astrology. i just love learning about it though! i feel like you are pretty knowledgeable on the topic. let me know what you think! im curious.

    BTW the Aqua guy’s bday leans more toward pisces too. Feb 15th. am i right? these details MUST matter. or dont they?

    as far as that dude. the aqua.
    i have pulled back. in fact, i think i have always BEEN pulled back and that was my problem. he basically TOLD me that the reason he didnt date me was because we worked together and he said “i thought you said you wanted to be single! i thought you were anti-relationship!” so theres my answer. but i felt like saying “DUH i thought thats what you wanted to hear! i thought guys hated clingy girls!” i guess i played TOO hard to get and it backfired.

    i can definitely tell you for a FACT that the clinginess/challenge aspect was not an issue in this situation. i probably sounded like the clingiest chick in the world with my posts. but youd be surprised by my actions. i used this thread to let off steam. i never ONCE told him i wanted to date him. i never ONCE chased him. I barely EVER called him. he made most of the advances. if anything. i was the one that was a challenge. this other girl is NOT, from what i hear. and he likes that. he seems like he likes needy girls. it makes him feel special. me-i was too free-spirited for him and he knew he could not have stability with me because i did not want to be tied down. he DID want to be tied down. he CRAVES it. he always needs to be in a relationship- afraid to be alone. he’s told me this in the past and wishes he wasnt like this and that he cant help it. so the only time i was even slightly forward was the day he told me he was seeing a girl and i confessed to being disappointed ….even though i said i didnt want to date anyone seriously, i woulda definitely dated him, proven we moved SLOOOOWLY. which he cannot do. he is a whirlwind romance/rebounding KING. lol.
    so im cool with our friendship now. i never contact him, its always him. and its always been like that. its that Scorpio/Aqua magnetism, i tell ya! cant keep away!

    im really interested in learning more about the cusp-ers and other aspects in people’s charts playing a role.

    like i said, i dont know ANYTHING about that. enlighten me!
    : )


  327. Oh. Don’t do that again! :-)
    If you like him and want him to be exclusively yours never betray your desires by claiming you want to be single and don’t want a relationship.

    I almost made that mistake with my Aqua but I caught myself. I thought out calling him “buddy” or “friend” and really trying to create this platonic vibe so that he’d feel less suspect :-) (with him being attached and all).

    But then I thought …that’s insincere and would work against my ultimate goal — to steal him! (sorry :-( )
    So, I make an effort never to define circumstances in such a way that it would work against me should anything change.

    I make sure I subtly keep all options open …but I don’t desperately go after anything …I’m just watching, laying groundwork, calibrating strategy, and trying to captivate him cerebrally. That’s bringing us closer and closer together.

    But as I said above … growing closer is bringing out some traits that might make this bond less desirable that one with a Leo.

    Anyway, about the cusps — There are two schools of thought. One that believes you are one or the other period no matter how close you are to the demarcation line. Then, the other school of thought that believes you exhibit characteristics of both signs.

    Oct. 29 is NOT near the cusp. You are a Scorpio! Don’t try to go AWOL, girlie! :-)

    Your Aqua guy isn’t on the cusp either.

    Your Leo WAS on the cusp, so sure, he could have exhibited some Virgo traits. So, if he seemed shyer or more introverted/undemonstrative than a Leo would that could be the Virgo energy. I do think you should study the other planets and aspects of his chart, though. And I have personally gotten along well with Virgos although the bond is yes, very low-energy.

    I’ve learned TONS about myself and others by studying beyond the sun sign. Jump in !


  328. synthia,

    do you know a lot about moon signs, rising signs, etc???
    i wonder if you could give some info on that. i know that you need to know the person’s time of birth for rising signs, right?

    i wish i knew the aqua dude’s birth time. hell, i didnt even know my Leo’s birth time either, and we dated for 3 years.

    i do know dates and places of birth, though.
    and i can tell you all of my info, obvi :)


  329. Hey Rose,

    If you Google you can find tons of stuff on Moon signs (emotions) and Rising signs (our external behavior/style we use to navigate the world).

    Yes, you need the time of birth to find rising signs (ascendants) and houses.

    Rather than tell me, I think you should go to Astro.com and use their free services to make your chart (I’d love to see it though!). And then practice studying it on your own.

    I have grown so much this year by studying my chart. I learn something new every month. For example, in July I was astounded to discover that a lot of the chaos and instability in my life is related, not just to my Sag stellium, but to my having no Earth planets in my chart — no Earth or grounding planets except for my Ascendant.

    Learning that empowered me…now I’m consciously making more ties between my air and water (mind/emotions) and my absent Earth (concrete reality/atmosphere/environment/body).

    This is stabilizing me already and I know it will help me use my talents to be more accomplished. Before, I couldn’t understand why my talents seemed to not lead me anywhere.

    This is beyond what you’ll discover as a beginner. But I’m just saying no one had pointed out to me the absence of Earth (although I learned a lot of other great stuff from people)….sometimes you have to let yourself be drawn to the key info on your chart.

    There is no knowledge like the self-discovered kind.

    If you do make your chart, post a link here so we can all take a gander and give some casual feedback…


  330. Oops. I meant to say “no earth or grounding FORCES” except for my Ascendant.

    Not planets, FORCES.

    (obviously the ASC is not a planet …hence my dilemma! :-) )


  331. anyone do photo analyzing by any chance? haha

    my friend just found a picture of me and the aqua guy and i think it is hilarious because it looks like he is in love with me. my friends and i were cracking up b/c i look like i dont give a s**t and he is looking at me longingly.

    funny stuff.

    on another note, where did Rutu go????


  332. Howdy!
    I am an Aquarius man who is with a Scorpio. Alabama born and raised. I am a believer in astrology in certain broad aspects. I choose to just take the information as a whole, big picture instead of set in stone cause your raising and environment play a big role in how you act. I must say that the chaos ya’ll were refering to for us Aquas is true. We’re all the time worried about others and seldom take time for ourselves and our own problems. When we’re alone it catches up to us and its soley depressing sometimes.

    My rising is in Aries and my moon is in Sagittarius (if that helps ya’ll out any). I find Scorpios to be incredible! She keeps me interested. I am forever probing and experimenting. She seems to be a great balance for me. Aquas are bad about being in the clouds all the time and Scorpios can reel us back down to Earth. She is focused and knows what she wants which is an A+! I hate indecisiviness, especially in a relationship. I believe to go and get what you want and I respect people who do the same. I also know what you mean about getting jealous in a sense. We were at a party the other day and her ex was there. They walked outside to talk. It drove me crazy. I’m just to curious. It’s not really a jealously thing though cause I trust her. By the way, trust is also like one of the big issues for Aquas. I don’t associate with people I know I can’t trust. Who needs that right?

    I noticed the electricity as well. I can stand close to her and I feel her. Also it seems even if we are on opposites sides of the room, sooner or later we will get close (like a magnet). The chemistry in bed is wonderful as well.

    I also noticed that Scorpio is almost as probing as us Aquas. She wants to know what makes me tick in a similiar but not all the same way I want to figure her out. Their emotions are deep. Which makes me want to explore their depths. Remember, we are the detectives of astrology.

    Coming together was the hardest part. We are both stubborn. Also we are long time friends. I have to know that the other person is interested before I make a move. I’m not scared of being turned down but if they aren’t interested then I could turn a friendship very awkard, ya know? Once I was sure though, it was over. I respect a woman that is a woman and wants me to be the man. Sorry for all the feminists but a manly woman is not attractive to me at all. I want to knwo she can take care of herself and can make her own decisions but I don’t expect her to be forceful.

    Anyway, hope that was enlightening.

    Later
    Ish


  333. Hi Ish!

    that was very enlightening! interesting about how you say you dont like manly women. the aqua guy i am friends with(but have a crush on) seems to like manly-looking women who wear the pants in the relationship. i wonder what thats all about????

    also, does a women who is aggressive , as in hits on you and tells you she is interested in you, turn you off? just curious.

    the aqua guy i am crushing on says he is attracted to me and loves talking to me, we have great chemistry and he seems to be completely fascinated and intrigued by me, but he wont date me. go figure. instead he seems to have a “type”. unattractive, slightly overweight girls who seem to have a matronly look to them. homely. not ugly. not fat, but have the same “look”. friends of mine seem to think i dont fit the mold of his “type”. what do you think about that? i suppose this is not geared toward astrological sign but more bout how he was raised and maybe issues he struggled with because of a broken family and issues with his parents. who knows….


  334. Hi y´all! after reading many of these fascinating stories, i thought i´d share mine -> just like Jim, i´m also an aqua male totally puzzled by the behaviour of this scorpio girl i´ve known for almost a year now..
    I met her at my previous part time job and instantly fell for her, sensing a very powerful energy gravitating towards me..I approached her smoothly, invited her out a couple of times and we finally hooked up one night at my place, but without sex..after that i thought we were on the right track, only to find days later, after some distancing of her part, that, in her own words, she got confused and could only relate to me as a friend..
    I tried to look on the bright side of things, accepting her explanation as some sort of closure but something just didn´t add up..maybe she got interested in another guy in the meantime?
    Fast forwarding a few months, we developed an increasingly stronger friendship and, after moving on to other flirts, all those feelings i had for her when we first met, suddenly came back more intense than ever, culminating in a spectacular night of sex just a week ago..She told me very boldly that she didn´t want any commitments and nights like that could happen again if we treated each other solely as sex buddies..she also told me she really really admired me as person and didn´t want to lose my friendship at all because of this..
    But as a sensitive soul I´ve always been, and as someone who´s been single for almost three years, i tend to suffer with these kind of situations ´cause i want so much more!! Considering i also admire and respect her very much for her strong and mysterious scorpio personality, i´ll let things flow now, ´cause it really is better to have intimacy with someone i so kindly cherish than not have anyone at all..
    We´ve been texting each other since our wild sexual encounter, and i definitely feel she is much warmer this time around..
    So my question for all u scorpio ladies reading this is -> how and what should i do to try and make this a serious relationship? is there any hope in that? or is she just so in love with her single status that she doesn´t want to commit to anyone, even if the attraction is so powerful on many levels?
    Sorry for the long text but i really needed to belt this out..scorpios drive me mad lol..but i love it!


  335. Sometimes I get freaked out by closeness because the emotion is so strong and I’m scared it won’t last…so investing in it is scary and potentially self-destructive.

    I will defintely go AWOL on a guy a love for weeks — it’s not that I don’t cherish him, it’s that I cherish him too much and don’t want to risk getting to attached over something that might disintegrate.

    So, Don’t push …but every now and then drop hints that “I’ll always be here for you” “I’ll never betray you or harm” “You can always trust me to look out for you”…”you are precious to me” etc.

    Be subtle about it. Don’t overdo it. Believe she’s pick up on it and will grow more secure and open and begin to attach.

    Make sure to let her know you value her uniqueness and intelligence and power …and hope she will value you enough to one day be exclusive.

    That would totally –overtime– break down my walls (but you might have to get engaged after that :-) !)


  336. i think i found one


  337. Thanks a lot for your advices Synthia! subtlety really is the key i guess…
    I had a very beautiful day on the beach with her yesterday, just the two of us, and as usual i got carried away by her magnetic power and ended up caressing her most of the time, after a kiss or two..so much for being subtle :\
    the thing is, most of the times she doesn´t caress me back, it´s always me who takes the initiative, as if she´s afraid of getting too attached or is simply testing me..i really don´t know..
    i´m so afraid i might ruin everything..damn, it´s such a powerful attraction i´m feeling!
    I already texted her and apologized for my “excessive” behavior of kissing, hugging, etc, i told her i had to control myself even more from now on..oh well, i´ll just let things flow without bugging her too much and hope for the best!


  338. You’re the man, you can handle taking the initiative consistently. What is it about being the hunter that you don’t understand? :-) J/k!

    As a Scorpio, I love attention and affection — and I don’t accept it from guys I don’t like.

    So, unless she recoiled, she liked it too.
    Believe me, a Scorpio won’t let a man touch her body if she doesn’t like it. She’ll sooner rip your arm off or tongue-lash you so severely you’ll cry.

    When I say be subtle … I mean in your verbal declarations for a committed romance. Physically, if she’s willing to have you as a sex buddy, she’s not unnerved by the escalating the physical part of the relationship …it’s the emotional bond you have to be smooth and careful about forging. But do it, move forward gently with that!

    OMG. You apologized! WEAK MOVE! Don’t lose your bravado. Scorpios like bold and strong men secure enough to put themselves out there and brandish affection securlely without the need for it to be returned.

    Inside, she could have been quaking in enjoyment.
    We keep our exteriors very controlled, like we’re bluffing in a card game, in circumstances we’re still sizing up.
    Watch over her, love her, follow your instincts toward her and let her, even if she has to do it passively, build up trust.

    You’re not bugging her! Calm down. You’re coming undone. Get your swagger back. Scorpios like a healthy swagger, especially if you can merge it with a truly nice and sincere heart.

    So be a great guy, be confident, be protective and loving and give it time.


  339. Hey Rick,

    I thought you were an Aquarius, why are you being so attentive?? haha j/k I think it is wonderful that you are being the way you are. I agree wholeheartedly with Synthia, especially that Scorpio women love affection but ONLY from a guy she likes. I am very much this way. I CRINGE at affection and attention mostly, unless it is from someone I am totally crushing on. Did she seem jumpy at all whenever you touched her? If not then it doesn’t seem to me like you have a problem.

    Even the fact that you apologized later on; yes I cringed a bit when I read that but then I tried to put myself in the situation. As with the touching thing, I must say that even that would not turn me off. When I like a guy, they can pretty much do anything and it would be “cute”. I do agree with Synthia in that you should probably cut back on something like that in the future; anything showing insecurity, you know? Scorpios like men who are sure of themselves, not cocky, but confident.

    I admit, as a Scorpio, I love a challenge. Not games. But just someone who doesn’t make me his whole life, someone who has other things going on and doesnt NEED me to make him happy. This is because I am the type of person who could fend for myself and has never been dependent or clingy. I want a guy who can be the same way as I am. I see some of my girlfriends who are like that and I just do not understand. funny enough, they are always the ones who get guys without even trying. go figure! : ) im learning little by little that guys do seem to like clingy, needy girls, no matter how much they bluff!

    Anyway, it sounds like you are right in the middle of an awesome situation with this Scorpio girl. Don’t worry so much about ruining it! We are always here to help with any questions, but relax and enjoy it!! : )


  340. hmmm…very very interesting insight you two girls have given me! thank u! :)
    i must say, just to clear things up, that the apologizing move came inbetween other stuff in the text message, namely saying to her that i truly adored the day on the beach and that she could count on me for other sunny days on the beach and everything else she might need! so i think it came across kinda subtle..
    anyway, it´s not the first crush i have on a scorpio girl, it seems like the universe keeps pushing me to seriously get connected to a scorpio, weird huh? two distinctively different signs and yet so magnetically attracted..
    I love girls who challenge me, i´m definitely not into the easy going, needy ones and but scorpios..omg..they can be so intriguing and mysterious to the point of making me wish she was just a little tiny bit more accessible lol..
    hope i didn´t blow it by appearing not too confident in that small apologizing move but i like her so so much that i easily get too desperate to please her!
    I think u understand me, i´ve always been very sensitive and this time it´s no exception, but i´ll really really try to lift my ego up high and show some aquarian “arrogance” lol..i´ll let u know of the developments!


  341. on August 10, 2008 at 11:14 am | Reply Firdaus Hashim

    hmmm… i’ve read and re-read the article several times and i agree why am i on such good terms with my scorpio female best friend.

    just out of curiousity, what about aquarius guy with cancer moon and scorpio guy? do they have the kind of ‘connection’ just like an aquarian guy and scorpion girl?


  342. Possibly. There was an aqua guy on here earlier who had a relatonship with a scorp guy.

    But from experience I obviously don’t know.

    Ive also wondered if an aqua girl/scorp guy matchup would be as electric. Not sure.


  343. I would imagine (and have read) that a vice-versa matchup would be pretty intense. However, I feel that taking gender into consideration and the roles each play in a relationship would have to inflict some sort of difference. But then again, does everyone really conform to gender roles as much nowadays? (i.e. who “wears the pants” in the relationship.
    I dunno. Just my two cents.

    I am having lunch with the Aqua friend of mine (his idea). Should be interesting. But maybe now since all the drama has passed, I can study our interactions more….without romance clouding it.


  344. Hey there again!
    Well, the ongoing saga with my gorgeous scorpio friend hasn´t met any significant developments, we still text each other nearly everyday, sometimes it´s me who takes the initiative, sometimes it´s her..she told me yesterday we had to schedule a tennis match lol, something we joked about briefly during our day at the beach so i´m assuming she does want to be with me..
    I´m being patient, as patient can be, without setting the bar too high but i gotta admit this cat and mouse game is driving me kinda nuts sometimes, do you think it´s all normal in the scorpio woman way of handling romance?
    I forgot to add that she has an ascendant in Leo (mine is in Cancer), which makes her an even more powerful woman i guess, who really appreciates being treated as a queen, spoiled by extravagant gifts and delights ;)
    I won´t pressure her at all, i´ll just keep playing my subtle part, but do you honestly think she might be testing me? trying to find out if i´m the right man for her?
    Enlighten me please :P


  345. on August 14, 2008 at 2:48 pm | Reply Firdaus Hashim

    correct me if i’m wrong but wasn’t french president nicolas sarkozy’s ex-wife a scorpio too? not carla bruni but cecila ciganer-albeniz.

    mr sarkozy was so head-over-heels with his ex-wife that he made a declaration that has something to do with his love for her before the french presidential elections. or something like that.

    unfortunately, they still divorced and from what i read, she’s now married to some other guy and he seems happy with carla bruni now.

    speaking of which, is it ridiculous for me to wait for someone for 7 years? i mean, why should i wait for that person despite minimal contact and that i might end up disappointed in the end?

    i guess the strong connection i had with that scorpio guy is too intense for me to forget. he made me feel so different and i’ve never felt so in love with him. =X


  346. Rick,

    I don’t think your situation is as much a cat and mouse game as it is her just having….well, a life. I do not think she’s testing you. It just seems like having a boyfriend is not her #1 priority-nor SHOULD it be. Just bide your time with other things and she will notice. If you don’t, she will sense it and it will turn her off. Not every woman wants to be adored and spoiled. Treat her well when you are with her, but dont be overly gushy. II’m sure things will work out fine if you just relax. It seems as if its on the right track. Dont worry.